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On the Internet, we have read more stories of contemporary "Chen Shimei" and "Pan Jinlian", so that many people's mentality has exploded, saying again and again that they "no longer believe in love" and "men do not have a good thing".
For example, the North American Bay Area scumbag incident that was hyped up on the Internet a few days ago once refreshed the three views of netizens, while playing the role of a deep love for his wife, while remarrying quickly two weeks after getting his wife's death certificate, and also called the police to drive his parents-in-law out of the house.
A series of bottomless operations, let many netizens sigh, sweet talk in front of the people in front of ah, a blink of an eye selfish and cold no one can stop.
For example, in recent years, a series of negative news such as the Thai pregnant woman being pushed off the cliff by her husband, the hangzhou wife killing case, the Lin Shengbin incident and so on have made many people sigh that they can no longer believe in the pillow people.
But Xue Lejun always has a strange perception: such extreme events are common on the Internet, but most of the couples around them are normal.
Our parents, our friends, ourselves, although the family life is not perfect, but there is not so much dog blood.
Recently, a news story in Nanjing was completely different from the plot of dog blood, and the couple's actions touched tens of millions of netizens.
On March 13, a fire broke out in a private house in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, and almost instantaneously, the fire engulfed the home of the Chen couple.
Smoke billowed inside the house, and everywhere became a sea of fire. In order to buy time to escape, the couple hid on the balcony.
As the fire grew, the husband let his wife stand on the outside of the balcony.
In order to prevent his wife from falling, Chen Chaochan, who was burning red, grabbed his wife's arm in the balcony and endured the high temperature in the raging fire until the firefighters arrived.
At that time, Chen Chao's total body burn area had reached 98%.
After her wife was rescued, the first thing she said to the firefighters, who was already extremely weak, was: "Save my husband first." ”
The husband and wife were originally the same forest bird, but when the great trouble came, they did not fly separately.
When disaster strikes, the husband leaves the hope of life to his wife. After the rescue arrived, the wife gave priority to the rescue to her husband.
The so-called true feelings in the world are nothing more than this. The so-called husband and wife must be dependent on each other for life and death.
However, the couples who have touched tens of millions of Chinese people have not touched God. Due to the severity of their injuries, the couple died on March 22 and 29, respectively.
The tragic sacrifice of men and the brave watchfulness of women still failed to break free from the shackles of death. Two lives are the same, death is the same, truly life and death are with each other, sad and respectable.
In fact, looking at the news, this couple is not alone. In times of crisis, there are many people who protect each other without hesitation, and there are still many true feelings in the world.
On the morning of December 16, 2020, two vehicles collided in the Yanshi section of the Lianhuo Expressway, and one of the trucks overturned, the driver's leg was stuck, and the whole person was suspended and stuck at the steering wheel.
The wife who was sitting in the co-pilot could have climbed out of the car, but she exerted all her strength in pain and lifted her husband on her shoulder until the firefighters arrived at the scene 20 minutes later to replace her.
After the video was posted online, netizens left comments that the wife was not only holding up her husband, but also the elderly and children, a home.
In August last year, a warehouse in Jining County, Shandong Province, exploded, and the glass in a nearby express station was shattered in an instant. Mr. Cheng beckoned the employees to rush outside, and his wife, worried about the danger outside, dragged him.
Subsequently, a second explosion occurred in the warehouse, and at that moment, the husband subconsciously rushed to his wife, rolled over and wrapped his arms around her, pressed her to the corner, and used his body to cover her from the injury.
Mr. Cheng said: "At that time, I thought it was an earthquake, and as a man, I had to protect my family. ”
The more in times of crisis, the more the brilliance of one's humanity can be revealed.
When the Phuket capsizing accident occurred on July 6, 2018, Zhang Haofeng and his girlfriend were traveling before marriage, and they embarked on a cruise ship together, and they were also thrown into the cold sea together.
Like the plot of titanic, people float in the water, anxiously waiting for rescue. At the moment when the lifeboat arrived, in the face of the boat with fewer people, Zhang Haofeng, like Jack, resolutely pushed his girlfriend onto the lifeboat.
The lifeboat was full and left, and he had to save himself. With the help of a float, he floated in the cold water for 12 hours, and his body was also stung by jellyfish in many places.
Fortunately, after more than a dozen hours of waiting and a fishing boat passing by, they were finally rescued.
At the first moment of the crisis, people's subconscious should be self-help.
Running away is human instinct, so these people who fight for the sake of their loved ones are even more precious.
Why can they go against their instincts? Because they have more important people to protect.
Because I love you, I can't live selfishly! Even if you give your life, you must desperately protect it.
Perhaps the greatness of love lies in the fact that when an accident comes, the first thing that comes to mind is to protect the other party.
The character, mind and pattern of one spouse are not expressed when a person is the richest and most beautiful, but when the other party suffers from major changes such as illness and bankruptcy.
In the face of interests and difficulties, it is even more difficult to see a person's true character.
Not long ago, a "veteran learned that his ex-wife was seriously ill but resolutely remarried" news rushed to the hot search. In 2019, the couple parted ways because of the trivialities of life. But her husband, Chen Zhenfeng, could not let go of his wife Xie Hongxia.
In a casual chat with his wife's relatives, he learned that his wife was suffering from uremia. But the wife was a strong man and said nothing about him.
The husband who knows the truth has repeatedly offered to remarry, but the wife always refuses because she does not want to bother him, and under the repeated insistence of the husband, the wife is touched by the sincerity of the husband and agrees to the remarriage.
After remarriage, the husband alone shouldered the burden of life. Husbands monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, and the wife's monthly treatment costs of 6,000 yuan, in order to treat his wife, the husband after work part-time driving, desperately take orders, every day to work until 12 o'clock at night.
Because of the high cost of medical treatment, the husband plans to sell the house they are living in and continue to treat his wife.
The deeds of the couple have touched many people, and caring people from all walks of life have also donated money. Husband Chen Zhenfeng said: "There is no obstacle that cannot be crossed, I just want to take my lover's hand and continue to walk so firmly!" ”
The hardest thing in life is not to get into trouble, but to fight alone when you are down.
It is unfortunate that his wife Xie Hongxia is ill, and she is undoubtedly lucky, because in the most difficult moments of her life, she is not alone in the battle, she has the company of her husband.
The couple's choice explains the true meaning of marriage. Marriage is the union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together.
A good marriage is that both husband and wife have spent years together to protect a true feeling. Even in the face of wind and rain, the two sides will not abandon each other.
Perhaps in life, this kind of moment of crisis and sudden change is not something that every couple has experienced, the mutual observance of ordinary life, more triviality of chai rice oil and salt.
Even in the most prosaic real life, there are people who interpret the most moving stories.
There is a Japanese documentary called "Fruits of Life", which mainly records the ordinary daily life of an elderly couple.
At the time of filming, husband Shuichi was 90 years old, and his wife Hideko was 87 years old, and like many ordinary couples, they hoeed grass in their small courtyards every day, picked fallen leaves, picked green plums, picked walnuts, did carpentry, boiled jam, baked cakes, stuffed yogurt, and cooked simple three meals a day and trivial daily life.
It is such a seemingly bland movie, but it has a Douban score of 9.6 points. The scene where the husband and wife accompany each other for a long time and spend the rest of their lives together has touched tens of millions of people.
Husband Shuichi said, I don't say "I love you" out loud, but I try to do something she likes.
He would write, do handicrafts, draw, take pictures for Hideko, and record the beauty of love in a romantic way.
And Hideko changes every day to make a good meal for Shuichi, pudding, cake and other skills. Every time Shuichi always praised and appreciated, holding a small wooden spoon and saying" "It's delicious", the two of them showed a very satisfied smile together.
There are great differences in the personality preferences of the couple. Hideko likes Western breakfast, while Shuichi prefers a traditional Japanese breakfast, and Hideko makes two different breakfasts a day. Mr. Shuichi doesn't like vegetables, and Ms. Eiko never forces him.
Ms. Hideko likes to buy a variety of tableware and collect tableware that matches the dishes, and Mr. Shuichi readily agrees.
Although two people have different preferences, they do not force each other to like what they like, and they do not force each other or interfere. They had never quarreled or blushed once in their lives.
It is such an ordinary couple that derives warmth overnight, produces romance when a vegetable and a meal, and reveals the touch in every move, realizing a house, two people, three meals, and four seasons.
In marriage, not all feelings are vigorous and unforgettable, but more are in the trivialities of life to pay each other, mutual understanding, mutual heartache, is a long stream of water to accompany a lifetime, hand in hand to old age.
I once saw a scene like this:
A middle-aged couple, the husband pulling a tricycle, which is full of things, looks like a lot of weight.
His wife sat in the pile of debris in the car, talking and laughing with her husband.
At first, I thought that the wife did not know how to understand her husband and did not help her husband, but in the blink of an eye, she jumped down a slope and skillfully jumped down and helped her husband push the cart in the back.
It turned out that the road that had just been cut was downhill, and it was not difficult to pull up the car, and he let her sit on it, which was the husband's love for his wife. And now this road is uphill, it takes two people to work together, she jumped down to help, it is the wife's understanding of her husband.
This is the daily life of most couples, the reality in marriage.
The key to the happiness of a marriage lies in whether the two parties in the marriage can understand each other, support each other, and work together.
Yang Lan once said that in addition to love, a good marriage also has the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, and the unforgettable kindness.
The best couples are those who help each other in times of crisis, stay together in plainness, withstand the temptation of money and fame, and withstand an ordinary and indifferent life.
In the future, may every couple, no matter how much wind and frost they have experienced, still stay by each other's side, foam at each other' throats, support each other, and grow together.
Your lover, what things you have done that have touched you, and behaviors that deserve praise, welcome to share with you.
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