Family education is a "needle in the haystack" for shaping personal character

Nurture neighborly dreams

Netizens asked: Does family education have a big impact on children?

Reply: Family education is the "needle of the sea god" for shaping personal character, and family education is for children's growth enlightenment, skeleton, course, and wind and rain.

Dinghai God Needle, according to legend, there is a water monster in the Tianchi, often abusing the power of adultery, stirring up the wind and waves, stirring up the water of the Tianchi Waterfall, flooding the left and right residents, and the people are homeless and wandering around. One year, the Queen Mother held a grand peach party in the Heavenly Palace, feasting on various gods and immortals, but forgot to invite this Tianchi water monster. The water monster was displeased and threatened to vent his anger. In an instant, the turbid waves were fierce and the flood was overflowing. The Heavenly Soldiers reported to the Queen Mother Niangniang, who was furious and immediately took off a jasper hairpin on her head and threw it into the water, and suddenly the wind and waves were calm, and the water receded. The jasper hairpin became an elm tree, which grew at the edge of the Tianchi Water and became the treasure of the town water. This elm tree, transformed from the jasper hairpin on the head of the Queen Mother's mother, was called "DingHai God Needle" by posterity.

Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms live in plants or animals... In the natural material world, the comprehensive survival of all living individuals must be passively adapted and actively claimed after birth.

Plants that take root & sprout on the ground can absorb water sources + micro-minerals within the reach of the root system, receive sunlight in the airspace of branches and leaves, and are natural life with full survival and self-sufficiency. Animals are natural life groups with active behavior ability but do not have the ability to survive completely independently, all animal life must rely on plant-generated life nutrients to maintain survival, all animal life must adjust survival strategies according to the actual living environment, and all animal life must pass on the comprehensive survival skills that have been formed to offspring as completely as possible, such as chicks must adapt to flying under guidance + complete predation in flight, antelope + hare and other vegetarian animals teach offspring to avoid predators, lions + Tigers teach cubs to hunt and so on.

Human beings, the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ, the slowest growth and development, and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system, are also the only animal groups in the natural life system that have the ability to create living materials according to the needs of independent survival, and the domestication of sown plants, the taming of captive animals, and the use of natural non-living substances to process production labor and life aids are all active labor creations of human beings. Can't dominate their own body, can't use human language, can't live independently... Newborn human children must gradually adapt to human social life with help, and must be educated to gain full independence. Therefore, in order to pass on the era of the social civilization that has been formed, modern human society has formed the most complete group survival skill inheritance system in the natural life system - education.

Family is the starting point of life's growth journey

Modern human education system to assist children to learn and grow, including family education, school education, and social education, if the cause of human social education is compared to a big tree, then family education is the root, school education is the branch, and social education belongs to the leaves. Because the family is the most basic tissue cell of modern human society, each child is born in a specific family, and is gradually integrated into the big family of human society from the small family at birth.

The Jin Dynasty writer and philosopher Fu Xuan pointed out in the "Prince Shao Fu Zhen": "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black; sound and harmony are clear, and the shape is straight." "Tell people that a person living in a good environment will be affected by good, living in a bad environment will also be affected by bad, emphasizing the comprehensive impact of the environment on people's learning and growth." The child's body is flowing with the same blood as the parents, the first bite of the child's meal is fed by the parents, the child has been living with the parents since birth, the child wears all the supplies provided by the parents, the child's walking posture is learned from the parents, the first life aids used by the child come from the family, and the first standard human language voice made by the child is taught by the parents...

Humans are the social mammals with the highest IQ in the natural life system, and the most typical feature of human high IQ is that they have a strong ability to actively imitate. Human ancestors born in primeval forests can survive by picking plant fruits + hunting other animals, most children born in the agricultural period will sow plants + captive animals, children born in merchant families know how to make money from an early age, children born in China learn to speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the United Kingdom learn to speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks... Therefore, even if children are not given any modern professional school education, children will inherit the family-related lifestyle (in fact, before the popularization of professional school education, human survival skills were mainly passed on by the family).

As the saying goes, "Learn from good people, follow witches to jump false gods." "With the same blood flowing in the body as my parents, eating food provided by my family, using the same human social language as my family, living under the same roof with my family for a long time ... Who dares to say that family education has little comprehensive impact on children's learning and growth? Who dares to say that children's learning and growth can avoid the family [at present, professional and standardized management of childcare + education is doing this]? Who dares to say that after a professional school education, parents can be a "hand-throwing treasurer"? Therefore, family education is a "needle in the haystack" for shaping personal character, and family education is for children's growth enlightenment, skeleton, course, and wind and rain.

The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.

The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.

Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.