Writer Sanmao said that it is impossible to make friends without conditions.
Even if young children play together, they must pay attention to the similar interests of both parties and whether parents can be in tune. Not to mention the friendship of adults, there are things that each other values in order to maintain.
Some people think that there should not be so many requirements and ideas between friends, eating and drinking together at the wine table, hooking up with each other to call brothers and brothers, and patting their chests "everything is wrapped around me", so that they are real friends.
However, the promise under the wine, and a few people take this relationship seriously, really regard such a relationship as a friend, I am afraid that when you really have a need, you will only be disappointed.
What kind of person can be counted as a true friend? Maybe sometimes we can't see it that clearly.
Some people say that borrowing money is the best way to test the feelings between people, and friendship is no exception.
On the Internet, I saw that some people said that their family members were sick and needed surgery, originally this money was not much, he was able to take it out, but over the years he did not help his friends around him, and even the hundreds of thousands of yuan lent out were not recovered.
Taking advantage of this opportunity, he wanted to see which of his friends were real friends and which ones did not need to come and go again. So I sent messages to my friends one by one, explaining my situation.
However, the person who once patted his chest and repeatedly promised when borrowing his money, "If you are killed in the future, I will definitely help you", because these tens of thousands of yuan are spent half a day, and the money owed is still no news, and there is no way to borrow money.
There are also some who have become friends because of their usual business dealings, and the information has not been returned, as if they have not seen it at all. The author said that the last people to visit the hospital with gifts were friends who lived very ordinary lives.
They usually did not communicate closely, and he did not inform them of the loan this time, but they took the initiative to come to the door after learning the news, although the money they brought was not much, but it made him feel what a real friend was.
The act of borrowing money once clearly sees the people around you, who are friends, who are pretending to be friends.
Although friendship cannot be completely measured by money, it is out of love for others to help you, and it is also duty not to help.
But to find you when he needs you, to reject you when you need, such a relationship can not maintain the balance of needs of both sides, just unilateral payment, why continue?
If you know that your friend has no money, you must let him lend you money, which is difficult for strong people and is wrong with you. But as a friend, knowing that you have difficulties, helping you is just a show of hands, but I refuse to look at you more.
Such a person is definitely not a true friend. Barely maintaining a relationship is just ineffective socializing, and it is completely unnecessary.
Because no matter how much you give, you can't get it in return, so you don't have to waste your feelings, and you don't have to make a big fuss and be grumpy, after all, others have no obligation to help you.
Sanmao once said that there should be no money dealings with friends.
Lending money to a friend has the potential to destroy your friendship. Unless you can be like Mr. Hu Shi, if you borrow it, you will not ask for it to return it. However, the friendship of borrowing money and not repaying it may only be so once or twice, and it cannot be maintained for a long time.
But if friends can talk about money calmly, such a relationship will be stronger. After all, living in this big environment, no one can live as an island, and people have one connection or another.
A person will inevitably have a time when the hand is tight and the funds cannot be rotated, at this time, you can have a friend to reach out and solve the urgent need, which represents your success in interpersonal relationships.
And if you use your friend's money, you must also show your sincerity, and don't take it for granted that others help you. There is no absolutely free lunch in this world, and if others help you because of friendship, you must also take out your own sincere return.
Know that the relationship that can lend you money is worth cherishing for a lifetime. Because today's life is fast-paced, everyone is under a lot of pressure, and making money is not so easy.
Borrowing money, on the whole, is still embarrassing.
There is a saying in "Beijingers in New York" that you can talk about anything, that is, don't talk about money, which points out the subtlety of talking about money between people.
If it's not a last resort, don't talk about money. Borrow money that can be solved by banks and other channels, and don't easily open your mouth to friends, unless you feel that the relationship is dispensable and not important.
If a friend borrows your money, everyone rejoices. If your friends hesitate, your future interaction will be greatly reduced.
Borrowing money to test people's hearts is mostly disappointing. Therefore, in order not to be too out of balance in your own psychology, some things are best avoided.
After all, more often, the meaning of friends to us ordinary people is nothing more than a journey of life. As for how long it will be, we have no expectations after adulthood.
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