Tutoring Record: Judging right from wrong from breaking the mirror to teach children!

On Sunday night, Guo'er broke the mirror used to practice hip-hop at home.

He thought it was funny, carried the broken mirror in front of me, and showed me with joy: "Mom, look! The mirror is broken! Hahaha....."

A mirror is not important, but I must figure out the causes and consequences, and guide the fruit to learn to judge right and wrong, and take responsibility for myself.

○ According to the child's private complaint, take appropriate punitive measures!

I asked him calmly, "Who broke the mirror?" ”

Guo'er said with some pride: "Me! ”

I remained calm: "Think about it, why did it break?" Deliberate or careless? ”

The smile on Guo'er's face gradually disappeared, and she said apologetically, "I did it on purpose." Mom, I'm sorry! I'll never do that again! ”

Me: "Are you sure it was intentional?" ”

Fruit: "Hmm! ”

I said solemnly, "Then you're going to the penalty station!" Deliberately breaking the mirror is a serious mistake, go against the wall for 10 minutes and think about why the mirror was broken! ”

Guo Er sipped her lips, and with some nervousness and some embarrassment, she went to stand against the wall for 10 minutes.

○ Use a gentle tone and body language to guide your child to review the incident!

When I said, "It's time," Guo'er relaxed and motioned for me to come down to me.

I took Guo'er's hand and gently asked, "How did the mirror break just now?" ”

Guo'er said: "Dad deliberately pushed me, I accidentally bumped into the mirror, the mirror fell to the ground and broke." ”

Me: "Are you sure Dad deliberately pushed you?" ”

Fruit: "Sure! ”

○ Express trust in your child and help your child find the "initiator"!

Me: "Then let's go find Daddy!" ”

Guo'er ran to his father and dragged him: "Daddy, come here!" ”

His father said he didn't want to come over, so I walked over and asked, "Did you just deliberately push the fruit?" ”

Papa Guoer: "I didn't push him!" He hit it himself! ”

Guo'er was anxious and yelled at his father, "You pushed me!" It's you! ”

I quickly gave Guo'er's father a look and said to Guo'er's father, "Guo'er is an honest little friend, I believe what he said is true; Dad, you have to prove that you did not push Guo'er, otherwise you are lying!" ”

Papa Fruit: "I'm sorry! I pushed him! ”

Me: "Did you mean it?" ”

Guo'er's father performed a crying expression: "Hmm! ”

○ Use logic that children can understand to guide children to distinguish between right and wrong!

I asked Guo'er, "You see, your father deliberately pushed you, is he wrong?" ”

Fruit: "Daddy, he did it wrong!" ”

Me: "Daddy pushed you and made you accidentally knock down the mirror and the mirror broke, did you do anything wrong?" Think about it! ”

Guo'er thought for a moment and said with great certainty, "I didn't mean it, I'm not wrong!" ”

Me: "So who do you think needs a penalty stand?" ”

Guo'er: "Daddy is going to punish the station!" I don't have to! ”

I raised my voice and told Papa Guo'er, "Daddy, you're doing something wrong!" Apologize to Guo'er first, and then go to the penalty station for 10 minutes! ”

Guo'er went to urge his father to punish the station, and reminded: "Daddy, you have to stand well, like I just did, put your hands next to your legs, don't move, think about it." ”

○ Use language that your child can understand and guide your child to take responsibility for yourself!

After Guo'er took care of his father's penalty station, I motioned for him to come to me and asked, "Think again, does the broken mirror have anything to do with you?" We discussed, who will manage this mirror? ”

Guo'er: "I manage because I want to use street dance." ”

Me: "Then did you put the mirror in place?" Is it well managed? ”

Guo'er: "I didn't put it away." ”

Me: "So, if the mirror breaks today, are you responsible?" ”

Guo'er: "What is the responsibility?" ”

Me: "Responsibility is the item you are responsible for, and you have to protect it." ”

Guo'er: "I didn't protect the mirror, I'm responsible!" ”

Me: "Think about how to make the mirror not break." ”

Guo'er: "I put the mirror in place, put it behind the table, and I don't let it fall, and I don't knock it down." ”

Me: "That's right! Praise you for thinking hard and thinking of a great way to protect your mirror! ”

○ Guide the child again to clarify the logic behind right and wrong, and increase the mental interpretation experience!

Me: "Think again, why did your mother let you punish the station today?" ”

Goe: "Because I broke the mirror." ”

Me: "If you deliberately break the mirror, you have to punish the station; if your father tripped you and you accidentally broke the mirror, in fact, you don't need a penalty station, it is your father who needs a penalty station!"

But at the beginning, you said that you deliberately broke the mirror, and your mother didn't know the truth, so she let you stand. Think about it, what should you do when you encounter such a thing in the future? ”

Guo'er: "Think about whether I did it on purpose." ”

Me: "That's right! We must first distinguish whether the mistakes we have brought are intentional or unintentional; the same errors, different reasons, we get different results.

If you told your mother at the beginning today that the mirror would break because your father deliberately pushed you, then your mother would not let you stand. ”

Guo'er: "Well, I see. I'll think about it later! ”

Me: "Praise for your seriousness in analyzing this matter with me!" Play on it! ”

Guo Er jumped, and did not forget to remind his father to punish the station well, and then went to the side of the fun.....

○ Write at the back

It took me about half an hour to deal with the fact that Guo'er broke the mirror! It seems that this matter is insignificant and does not seem to be worth such a "fuss".

For ordinary children, there are causes, the same objective errors, different subjective reasons, then the results of the parties must be different.

But for genealogy children, this ability to correctly attribute and correctly interpret does not necessarily develop automatically with age, especially in our lives to deliberately accumulate bit by bit.

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