Education is never static, parents always love their children, but they take a different approach.
Some families believe in "filial piety under the stick", but when they grow up, their children are also infected with the habit of violence; Some people say that "it is difficult to produce more noble sons under the cold door", but in reality there are still successful rebellions.
The "fierce" mother put all her energy into the child with cerebral palsy, and the child finally achieved a perfect transformation, and on December 17, 2020, she appeared on Chongqing Satellite TV's "Thank You for Coming".
The "genius prodigy" meets the "famous host"
Tu Lei has always had a strong hosting style, so the evaluation of him on the Internet has become more and more differentiated, some people think that he is too aggressive, often unflattering to guests, and some people like his bluntness.
In an episode of "Children with Cerebral Palsy" that aired on 202012 17, he appeared on the show with a hint of awkward humor, and in the face of Tu Lei's sharp questions, he used his unique sense of humor to open the conversation box.
The male guest is Chongqing Li Guanyanping, as long as you look at his name, you can know that his family likes him, and the names of his parents have also been added, but the child's growth is not smooth.
Li Guanyanping greeted everyone while sitting still.
Tu Lei was a little reluctant and asked directly, "Why don't you get up to greet everyone?" Your mother beckoned us all to stand up. ”
Li Guanyanping, who was preparing to introduce himself, was confused by this question, but he still reacted immediately, arched his hand and said: "I'm sorry, xiao is sick, it is inconvenient to stand, I hope you can forgive." ”
Obviously, Tu Lei did not believe this answer, because he had read the guest information beforehand, so he continued: "Haven't you already stood up? ”
Li Guanyanping explained: "Recently, when treating nail fungus and paronychia, all the nails have been removed and I can stand up normally. ”
When asked about his age, he replied, "You guessed it. ”
Such an answer was obviously not what Tu Lei wanted, so he simply said, "I think I'm in my thirties." ”
Li Guanyanping said unhurriedly: "Well, I am 31 years old this year." ”
The guest who answered this question, Tu Lei, stood in front of him breathlessly most of the time, which was indeed rare, but Li Guanyanping was obviously not everyone's opponent.
Tu Lei looked at the information in his hand and said, "I heard that you are a child prodigy."
But Li Guanyanping's answer is more interesting: "What is a prodigy?" A child prodigy is a mentally ill child. ”
The silence embarrassed Li Guanyanping, who continued: "Because my illness itself is a neurological problem, but we have to remember that nerves and spirit are two different things, the so-called prodigies, who are good at discovering their own potential and trying to transform it into ability. ”
Normal people listen to Li Guanyanping's words, more or less will have some strange feelings, because the words coming out of his mouth are almost like a "jumping" sound, it is almost impossible to form a complete sentence, but if you use logic, his words have no problem, and even show a high emotional intelligence.
"Don't be so modest," Tu Lei interjected, "let's look at his work and see what miracles he has done." ”
Subsequently, the list of honorary titles such as "South Bank District Self-Improvement Star", "Chongqing Top Ten Most Beautiful Families", "National Disabled Hardball Championship Gold Medal", "National PetS Examination Certificate for the Disabled" and other honorary titles was announced.
In addition, Li Guanyanping also translated his own works into English, which were completed on the basis of self-study, on the other hand, he was also very interested in traditional Chinese culture in China, and wrote some of his own poems.
On the spot, he also read one of his works, The Fruit Kissed by a Worm, which is also in full English, but mixed with typical oriental aesthetics.
Li Guanyanping's mother added: "He wrote this poem when he was twenty-five or six years old. He wrote it by accident after I did something very out of the ordinary. As I read these verses, I suddenly felt that my son really understood how I felt. ”
The secret behind the prodigy
Li Guanyanping's mother continued to talk about her "shameless" and "cruel" behavior.
"My son was born prematurely for about 6 months and 20 days and weighs only 2 kilograms and 82 pounds," she said. He was born with a low weight and was taken home after 12 days in an incubator. Doctors initially made it clear that the baby might not be as healthy.
However, Li Guanyanping's mother did not notice the doctor's words, she felt that since her son survived, she should raise him well, which is also a kind of fate, and the family is still very confident.
In 1990, when Xiao Li Guanyanping was more than one year old, his family noticed something different, he was different from other normal 1-year-old children, and he did not even learn the basics of standing, sitting or climbing.
Even under the normal diet, Li Guanyanping would spit out everything he ate, standing with one eye and one eye, never willing to take his thumb off his hand, always unwilling to open his legs when going to the toilet, and his toes were always tight.
In desperation, Li Guanyanping's mother took the child back to the hospital, and after the doctor's diagnosis and treatment, the final result was severe cerebral palsy.
The doctor chose to be honest with his mother: "There is no treatment for cerebral palsy of such a severe degree, either internationally or domestically. ”
In addition, the doctor personally recommended that she have another child, but at that time, the other child needs to prove it.
Li Guanyanping's mother felt very desperate, so she went home to discuss with her husband.
The result of the discussion between the two is that Li Guanyan is also old when he is born, even if he goes to life again, it still takes a lot of energy to take care of the "boss" usually, which is also untenable.
However, from the perspective of the traditional Chinese family, Li Guanyan's family is an expectation of the elders.
Li Guanyanping's father, Li Yanping, also told Tu Lei on the show: "I have a younger brother, but he is not yet married, so the family has a lot of expectations for having children." ”
However, Li Yan's parents belong to a more enlightened category, as to whether to have two more children, the old two are only listening to the children themselves to consider, do not make any demands.
Speaking of this, Li Guanyanping, who had been silent for a long time, said: "When my parents said this, I was really grateful, because I had a lot of sick friends around me. In the end, there are two outcomes, one is not to stick to rehabilitation, and finally give up, and the other is to have another child. ”
But the rehabilitation training mentioned by Li Guanyanping was started by the mother when the child was only 5 years old, which would also begin to be treated more formally, at first went to the pediatric hospital, the effect of coming back was very poor, so Li Guanyanping had to listen to some other methods and began to carry out targeted massage treatment for Li Guanping.
During this time, Xiao Li Guan Yanping often cried bitterly, the neighbors were confused, thinking that he was abusing his children, and Li's mother did not know who to talk to.
However, this kind of "cruel" approach is not understood by even the husband.
Therefore, at every point at the beginning of the rehabilitation massage, the couple will stage a "child-snatching war", usually one person grabbing the upper body of the body, one person grabbing the lower body, and if he succeeds, hiding the child from his wife.
Grandparents choose to raise their sons for the simple reason: "The child is already such a person, why not eat and drink and not think about anything else?" ”
At that time, Li's mother had always wanted to run a business, but she felt isolated and helpless, she was very angry and "ran away from home", driving from Chongqing to Chengdu alone, and then dialed the landline at home, which means that if you figure it out, you will come back to live, if you can't figure it out, don't live.
During this time, Li's mother also wrote her own diary and read a lot in front of the audience, and the audience felt her extremely contradictory emotions.
One of them said, "Since God has chosen to give me such a son, he is destined to live a lifetime in this world full of hardships and troubles, against the heavens, doomed to futile efforts, or accept." ”
In the end, Li's mother woke up and chose to go home to face all this, she continued to act in a "cruel" way in the eyes of others, and her goal was always to give her children dignity.
Tu Lei also turned his head to ask Li Guanyanping, "Were you injured at that time?" ”
The child replied: "It was a period of time, injuries can be said to be commonplace, one day at noon, outdoor rehabilitation training has just ended, but did not meet the requirements of discipline, back home, the mother is more cruel, can't help but say that her leg is broken, the pain is difficult to express, still angry." ”
It did scare her, she was scared, but she didn't want it to pass.
His father played the role of "gentle father" during his rehabilitation and education, and Li Yan said bluntly: "I can't do that." ”
Host Tu Lei concluded: "Li Guanyanping, your mother is to let you live a more dignified life, because with her, you can sit here today, show the glory of the past, express emotions, and even express one thing with emotions. ”
Li Guanyanping's reaction was also without thinking: "Yes." ”
Mom finally said: "I don't expect much from him, I want him not to lie in bed for the rest of his life." ”
Li Guanyanping did meet his mother's expectations, he was very good, even if he suffered from severe cerebral palsy, he also received a lot of honors.
In the past, the training that made the family feel cruel finally exercised a son with cerebral palsy who was more cattle than normal people, such a mother, carrying pressure along the way, was much more than normal people.
As Tu Lei said: give dignity; in fact, far more than that, Li Guanyanping's mother also gave him money to settle down, so that he could rely on himself and shoulder heavy responsibilities.
Turning to the South Bank Newspaper's evaluation of Li Guanyanping: Li Guanyanping is a cerebral palsy patient, but also a talented translator and music lover...
In 2022, Li Guanyanping's name was also searched to a music platform and his profile, one of his identities is a freelance music writer, and he also wrote a song for TFboy.
Under the multiple identities, the seeds sown by Li Guanyanping and his mother's past efforts finally sprouted and blossomed, ushering in a beautiful day.