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When a woman first follows her husband home to see her parents, if the mother-in-law has a very good attitude towards you, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not have too much contradiction, but if you meet the mother-in-law for the first time, the attitude of the mother-in-law to you is very bad, and she is disgusted with you, thinking that you are not worthy of her son, even if the two of you are married, the mother-in-law is not willing to accept you, because she is prejudiced against you, obviously you have done a good job, but the mother-in-law is still not satisfied, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot get along harmoniously.
Most women feel that they are married to their husbands, not to their mothers-in-law, so there is no need to care about the mother-in-law's attitude towards themselves, but in fact, if the mother-in-law does not like you as a daughter-in-law, then she will deliberately provoke the feelings between your husband and wife, create trouble for you, you feel that this is not good for her, no mother will look forward to her son's divorce, but in fact, in order to satisfy their own selfishness, they do everything, in the name of doing harm to their son in the name of being good for their son.
Today's story comes from the sharing of fan Sun Wenli.
After marriage, he lived with his mother-in-law.
Sun Wenli and her ex-husband Shen Qiang are college classmates, the two of them fell in love when they were in college, their relationship has been very stable, and they plan to get married as soon as they graduate.
After graduation, Shen Qiang took Sun Wenli home to see her parents, but the mother-in-law's attitude towards her was not good, the father-in-law died in an accident in the early years, the mother-in-law worked hard to bring up her husband, she always wanted her husband to marry a girl from a wealthy family as a wife, so as to enjoy the blessings of her husband, learned that Sun Wenli's family was ordinary, forced the two of them to break up, but at that time they were in a hot love period, no one was willing to give up this relationship, and then they secretly got a license behind the back of both parents.
After the mother-in-law learned of this matter, she was indignant and scolded Sun Wenli for saying that she was a bad woman and confused her son, but Sun Wenli felt that in addition to her family's poor family, she was not so unbearable, and she did not understand why her mother-in-law had so much hostility towards herself.
Originally, the two of them planned to rent a house outside after getting married, but the mother-in-law asked them to go home to live, sun Wenli thought about the mother-in-law let the two of them go home to live, is she willing to accept her daughter-in-law? But that's not the case at all.
The mother-in-law had a set before and a set behind her, and in front of Shen Qiang," she was greeted with all kinds of booing and warm greetings, but as soon as Shen Qiang was not there, she began to accuse her and insult her, all because of various small things, and her heart was also wronged.
Being harassed by the mother-in-law in every way.
Not long after, Sun Wenli became pregnant, but the mother-in-law's attitude towards her was still the same, she knew that the mother-in-law had some preference for sons, so she wanted to have a boy, in fact, she preferred girls, but she felt that after giving birth to a boy, her mother-in-law would be happy, and her life could be better, but she did not get her wish.
After giving birth to a girl, her mother-in-law's attitude towards her was even worse, and she often accused her of saying: "It is really useless, I have given birth to a money-losing commodity, I really don't know what my son has taken a fancy to you, I want my family lineage, I don't have the ability to do it, and I can't even complete the task of passing on the inheritance." ”
The mother-in-law was more and more dissatisfied with Sun Wenli, so she forced Shen Qiang to divorce her, and the mother-in-law said to Shen Qiang: "At the beginning, I did not let you marry this woman, but you did not listen, she could not help you at all, you said that such a woman is of any use, hurry up and divorce, otherwise, I will not have your son." ”
Shen Qiang said to his mother-in-law, "Mom, what are you talking about?" We already have children, why divorce? If you can't get along with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I'll take her out and move in. As soon as she heard what Shen Qiang said, her mother-in-law was anxious, and she continued: "I have worked hard to raise you so big, and now that your wings are hardened, you want to leave me. ”
Shen Qiang did not divorce Sun Wenli, but also did not take her out to live, after having a daughter, Sun Wenli resigned to take care of her daughter at home, the mother-in-law could not count on it, with the passage of time, the daughter gradually grew up, but the mother-in-law will still say some ugly words in front of the daughter, often said that Sun Wenli is an outsider, and it is impossible to treat her as a family in this life, saying that the daughter is a money-losing commodity, and it is impossible to count on it.
Divorce from your husband.
Whenever the mother-in-law said these words, Sun Wenli would cover her daughter's ears, but the daughter had grown up, and some things could not be hidden from her, and one day, the daughter said to Sun Wenli: "Mom, why does Grandma say that I am a money loser?" Listening to what her daughter said, Sun Wenli's heart was sad, she felt that she was really useless, she could not let her daughter grow up in a good environment, that night she proposed a divorce with Shen Qiang, her attitude was very resolute, must be divorced, can no longer let her daughter live in such an environment.
Shen Qiang saw that Sun Wenli's attitude was so resolute, and he also felt a little ashamed of her in his heart, so he agreed to divorce, and when the two of them divorced, Sun Wenli didn't want anything, as long as she had the custody of her daughter.
The former mother-in-law made a big fuss about the wedding.
After the divorce, Sun Wenli began to work hard, did not want her daughter to follow her to suffer, wanted to give her daughter the best of everything, the daughter did not live up to her careful cultivation, the college entrance examination was successfully admitted to a key university, the day she left home to go to college, the daughter said to Sun Wenli: "Mom, so many years you have worked hard, I have grown up, I hope you can find your own happiness again, I support you to remarry." ”
Sun Wenli's side has a suitor, the man is very good to her, but she is afraid that her daughter is not happy, so she has not agreed to his pursuit, hearing her daughter say so, Sun Wenli's heart is also very moved, so she agreed to the man's pursuit, the two of them are ready to hold a small wedding, just invite the relatives of both sides to participate.
On the day of Sun Wenli's marriage, the former mother-in-law came to make a big fuss about the wedding, she did not know how Shen Qiang's mother learned that she was going to get married, the former mother-in-law said to Sun Wenli: "Who agreed to you marrying?" After divorcing you, my son is not willing to get married, but you are good, actually ready to marry, I can't let you do it. ”
The former mother-in-law looked proud and felt that today's wedding must not be able to continue, but she did not expect to be slapped by her granddaughter, and Sun Wenli's daughter could not bear it any longer, she said: "Didn't you say that my mother was an outsider?" Can you control outsiders? In the past, my mother was your daughter-in-law, and you could scold if you wanted, but now that my mother has nothing to do with your family, what qualifications do you have to run and make a big fuss? Hurry up, or I'll call the police. ”
Slapped by her daughter, the former mother-in-law was angry and said to Sun Wenli: "Is this how you educate your children?" She dared to do something to my grandmother. Sun Wenli did not speak, and the daughter said to her ex-mother-in-law: "Are you worthy of being a grandmother?" You didn't always say that I was a money-loser, I couldn't count on it at all, I told you, even if I had a job, it would be impossible to be filial to you, you died this heart, hurry up, don't you think you're ridiculous here like a beam-jumping clown? ”
The former mother-in-law was intimidated by her daughter and had nothing to say, and slipped away, and the wedding ended smoothly.
Women must grasp the initiative in marriage, most women have just married their husbands, do not dare to shout with their mother-in-law, but in fact, it is because of your attitude in exchange for the mother-in-law to become more difficult, she feels that you are a weak person, do not dare to resist, so will always challenge your bottom line.
There are many women who are willing to endure the difficulties of their mother-in-law, because she cherishes the relationship between her and her husband, but if the mother-in-law deliberately makes it difficult for her children, then she is not willing to endure, she feels that she has nothing to suffer, but she cannot let the children suffer with themselves, women must not be weak, even if they do not think for themselves, they must also think about the children, and they cannot let the children suffer with you.
Daughters-in-law should bravely refuse the unreasonable demands put forward by the mother-in-law, when the mother-in-law deliberately makes it difficult for you, you should show your attitude, do not let her think that you are good at bullying, people are good to be bullied, Ma shan is ridden, a cowardly person, no matter where he goes, will be looked down upon, sometimes it should be tougher, in order to protect the people he loves.
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