For many parents, parenting is like a long war without seeing the smoke. No matter how many methods you have tried and how much effort you have put in, in the end you will always be completely defeated by the child's unreasonable teasing, and there is no suspense that you can win.
In order to curb children's unreasonable teasing (pendulum), a kind of "swinging parenting" has quietly become popular among parents after the 80s and 90s, and has become a strange landscape in the bustling society. Whether it's on a busy street, in a bustling shopping mall, or in a public place where other people are crowded, you can always see children who are making unreasonable trouble on the ground, as well as parents who are "educating" their children with "swing parenting".
"Let you roll around there, I'll watch quietly, pull you up and count me out."
"As long as you don't feel ashamed, you must not be allowed to succeed!"
"As long as you don't feel blushing, I can calmly look at my phone."
You play your, I play with my phone to see who gets up first.
You put your, I'll take pictures and leave it behind.
"Rotten parenting" has become a new parenting method for parents in the 80s and 90s to deal with unreasonable children, and it seems to have achieved remarkable results. But is this kind of "swing parenting" really good for children?
A netizen said that "swinging parenting", although it seems to be somewhat indecent, but it does have some effects. As long as you put down your face and can stick to the "rot" to the end, the final victory belongs to your parents. But if you can't stick with it, you're fulfilling the children who are making unreasonable trouble.
But some netizens do not think so, because they think that "rotten parenting" seems to be effective, but it is actually another harm to the child, in addition to the harm to the child's body, the harm to the child's self-esteem.
So, when encountering children's unreasonable "mess", how should parents educate their children?
Many experts specializing in family education have mentioned this problem, and most of them have the same consensus, that is, to do the following 3 points.
First, clearly tell the child that his unreasonable behavior is wrong, and it is useless to make trouble. If you want to get what you want, you can't use the way of sprinkling, but you have to use a reasonable way to fight, such as the progress of life and learning... Wait a minute.
Second, do not try to use scolding and reasoning to make children crying understand the reason. Use the way of scolding the child to stop the child from crying, and the next time the child encounters the same situation, the child will still cry, which is known to everyone, so the way of scolding is basically useless. In the same way, there is no use in reasoning children who are crying, because the great truths you say when they cry are nothing more than noise in their ears, and they cannot be heard at all.
Don't pretend to stay away from the child, whether it is distance or psychology, because the parents' "stay away" is the biggest harm to the child's self-esteem.
Therefore, for children who are unreasonable, the best solution is to hold them in a quiet environment that will not hinder others or hurt them, accompany them, and then discipline them after they have vented their emotions and calmed down. Do you agree with this? Welcome to leave a message to discuss, but also thank you for your continued support and help!