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Men can do nothing, can have no career, can even have no income, in different circumstances, these can be forgiven, but once a man has a tendency to domestic violence, even if it is only once, can not be forgiven.
Because domestic violence, there are only "non-existent" and "countless times", do not expect this domestic violence man to stop halfway and realize his mistakes.
The way for domestic violence men to solve things is to beat their wives, and then they may apologize in various ways, but the next time they are unhappy, they will still repeat the same mistakes.
It is better to raise a child alone than to make up with a domestic violence man for a lifetime, it is a fluke to be able to make it up, and it is not surprising that he was beaten all over the body, and even paid the price of his life.
The positive mother of the second child was killed by domestic violence
April, which was supposed to be the season of grass warblers flying, was originally reminiscent of "the most beautiful April day in the world", but this April made people see bad hearts.
In addition to being related to the epidemic, at the beginning of the month, I also saw a news that made people feel infinitely emotional, an independent and upward clothing point boss lady from Anhui, who was also a mother of two children, and was killed by her husband's domestic violence.
The anger could no longer hold up the mood at this time.
After the girl was sent to the hospital, her family received a phone call and rushed to the hospital, but because of the epidemic, she could not see herself, and her family waited outside the ward for 5 days, and finally died.
Leaving a son and a daughter, leaving everyone behind, makes people angry.
According to Huang Li's sister, at that time, her sister and daughter were at home, her brother-in-law Huang Jun came home, saw his wife and the opposite sex chatting, the two people had an argument, the brother-in-law hit his sister with his fist several times, the crazy brother-in-law has lost his humanity, after beating his sister for a while, the sister is unconscious.
According to forensic evaluation, Huang Li is currently judged to have intentionally injured someone to death.
Repeatedly abused by the family, persuaded by the family to reconcile, there is no divorce
Huang Li's sister confessed that Huang Jun has always had domestic violence, and Huang Li proposed divorce, but at that time, the family thought that the two people had two children, and divorce was not good for children, so they advised Huang Li not to divorce.
Coupled with Huang Jun's rhetoric, Huang Li did not divorce in the end, and it is precisely because there is no divorce that there is today's tragedy.
Huang Li is a positive woman, she has been financially independent since she got married, she opened a clothing business is good, two children rely on her to support, her husband Huang Jun has nothing to do and no fixed income.
Before the tragedy, Huang Jun also borrowed 30,000 yuan from Huang Li.
Family relations at a glance, women are completely economically independent, relying on their own to support two children, just so that two children can have a complete family, they have to endure the domestic violence of domestic violence men, it is really incomprehensible.
Now Huang Li's family is only sad and regretful, if Huang Li had not been persuaded to endure for the sake of her two children, there would be no tragedy today.
For children, troubled families are inferior to single-parent families
Huang Li's father died early, Huang Li's mother pulled 6 big brothers and sisters, the family has a good relationship, but it is precisely because of good feelings and attention to the integrity of the family that the bad guys finally succeeded.
Parents a generation of people pay attention to the integrity of the family, the old saying "rather than demolish a temple than a marriage", the elderly mostly have this concept, think that the family is still original, hope to let the children have a complete family.
But if the family has "broken down", does it still make sense to insist?
In fact, the feelings of both parents have problems, or the father has a tendency to domestic violence, and the two sides often quarrel or even fight, which hurts the child more deeply.
Single-parent families, if parents have enough patience, are willing to communicate with their children on an equal footing, and give their children enough care, love and companionship, the child may still become a person with a sound personality and a successful career, while in a two-parent family, the relationship between the parents is broken, one parent has serious behavioral problems, and the child is unlikely to become an ordinary person who obtains happiness from ordinary life.
What children see every day is quarrels, anger, and irritability, how can you expect children to be at peace, full of sunshine and love?
Instead of holding on to it, it is better to be liberated as soon as possible, and let yourself be liberated and let the child be liberated.
Women are not ladylike when they meet others, so it is better to rely on themselves
It was a pity that this woman was already on her own, but she had not yet had time to get rid of this bad family, and she had not had time to get rid of this bad person.
I often convey in articles the idea that women should become stronger, not to show anything, but really to tell girls or women who have become mothers that only when we are strong enough can we control our own destiny and ensure the lives of our children.
How many men will take care of their children's feelings like women, thinking about their children at every turn? The difference in physiological structure leads to the fact that there are very few such men.
Especially after having a baby, women should always remind themselves to become strong, and the harder they work in the early stage, the more they can grasp the initiative in the later stage.
When encountering unsatisfactory marriages, encountering men, there is no need to hesitate, once the other party touches the principle issue, such as domestic violence, you can stand up according to your inner thoughts and take the child out.
In this good era, women can have their own careers, not to mention tired of marriage, if it is a good marriage, the harmonious relationship between marriage and parents can build a warm harbor for children, although it is good, if the other party is not such a person, there is really no need to linger.
Don't listen to the persuasion of the people around you, even the closest parents, you can't replace yourself, let alone deeply experience your own misfortune. Children are not an excuse to tolerate in marriage, it is precisely because of children, in order to let children have a better environment, we must decisively get out of the unhappy marriage.