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What would you do to have a second child? Want to have both children and daughters? Want to get your child to have a companion? Love kids and so on. However, the reason why a friend gave birth to a second child is really unexpected.
The reason why she wants to have a second child is to experience the experience of having a child. Yes, you read that right. Because her eldest was brought up by her mother-in-law. According to her, the eldest did not sleep with her for a day, and she did not feel the heartache and hardship of raising a child at all. So when the mother-in-law urged her to give birth to a second child, she did not hesitate to give birth, but also wanted to experience the feeling of having a child.
After the birth of the second child, the children are complete, the second child is also good to bring, eat and sleep in the month, sleep and eat, the second child almost does not use the help of the mother-in-law, it is brought up by a friend. To tell the truth, if you don't envy your friends or anything else, you envy the birth of an angel baby.
Is there anyone to help with the child, whether the child is good or not is an important reason that affects whether the mother has a second child and a third child？
Those mothers around who are willing to have two or three children, first of all, there must be someone to help with the baby. If there is no one to help, it means that day and night alone, with the baby can not eat on time every day, go to the toilet can still hold the baby, go out to buy a dish but also hold the child, when the child is asleep, he has to see the stitches and needles to do housework, there is no rest time for the day, the day is completely boiling.
If the mother is in such a state after the first year of childbirth, the hardships and grievances of raising a child have gone deep into the bone marrow. I don't think most moms can't think about having children again. Don't say that the mothers are all good scars and forget the pain. The sins of childbirth, the pain of breastfeeding, these pains can be forgotten. But no one understands, and the helplessness and heartache of no one helping will never be forgotten. Most of the mothers who no longer want to have children have been greatly hurt when they were born.
And with the help of someone, you can largely wipe out the sin of having a child, knowing that if someone backs up, you will dare to have a second child.
Moreover, most of them are the boss is an angel baby, which is too worry-free to bring up, so that many mothers have an illusion that all children are so good to bring, and then continue to live without hesitation. But angel babies can not be sought, and meeting angel babies is lucky, not tired, and it is fun to raise children. But most babies are sharp enough to make you unable to sleep soundly, eat food, and doubt life every day. A child has squeezed out all his energy, and he still has the heart to have a child again.
No matter how many children are born, what children need most when they are young is the company of their parents
For children, the most important thing when they are young is the companionship of their parents, especially the companionship of their mothers. At the age of 0-3 years old, the mother's attentive companionship not only helps to establish a close parent-child relationship, but also helps to establish a sense of security for children. Lay a good foundation for the child's future personality and good physical and mental development.
Therefore, when the child is young, the elders can assist in carrying the baby, but the main responsibility is still on the parents. If parents want to be lazy and push all their children to the elderly, then most of them will regret it later.
So if you decide to have a child, you must be prepared to raise a child hard. No matter how many children you have, try not to miss your child's growth when you are a child. If you feel like you can't have a child, don't have children, you say?
【Topic Discussion: Why did you have a second child?】 】
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