When it comes to qiao zuwang, many people say that he is selfish.
Idle all day, wandering in the casino, throwing everything outside the house to his wife Wei Shuying.
Even when Wei Shuying gave birth, he was not in a hurry, he didn't care.
The sister-in-law ran to the casino and called him to the hospital to see his wife give birth, and Qiao Zuwang still muttered in his mouth: "Which woman does not have children, and then it is not the first child..." ”
A man like Qiao Zuwang is probably what we often call a hand-throwing treasurer, wantonly enjoying his wife's contribution to the family, but he still feels that the other party is not enough to make him more worry-free, and he is eager to let his wife bear all the burdens alone.
However, although Qiao Zuwang is selfish, from another point of view, Qiao Zuwang's selfishness is not connived at by his wife Wei Shuying.
Fertility machines
Wei Shuying, the biggest ignorance, I think is that she allowed herself to become a fertility machine.
Her husband is unreliable, Wei Shuying herself should be very clear in her heart, knowing that there is such a hanging child Lang Dang, irresponsible husband, Wei Shuying also allowed herself to be pregnant and give birth to children one after another.
If you have to say that in that era, many families pursued more children and more blessings, but when Wei Shuying was born in July 7, she had already given birth to four children, even at that time, there were many four children.
But Wei Shuying was still not satisfied and continued to live one after another.
In fact, according to the plot, Qiao Zuwang should not be so obsessed with the number of children, after Wei Shuying's death, Qiao Zuwang quickly gave Qiqi to his sister-in-law to raise, and later gave Qiao Simei to outsiders.
Of course, the fact that his wife died and could not raise so many children on his own was on the one hand, but on the other hand, it could also show that Qiao Zuwang did not have such a strong demand for the number of children in his heart.
By analogy, since Qiao Zuwang did not have such a deep obsession with the child, it could only be said that Wei Shuying wanted to be angry herself.
Wei Shuying knows that her husband is unreliable, the family conditions are tight, and she can't afford the consumption of so many children, she still has no remorse for giving birth to a child, this is not selfish what is it?
Wei Shuyingguang thought about having a child, but she didn't care at all whether she could get a good living environment after the child was born, so under her seemingly gentle and virtuous appearance, I felt that her inside was even more irresponsible and selfish than Qiao Zuwang.
When Wei Shuying gave birth, what was Qiao Yicheng doing? He was cutting potatoes at home to cook rice, when he accidentally cut his finger and the blood flowed.
Logically, Qiao Yicheng is only a child, at this age, he should be playing with his friends or seriously reading and writing homework, but because there are too many children at home, Qiao Yicheng, who is still a child, has to take on the responsibility of adults in advance.
Because of Wei Shuying's irresponsible production, little Qiao Yicheng lost the carefreeness of children and contaminated the burden and pressure of adults in advance.
After Wei Shuying died in childbirth, it was the real beginning of Qiao Yicheng's nightmare.
The mother's burden was all lost to Qiao Yicheng, and Qiao Yicheng would be seriously ill when he ended up, probably inseparable from the worries and struggles of his younger siblings in those years.
Later, fortunately, Qiao Yicheng was admitted to college by himself, and also met his wife Nanfang, who was very good to him, otherwise, Qiao Yicheng's life would have been ruined by selfish parents.
Wei Shuying's behavior made me think that there are many middle-aged couples in society now, and after the first-born children grow up and become a family, they live their own small lives, and they may not be as dependent on their parents as they were when they were young.
At this time, middle-aged couples will have another child, when others ask them you are so old, if you have another child can afford to raise? Middle-aged couples will say that anyway, the big one has grown up and can earn money to support the family, but it is really not possible to let him help take care of the younger brother or younger sister.
Such a middle-aged couple is undoubtedly selfish, they only care about their loneliness, so they want to have another child to relieve their boredom, but they have never considered for the children above, why let the older child bear the responsibility of parents?
When you want children, do you ask too big opinions? If you have the ability to raise a child, if you are not able to have a child for selfish purposes, you forcibly increase the responsibility to another child, this is a typical manifestation of selfishness and irresponsibility.
Wei Shuying in "Children of the Qiao Family", I think there is a shadow of this type of parent.
What makes me feel speechless is that Wei Shuying knew that she was going to give birth, so in order to save a few cents, she had to endure the pain to go to the hospital, which led to her difficult delivery, missed the opportunity to give birth, and paid the price of life.
Say good to hear a little Wei Shuying this is diligent and thrifty to run the family, reluctant to spend money, want to leave the money to the family to raise children, say ugly, Wei Shuying is not clear, for a little money, and finally take his own life, resulting in the family completely into a crisis, but also brought greater misfortune to their children.
Indulge Joe Zuwang
Qiao Zuwang's selfishness and lack of responsibility are also related to Wei Shuying's connivance.
Wei Shuying regarded herself as the kind of woman in the feudal era, regarding her husband as her own heaven, whether her husband was right or wrong, she would only obey but did not dare to correct it.
Regarding wei Shuying and Qiao Zuwang's daily life, it can be imagined according to the mouths of others.
When Aunt Wu complained about Qiao Zuwang, she mentioned that Wei Shuying had a big belly, and she had to serve Qiao Zuwang with tea and cooking rice, and even the toothpaste and toothbrush had to be laid out for Qiao Zuwang every day, and Qiao Zuwang was idle all day, regardless of home.
Wei Shuying didn't look like Qiao Zuwang's wife, but rather like Qiao Zuwang had hired a nanny.
Wei Shuying worked so hard and ended so tragically, I have to say that it is also related to her own raising her husband as a giant baby.
Wei Shuying is accustomed to taking care of the family and the outside of the home, making a big package, selfless dedication, not caring for her body, having children madly, not considering the actual situation, and conniving at her husband to be the treasurer.
In the long run, who will take her efforts seriously?
In a family, if one person pays for a long time, another person will inevitably breed laziness and develop the vice of evading responsibility.
Wei Shuying raised Qiao Zuwang's selfishness infinitely, and Wei Shuying herself gave birth to children selfishly one after another, focusing only on the number of children and not caring about quality, and as a result, she suffered the children.
Qiao Zuwang's personality is soft and afraid of hardness, but if Wei Shuying is willing to make up his mind to control him and let him take on the responsibility of his father, then neither Wei Shuying himself nor the children will be so miserable.
Regarding Qiao Zuwang's personality of bullying soft and afraid of hard, this can be seen from Qiao Yicheng's report on Qiao Zuwang's gambling here, since Qiao Yicheng reported Qiao Zuwang, Qiao Zuwang has become much more honest.
Even Qiao Yicheng this child can scare Qiao Zuwang, Wei Shuying and Qiao Zuwang have lived for many years, Qiao Zuwang's disposition, she can not not understand, but she is not cruel to punish Qiao Zuwang, unwilling to control her husband, let Qiao Zuwang let go, the result is not only to cause her own difficult birth and death but also to make the children also involved.
Therefore, Wei Shuying's ending will end up so miserable, although it is pitiful, but I feel that she does not deserve sympathy.
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