In your imagination, what should the silver-haired people look like in their later years?
Food and clothing, happy mood, the only thing to worry about every day is to get up late and grab the golden land for square dancing?
Of the 10 old people, only 1 may be able to live a fairy life.
Most silver-haired people are not "free to retire", they are forced to circle around their children, and their lives are filled with housework and grandchildren.
The tone of later years, in addition to repression, is still repressive.
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The 37-year-old man was half lying on the bed, his head against the wall, crying bitterly. His face was full of sorrow, tears couldn't stop flowing, and his snot was gushing out of his nose uncontrollably. He didn't cry much, but the sadness was so real.
Why did he cry? Because the old mother who has lived with him for 7 years is about to be picked up by her brother.
Why did the old mother live with him for 7 years? Because I want to help him with the child.
Why did my brother take his mother? Because the sister-in-law has just given birth to a baby, the old man needs to take the baby.
This video of "mother-child love" has caused a violent response on the Internet, and everyone is touched by blood affection, but I only feel sad.
The eldest son is 37 years old, and the old mother is most likely over 60 years old. She lived in her eldest son's house in her fifties and brought a baby to her eldest son. In his sixties, he had to live in his younger son's house and bring a baby to his younger son. The two sons didn't even give their busy and tired mother a little respite, but worked seamlessly like a handover.
At an age when they should have retired and enjoyed the blessings of Qingfu, some old people still have to cook, wash, take their babies, clean...
It should have been fun to the grandson, indulging in the joy of heaven, who knows the grandson's food, clothing and play must worry about themselves.
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Remember the 56-year-old mom who "drove away from marriage"?
She grew up in a patriarchal family and married men who had only met three sides. After marriage, she gave birth to a daughter in a hurry, and has been bound by her daughter for the rest of her life. It is hard to raise a daughter and continue to raise a grandson.
In the year of destiny, she has no leisure time and no self. Her grandson was finally in kindergarten, and she was determined to live for herself once. It's not so much that she's running away from marriage that she's pursuing "freedom to retire."
In the emotional drama "I Really Love You", the screenwriter carefully set up such a bridge section.
After Chen Jia and her husband divorced, she took her daughter back to her mother's house and asked her mother to bring her a child on the grounds that she was busy at work. But the mother also has her things to do, Chen Jia blamed the mother for not helping, the mother choked and said:
"I'm so old, why should I pay for your failed marriage?"
Why? With the phrase "if my parents don't take the handle, who else can I count on?" can make the silver-haired people pay for the poor lives of their children. Children and grandchildren have been taken care of, but the silver-haired people have lost their freedom.
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Someone in Douban once asked: I want my 50-year-old mother to find a job to do, do I think there is a problem?
She is not accustomed to her 50-year-old mother staying at home all day and not going out to work to earn money. She hopes that her mother can still work and earn a little, "and it is not impossible to move." After all, she was about to run thirty, and she would have children in the future, and the pressure to support her mother was too great.
Netizens have expressed their agreement with her opinion that since 50-year-old mothers do not have to help their children with their children, they should go out to work to support themselves and not increase the burden on their children.
However, the old man with silver hair has been busy for half a lifetime, is it wrong to want to rest and rest?
There are indeed those who are willing to work for their children and grandchildren, such as Zhang Ying's mother in "Shengmen". Zhang Ying is a child with cerebral palsy, and her mother has worked hard to pull her up and find a good and reliable husband for her. Zhang Ying gave birth to two daughters, who were also brought by her mother.
The willingness of the old man to give is a sentiment, not an obligation. When enjoying the care of the silver-haired people, the younger generation should also be distressed by their parents and give them breathing space, instead of just finishing the baby of the eldest son and rushing to take the baby of the second son.