Text: Xi Xihuan
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In front of the people they like, people always involuntarily want to show the best side to each other, because they care in their hearts, so they care about their image in front of him.
But there are also some people, even if the other party obviously shows a good feeling for themselves, but because they don't care very much, they have no scruples about some things, even the worst side, they don't mind the other party seeing.
In fact, if you and each other have each other in their hearts, then you will not shy away from some things, just because you want to have further interaction with each other, you can make the feelings between you warmer, so you will involuntarily release your true disposition, let yourself face him with the most authentic side.
01 Do not shy away from seeing their lows
People are at a low point, this time is also the time when they feel the most embarrassed, do not do anything satisfactory, and it is difficult to achieve the goal they want to achieve, so this is the time when they least want the other party to see.
Her friend Faye Wong is a woman with strong self-esteem, who has always been strong because of her family when she was young, because she did not have the protection of her father, so she secretly vowed to become more and more powerful and protect her mother when she grew up.
Such a personality makes her rarely ask for help from others, nor does she want to be seen when she is in trouble, because of her self-esteem, she would rather heal her wounds alone than want others to see her difficulties.
Therefore, most of the people around her think that she is very cold, not easy to get along with, sometimes encounter problems at work, colleagues have the heart to help her, she will also refuse.
But all this has become different after knowing the man, the man has very little words, will not say anything sweet, in fact, Faye Wong does not need those so-called love words, because in her view there is no meaning at all.
Men will always show up to her in time for her when she needs it most, will not ask her if she needs help, and will silently do everything for her in his power.
Over time, Faye Wong developed different feelings for men, although the man did not say it, the two people did not clearly establish a relationship, but Faye Wong has always felt that she and men like each other.
Because of the dependence and trust in her heart, Faye Wong began to avoid the "embarrassment" in front of men, and really encountered difficult problems or thorny problems, she would unceremoniously "bother" men, and would not care at all whether men would laugh at themselves.
The man is a smart person, he felt her changes in the process of getting along with Faye Wong, and also determined her intentions, and finally successfully confessed.
The man told her that it was precisely because he knew her inner defense and sensitivity that he was afraid of her and understood her, so he was willing to wait patiently for her, wait for her to let go of her guard against him, and accept him from the heart.
Faye Wong listened to the man's words and knew that she did not love the wrong person, and she chose the right one. It didn't take long for the two to spread the good news of their marriage.
We will have some caution in our feelings to a greater or lesser extent, especially those who have been hurt by love, often taste the taste of being hurt, so we dare not easily accept a relationship.
But as long as the other party allows himself to relax and trust enough, and gives himself enough patience and support, then the inner defense will be gradually loosened, and finally willingly will not shy away from his dissatisfaction in front of the other party.
You know, many times, we are not the perfect person, the two people who really love each other are going through a long life hand in hand, if you keep perfect at all times, there will always be a tired day in your heart, and at that time, this relationship may also come to an end.
02 Do not shy away from your dependence on each other
When you really fall in love with a person, you will rely on each other from the bottom of your heart, and it is precisely because the two are happy with each other that you are willing to be relied on and are willing to rely on each other.
Feelings need to have a sustenance, you care about a person, you want to share your daily life with each other, hope that your joys and sorrows can be shared with him.
Some people feel that it is very painful to fall in love with a person, they can't get the response they want in their feelings, they are happy to share with each other, but the other party is indifferent; sad and hope to talk to each other, get comfort, and finally exchange it for disdain and indifference.
People's hearts need to be covered with true feelings, and such an attitude will make a person's heart that loves you become colder and harder.
Only two people who love each other in truth will not shy away from expressing their need for feelings and dependence on each other.
Cousin is a soft inside, strong appearance of the girl, she is actually very eager to be concerned, the feeling of being cared for, but in the relationship in love, but rarely directly express their true feelings to each other.
So have talked about two boyfriends, both because the other party can not guess her mind and break up, every time when breaking up, the cousin is very disappointed, the people around her persuade her, since she hopes that the other party to do, it is better to tell each other directly, the other party in the province guessed to guess, and finally she herself was disappointed, and the other party also lost patience.
The cousin feels that if she directly says that she is very dependent on him, it will make him despise himself, and he will feel that he has lost the initiative and the right to speak in this relationship and has become a humble party.
But in fact, two people who really love each other depend on each other, which is the most real emotion, which has nothing to do with self-esteem, but shows that you are very much in love.
Love a person, you are willing to rely on each other, whether it is the usual relationship, or verbal communication, the process of relying on each other is actually a way of emotional catharsis.
For example, if you encounter problems at work, the relationship between colleagues has encountered bottlenecks, and you are depressed when you return home from work, if the other party can patiently listen to your talk, and even give you reasonable suggestions, then you will rely more and more on him psychologically, which is a sense of solidity, and will also make you understand each other more and more deeply.
For example, if you have something that is difficult to solve, if you rely on the one who understands you everything and helps you solve everything without what you say, it means that he cares about you in his heart, just because he has you in his heart, so he is not willing to look at your helpless appearance, and because he has you in his heart, he is willing to give time and thought to make you happier.
People say that the best feeling is not to fall in love with a person, but the person you love just happens to be in love with you, many times, we can't guess the person in the feelings of their own heart, want to ask directly and be embarrassed.
But in fact, love can not be hidden, in many details, in the other party's attitude towards you, there are hidden answers you want.
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