In the morning to work, the new Bao Bao mother Xiao Wu rubbed her sleepy eyes and complained to colleagues, last night half a night and did not understand which one upstairs made a bang, woke me and the baby, coaxed half a day the baby refused to sleep.
Xiao Wu said that this is not the most infuriating, the angry person is the Wang Sister upstairs. In the morning, I just tentatively asked if your house made a noise last night, and if so, could I pay attention to it a little later.
I didn't expect a very normal inquiry, but I received a "letter" from Sister Wang, saying how careful her family was when she walked, and deliberately replaced the slippers with a soft sole, laid a plastic mat on the floor, and told the nanny not to play TV loudly.
This is not the point, the point is that in the end, Sister Wang also sneered at each other, asking Xiao Wu if she was depressed after childbirth, so sensitive to the voice, and reminded her and her lover to pay attention to the body at the end...
Xiao Wu originally thought that the relationship between his family and Sister Wang's family was quite good. Sister Wang divorced at an early age, taking her young daughter to live with her frail old mother. Usually to move some heavy objects or to rush to send the elderly to the hospital, as long as there is a sound, the Xiaowu family will be eager to help. When her daughter was at home alone at night, Xiao Wu also went to accompany the child.
Such a neighborhood relationship should be quite good, and it is reasonable to say that it should be cherished, mutual heart, and mutual care. However, Xiao Wu did not expect that a private inquiry would be countered by Sister Wang without mercy, and the so-called "friendship" was so unbearable. It seems that I still overestimated my relationship with others, and I really don't want to be wishful in the future.
I would have turned my heart to the bright moon, but the bright moon shone in the ditch. It is true that you value others and treat others well, but you may not get a positive response from others. Even sometimes, others are just accustomed to your good, and may not be bent on knowing the gratitude map. And once others feel that you have violated their personal interests and dignity, others will repay the morality with no scruples.
But in any case, we should also maintain our own rationality and kindness, pay sincerely, and do not have to think too much about how others can be grateful to Dade and repay the favor. Paying is your own business, the return is completely someone else's business, you don't always have to remember the response of others, don't overestimate your friendship with others, and keep a little sober in any relationship.
Huang Li returned home and "complained" to her lover, angry at me, angry at me, Li Yan did not know what medicine to take, sure enough, it was a plastic sister flower, this time it was really experienced.
It turned out that Huang Li's daughter kindergarten held a sports meeting in the morning, and she and her lover could not take time off to do parent-child interaction and tracking shooting because of their work relationship.
But Huang Li saw her good sister Li Yan in the circle of friends sent by others, holding a video recording device to follow up with other children. And she obviously knew which kindergarten and which class Huang Li's daughter was in, but she didn't squeak with Huang Li before she went to shoot.
Later, Huang Li also begged to send a text message to Li Yan, asking her to help her daughter pat herself if it was convenient, but she did not hear back until the evening.
Huang Li said, I don't understand where to offend her, usually there are eating, drinking and playing will call her, others talk about her behind her back and help her explain for her to block the gun, did not expect this time for no reason by her disgust.
The lover comforted Huang Li, and everyone's mood and thinking were different. Since you feel that you are not wrong, and you do not know where you have offended her, why should we punish ourselves for the mistakes of others? Let her go, maybe we really overestimate our relationships with others.
Huang Li is usually friendly to everyone, full of enthusiasm, as long as others speak out, they can also help. However, lovers often remind her that her warm-heartedness will easily be "hurt". Huang Li didn't believe it before, but now she thinks so.
Everyone is an independent individual, the attitude of dealing with the world is different, the three views may not be the same, and the character is also very different, so it is best to leave a certain boundary between people, neither to kidnap others for friendship, nor to be bound by the so-called friendship, to maintain a suitable distance, to attack, to retreat, so that you can be at ease in interpersonal relations.
Xu Ge is the head of a department in the unit, and in the annual appraisal, he can see the low scores of several subordinates on himself from the appraisal table. Looking at those few dazzling scores, In the first few years, Xu Ge was a little depressed, and he couldn't imagine that he was so unpopular with them.
In fact, in the impression of many people, Xu Ge is still good to his subordinates, and most of the time he mingles with everyone. Even if someone occasionally makes a mistake, Xu Ge is still bitter to teach, and it is rare to see him blacken his face with anyone.
But Xu Gewan did not expect that his true heart could not be exchanged for his true heart, and his true feelings could not arouse true feelings. However, fortunately, Brother Xu has a certain life experience and understands some human nature, so in the end he is also relieved. No matter how well you think you are doing, there will be people who are not satisfied with you, not to mention that there is no one who is perfect.
Man is a complex animal, and where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Therefore, for interpersonal relationships, we should all be rational and not too idealistic and emotional to treat. Especially when getting along with colleagues, we should pay more attention to proportions, and don't always think of calling others brothers and brothers, because there is more or less a certain degree of competition and intersection of interests between you.
Especially once you have a superior-subordinate relationship with someone else, the relationship becomes more delicate. You are too easy-going, people think that you have no authority, no one will listen to what you say, and even someone will constantly challenge your bottom line. You are too high, people feel that you are not close to people, so they will resist you from the heart, and even tear down your platform behind your back, in short, how to deal with it.
After so many years of groping, Xu Ge has been able to deal with these problems more rationally. For those subordinates who do not "have a long heart" and do not give "face", he does not think of retaliation, nor does he pay special attention to and preferential treatment of him because of who is deliberately flattered, but handles various interpersonal relationships with a rational and good attitude.
Maintaining an appropriate distance from people and maintaining a little soberness about friendship has allowed Xu Ge to get more respect and recognition from people, and also let him get unexpected "returns".
That year, Xu Ge's father-in-law became seriously ill and needed nearly a million treatment fees. The acquaintances he asked or the half-acquaintances who borrowed money were basically generous. And he paid off the debt little by little in a few years. Be grateful to those who can help you, but do not deliberately please and greet, and respect and understand the difficulties of others who cannot save the water and fire for the time being.
So, sometimes, we don't overestimate our relationships with others, but we also don't be too pessimistic about relationships. To understand the complexity of human nature and the vast differences of individuals, it is good to treat them with a rational and ordinary heart.