The biggest melon in these days is that Deng Lun was fined and recovered 106 million for tax evasion.
In the past two years, there have been too many stars who have overturned the car, and the "one-stop service" of the follow-up parties has been very skilled, endorsement termination, platform suspension, and work removal...
The melon-eating masses are not strange, the "right family fans" who are schadenfreude and fall into the well are never lacking, and only fans are sad and sad, not to mention Deng Lun, who has just collapsed, even if it is a bad artist who was already cold last year, there are still fans who do not give up.
Then today I happened to see a post, it was a girl who posted a video on the B station: My mother collapsed, ahaha
When I saw it, the video has been deleted, summarizing the content of the post, to the effect that the girl's mother likes Deng Lun for many years, usually always loves to find opportunities to Amway, and even quarrels with Deng Lun and her family, when she was seriously ill, when she was in the most difficult time in high school, her mother ignored her, and now Deng Lun collapsed, she was very happy to quickly send a message to her mother that Deng Lun collapsed, you know, and then her mother has not replied to the message so far.
The video comments are full of ridicule of this mother, what star chasing is not faceless, mental derailment, let your dad beat up, etc., many people actually transferred their dislike of the star to this mother-level fan.
Maybe because there was too much ridicule in the comments, the girl sent another video, saying that her mother is not easy, in fact, she likes her mother, let everyone not say so ugly, but everyone starts from her point to say her mother, she does not blame everyone.
In the video, she also revealed that her mother had brain problems in her first year of high school, and her mental condition was not good, and she gave up physiotherapy to return home for her in her third year of high school.
However, the number of hits on this video is not the same as the previous video, and most people see only mothers blindly chasing stars regardless of their daughters.
The video was moved to Douban, the comments and the B station are completely different, and everyone has condemned their daughters.
On the one hand, this mother gave birth to a second child, gave up her career to become a full-time housewife for the sake of her children, and the daughter only complained that her mother did not care enough about herself, but she never mentioned where her father was, and when there were problems and contradictions between mother and daughter, where was the man who was both husband and father?
The daughter said that she did not blame her mother, in fact, she did not see her mother's dedication to the family, and she did not care about what her mother was thinking.
There is nothing to be pitiful about the rollover star, looking at the fans who are still obsessed with the screen, I can't produce understanding and sympathy, but the relatives and friends who have liked the star around me are obviously different, the important thing is not the star who is far away, but my relatives and friends, for me, they are not xx fans, but people I care about, they have really paid their feelings and feel hurt because of it, even if they don't care about comfort at this time, there is no need to sneer, right?
Mom didn't reply to her message, didn't she worry about it?
After the comments reversed, the girl's initial reaction was that Deng Lun's fans came to the team, and she didn't think there was a problem at all.
Even until she later deleted the video, she still said that she was not so strong and did not hold on, and this number carried her youth memories, and now it is gone.
An account makes her so sad, so how sad will it be for her mother to be pregnant in October and give birth to her so big, if she knows that she has been scolded by her hanging up on the Internet?
Indeed, as she said, her mother may not see this video and does not know how her daughter complains about herself behind her back, but she thinks that she is "my mother's closest person", and the closest person is still like this, isn't it more chilling?
In fact, this shows the plight and sadness of women's motherhood, even if it is the so-called "little cotton jacket", it is impossible to understand the mother.
It will indeed make people feel that "it is better to have a child than to have a piece of char siu".
On the other hand, netizens began to discuss the problem of middle-aged women, especially women who have become mothers, chasing stars.
In fact, this is not the first netizen to hang up the star-chasing mother on the Internet to be scolded.
Before there was also a netizen to the marketing number to contribute, do not know the gender of this netizen, temporarily to replace it, ta mother three years ago began to powder a male singer, will be for him to vote on the list, and even spend money to buy products he endorsed, their family of three and no one to drink coffee, but the mother spent about 800 yuan to buy the singer's endorsement of the coffee machine, but also spent money to vote for him, the mother herself has a job, that is to say that she makes money, but this netizen still feels unhappy, said a few words about her, and then she was angry.
How to say it, if it is not related to the problem of mother chasing stars, simply to say that the attitude of chasing stars, I should be the same as this netizen: idol endorsement products, of course, can be used can be bought, but there is really no need to spend money in vain, as for the purpose of voting to play the list to spend money, it is even more unnecessary.
But this attitude of mine is limited to my own restraint and rational advocacy of the fan group, not to a certain individual around me.
If I have relatives and friends around me who have to spend unnecessary money to chase the stars, then as long as all this is within her financial ability and does not affect other people, I will never be idle to point fingers and say that it is not right for you to do this.
Even, if she gets happier because she spent the money, I'll be happy for her.
Because, I originally felt that chasing stars should be to make myself happy, if you can be happy if you don't spend money, then there is no need to spend money, if you have to spend money to be happy, as long as you can afford to spend, then spend.
The netizen who submitted the article flaunted that he did not want his mother to spend money, but just did not want her to spend meaningless money for a certain star, but on what basis did he judge whether something was meaningful to others?
Things that seem meaningless to him, but in his mother's eyes, are meaningful, and as long as they spend it, they will be happy.
Our generation, from a young age, has seen the world of flowers and flowers, used to surfing the Internet for fun, for us there are many things in this world that can make us feel happy and meaningful, but the parents' generation, if there is no interest, in addition to getting a sense of accomplishment from their children, I actually can hardly imagine anything that can make them abandon their parenthood and simply enjoy happiness as a person.
In the first two years, there was also a "fake Jin Dong" incident that made a lot of noise:
A sixty-year-old woman is infatuated with Jin Dong, she brushed Jin Dong's video all day long on a certain sound platform, she firmly believes that Jin Dong and her love, even increasingly emaciated, but also sleeping in separate rooms with her husband, once deceived to run away from home, after being found back by her family, she is not willing to accept the fact that she was deceived by "fake Jin Dong".
In fact, Jin Dong has never opened an account in a certain tone, and there is no doubt that those are marketing numbers or scammers opened in his name.
At that time, as soon as that matter came out, the Internet was also a taunt, thinking that this big sister was too stupid and too good to deceive.
But when I think about it, I feel extremely sad.
She originally resisted everyone around her, but when the reporter of the program group went to look for her, she actually accepted it and asked if she could help her find Jin Dong.
Later, the reporter asked her how many times she had a love in her life, and she said that she had never had, and that it was the first time with Jin Dong.
That Jin Dong, he announced his love for himself to the people of the whole country on a certain tone, "My goodness, my beauty, my people, my heart, my goodness, all sang out by him." ”
Anyway, early death and late death are dead, and she wants to live bravely for herself.
The reporter said that she was sorry for her husband, but she said that it was all made by her husband, and she hated him.
In fact, on those sinking platforms, such accounts posing as celebrities are always easy to deceive many people, why?
Those women, really too eager to be discovered her own beauty, longing for men not only to see her as a woman to give to the family, but simply to love her as a person.
They long for a man who can truly love and care for himself, rather than giving everything in turn but being taken for granted and not cherished.
In this world, there are too many "desperate housewives".
Because they have never been loved, they can be deeply involved with just a little warmth and love.
But if their husbands and children can really care more about them in their daily lives, will they still indulge in these illusory beauty?
Jin Dong later responded to this in an interview, and I think this passage is very good: the first thing I saw was the chaos of social network management, and it also made us have to think about the balance between the emotional satisfaction of middle-aged and elderly people and social rules.
Yes, "the emotional satisfaction of middle-aged and elderly people".
They have dedicated their lives to the family, and when they are young, they have no time to think, and when their children are getting older and they don't have to continue to work so hard, they naturally want to do something that makes them feel happy.
Some have not yet lasted until the children grow up, have been bent by the daily chores of the husband's children, no one cares what they are thinking, the only fun, can only be pinned on the virtual network.
Female star chasing, especially middle-aged and elderly women chasing stars, many times it is not the star itself, but just immersed in the perfect imagination of the star, so as to pin emotions.
I don't like "The First Half of My Life" very much, but if you think about it carefully, you can understand why this drama is so popular, because people like Luo Zijun find too many women with unhappy marriages in middle age, most of them can only make it up, or end up alone after divorce, but they all believe that if they can meet He Han, they can really get happiness.
It's just that you can't meet it in reality.
That's just the beautiful fantasy of ordinary middle-aged and elderly women.
No matter how many old men, always love beautiful little girls, even in the marriage market, men always tend to marry women younger than themselves, everyone thinks this is very "normal".
Women, on the other hand, can't, and if they marry a man who is many years younger than themselves, they will be pointed out.
Not in reality, virtual star chasing is always OK, right?
No, everyone laughed even harder.
It's so hard.
But why, should they live without themselves in this life and can only pay for their families?
After a woman gets married, especially after having children, it seems that her identity as herself is erased, and in the eyes of everyone, she is only a wife, a mother.
And society's requirements for wives are always harsher than husbands, and the requirements for mothers are always harsher than those of fathers.
After she made a seemingly "selfish" behavior of only being happy for herself and not caring about her family, others could not understand her, but if she could not even understand the children she had born and raised, it was really, too sad.
Everyone is an independent individual, and the mother has her own life, she is herself first, and then the mother.
Moreover, "a man is a teenager to death" is a compliment to men, but a woman, no matter how old she is, will be ridiculed.
Why?
In fact, the only time that a person, especially a woman, is relatively free is before marriage and after the child grows up.
Before getting married, too young, ignorant to understand, maybe a lot of things have not had time to do to get married, it is not easy to survive until the children grow up, in fact, at this time they are not young, may finally live to understand, if not do what they want to do, then when to stay?
When I was a girl, there was no girl, and I was going to be a girl when I was old, so what?
I sometimes imagine myself in middle age, or even old age.
Where I live, there is a group of elderly people downstairs, except for rain and snow, usually even if it is cold in winter and hot in summer, they will sit there in a daze from morning to night, occasionally chatting.
Every time I pass by, I think, I'm afraid that no matter how old I am, I will not just sit in a daze, I should still be like now, hanging out on the Internet, chasing dramas, and even making a fool of handsome guys.
So I can't accept that others will judge me with the label of "middle-aged and elderly women" and decide what I should and should not do.
The reason why today's young people, especially young women, are reluctant to marry and have children is precisely because they are more and more able to enjoy the joys of being individuals and are unwilling to passively give up their egos in order to play a qualified role in the family.
We always feel that our parents manage too much, and urge marriage to promote something, not because their world is too monotonous, there is no self, only children.
The girl said that it was because her mother liked Deng Lun and felt that her mother did not put her whole body on herself, so she always stepped on Deng Lun in front of her mother, and now that Deng Lun has overturned, she feels that she can get her mother's love again...
Maybe she is young now, and she thinks that her mother had better give her all her love, but if that is the case, one day she will probably hope that her mother can have her own life, not only her.