Some people say that men don't want to get married anymore, they don't know what they can get in marriage.
The essence of marriage is companionship and responsibility, and both are indispensable. And many men have "self-knowledge" fear that they can't take responsibility, so they are even more reluctant to get married.
What can we say about this type of man? They are indeed a little cowardly, but at the same time, from another point of view, they are also kind.
They are not willing to easily enter a marriage that they cannot be responsible for, rather than like some men who want to use marriage as a springboard to exploit others to achieve their own achievements.
There was a 94-year-old man in the unit, not very old, but full of vicissitudes. He doesn't have a girlfriend and someone wants to introduce him to a girlfriend and ask him what the conditions are.
He is also honest, the appearance of what is passable, the main other party's family conditions, personal ability is good, can help him take shortcuts in the work, can give him appropriate financial assistance.
The sister who introduced him to his girlfriend nodded and said " Fine " , as she tiptoed outward. I looked at it and wanted to laugh, the sister's body language was obviously trying to escape.
We had several colleagues who had seen this male colleague's ex-girlfriend. In appearance, dressed in fashion, and her own style is very compatible, to be honest, it is a very eye-catching one.
Later, someone who had a good relationship with him asked the male colleague. People can also let go, saying that choosing a girlfriend and choosing a wife are two different things, how can the standard be the same.
In other words, it is better to say: whether a man will marry you, from the very beginning of your relationship, he has a number in mind.
The higher the girlfriend's appearance, the better, the family's personal ability is not important, what is important is to be able to get along, to be able to play together.
And what about choosing a wife? Pay more attention to each other's family conditions, personal conditions, in short, in the final analysis, more concerned about material security.
Of course, if the two sides are right, they are naturally happy. However, if you can't reach the average level yourself, but you want to climb high, let others' whole families help themselves, people are a bit unauthentic.
Others as a lifetime of sustenance, want to white head with the old marriage is used by such a man as a tool to "turn over", the affectionate woman after learning the truth does not spew out a mouthful of blood.
It is not a question of how much you have paid and how much you have "lost" material things, but it is about the dignity of a woman.
Women enter marriage mostly by love, while men consider comprehensive factors.
In "North and South", Feng Xi waited for Li Xiang for ten years for love. Not long after Li Xiang went abroad to study, Feng Xi received a notice of breaking up. Sloppy, perfunctory, extremely impatient.
Li Xiang felt that he was about to develop greatly, and Feng Xipu was not worthy of himself at all.
In fact, the fact that Li Xiang did not want to marry Feng Xi was already foreshadowed at the beginning.
Feng Xi wants to use the money he has accumulated to do something with his sisters. Li Xiang said: "What kind of career women toss, you have me enough." ”
He had never thought about Feng Xi fundamentally, he only enjoyed the convenience of his girlfriend taking care of her life, washing and cooking, eating and sleeping with her, but he never planned for the long term of the two people.
Especially when he was about to go abroad, he let the excitement and excitement overwhelm his mind with a remark:
"When I return from Germany, I will buy my parents a big house, the mentor likes to fish, I want to buy her the most expensive fishing rod, and my cousin is not going to go to school in Beijing with his children?" I will fulfill him. And dajun, my friend, he didn't have much of a fuss, I was going to get him to Beijing to drive me, and I was also helping him..."
When Li Xiangquan finished speaking, Feng Xi's expectant eyes became more and more dim, and he asked, "What about me?" Do you have me in your future? He then proposed to let Li Xiang marry her first and then go abroad.
Li Xiang was obviously embarrassed for a moment, and immediately changed the subject and said, "You care what that piece of paper is for?" ”
Of course, the two people are not married, and li Xiang after going abroad is more and more impatient to answer Feng Xi's phone and return Feng Xi's WeChat. Just like in his own life, there has never been a Feng Xi person.
The reason for the breakup was the ridiculous "I don't want to delay you", ten years later, Feng Xi has asked for marriage many times, Li Xiang is mainly to appease and draw a big pie, but now, it really makes people see through his thoughts.
Dr. Li Xiang has a degree, Feng Xi has a higher vocational education, and the family conditions of both people are not good. Feng Xi worked early to provide for Li Xiang to go to school and take care of his life. And the other party, in fact, has already calculated in his heart.
By going abroad, Feng Xi whiplash is beyond reach, a sentence of "break up" on WeChat can avoid the other party's questioning and entanglement, and Li Xiang himself entered the high-level circle, and the value of women encountered must be greater than Feng Xi.
The human heart is the most terrible thing.
Of course, we can't prescribe the behavior of others, we can only protect ourselves. Only by understanding the nature of marriage can we better control our choices.
Being a person wants to open up, even if it is let down is also human nature, rather than resenting others, it is better to improve yourself. Spend your time and energy on yourself, and if you bloom, the butterflies will come.
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