In the original "Double Sided Tape", there is such a detail.
Knowing that her son Li Yaping had to work overtime and could not go home for dinner, her mother-in-law turned off the braised pork she had made in exchange for the previous leftovers, on the grounds that there was no one at home.
No one at home? Aren't she, Li Yaping's father and Hu Lijuan not human? In fact, this is the idea of male superiority and female inferiority, in the eyes of Hu Lijuan's mother, she and Hu Lijuan only deserve to eat leftovers.
Hu Lijuan also has a job and an income, but she is not even qualified for her husband to eat a bowl of braised meat, and before marrying Li Yaping, she is also the pearl in the palm of her parents, the heart and liver baby of her parents, and she can eat whatever she wants.
When encountering such a mother-in-law, which daughter-in-law can stand it?
Tu Lei said that the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between mother-in-law and son-in-law, we must do two sentences, regard it as our own care, and treat each other as guests.
Regard as your own love, that is, your son is a son, and the daughter of others is also pregnant in October, why do you say that my son I pulled the big one, although the people are two pulling big, it is also the flesh that fell from the body, you have to hurt two as much, and even more pain to your own daughter-in-law. The heart should be treated as a relative, but it must be done as a guest.
If you are unable to treat your daughter-in-law kindly and adopt a double-standard attitude toward your son and daughter-in-law, why should you ask your daughter-in-law to honor you and treat you like a mother? In the mother's place, she is a small cotton jacket, a pearl in the palm of her hand, a little princess held by her parents in the palm of her hand, as long as the daughter's request is not too outrageous, they can meet it, and they will do their best.
If you have no grace for your daughter-in-law, no kindness to your daughter-in-law, but when you are old, you want to enjoy her success and continue to summon your daughter-in-law in the name of filial piety, how can it be? Only affection can be exchanged for affection, and only if you treat her kindly, you deserve her gratitude.
"I also met a mother-in-law like Li Yaping's mother, and I was chilled by her, fortunately, I didn't meet a husband like Li Yaping, and my husband is still OK."
For her mother-in-law, Ms. Dong has a stomach complaint, fortunately, her situation is not bad, and she is very relieved to meet a husband who is still reliable.
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Ms. Dong and her husband are college classmates, the two people experienced a beautiful campus love, survived the test of the graduation breakup season, survived a year of long-distance love, and finally stepped into the palace of marriage hand in hand and became a husband and wife.
When they got married, Ms. Dong did not live with her in-laws, and the parents of both sides gave a part of the money to buy them a house, so that they had their own small home in the city and could live in the world of two.
"Before my in-laws came into the future, my husband and I almost didn't argue about doing housework, and whoever had time and saw where they needed to get it did it. Since my husband often needs to work overtime, I usually cook, and when he rests, it is his turn to take charge. When it was time to clean up, he climbed up and down, wiped the glass, and I washed things, chatting and working at the same time, not feeling tired at all. ”
Usually, when she returned home for the New Year, Ms. Dong felt a headache, only because her mother-in-law had always adopted a double-standard attitude towards her son and daughter-in-law.
During the New Year, the work is the most, the in-laws on their own age, physical weakness can not climb up and down the cleaning, wash can not move the heavy quilt as the reason, did not do a big cleaning, this Ms. Dong can understand, but also willing to work with her husband to help the in-laws to do some work.
However, as soon as it was time to work, the mother-in-law kept calling her son, either pulling her son to accompany her relatives to nag, or asking her son to run errands, anyway, she did not give her son the opportunity to do housework, she did not do it herself, the pressure was pressed on Ms. Dong's body, resulting in Ms. Dong going to her in-laws' house for the First Time for the New Year, more tired than going to work.
Fortunately, the husband understood Ms. Dong's grievances, and the next year, he chose to go back to each family to find his mother, as for his parents were not happy, he went to get it done, so that Ms. Dong could go back to her mother's house with confidence.
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However, half a year ago, Ms. Dong gave birth to a son and broke her sweet life.
"My son was born, the whole family is very happy, confinement is my mother's service, but my grandmother can't do without people there, my mother must go back, can't help me with the baby." I also didn't want to be a full-time wife and wanted to go out to work, so the work of taking the baby could only be handed over to my mother-in-law. ”
Ms. Dong's mother-in-law loves her grandson very much, and she is eager to hold her hand all the time, and when she hears her daughter-in-law's request to help her with the baby, she immediately agrees and lives in Ms. Dong's house.
After the mother-in-law came, she did help Ms. Dong, the mother-in-law's parenting experience is very rich, the child is well taken care of, so that Ms. Dong can work with confidence, for this, Ms. Dong is very grateful to the mother-in-law.
However, what makes Ms. Dong feel bitter and dissatisfied is that her mother-in-law still adopts a double-standard attitude towards her son and daughter-in-law.
"My husband and I both need to go to work, ten hours a day, because our company is far away, I arrived home later, but my mother-in-law still stopped my son and called me to do housework."
Fortunately, Ms. Dong's husband knows that she hurts her wife, and does not listen to her mother at all, either directly pointing out that her mother is not, or ignoring her mother's obstruction, she goes into the kitchen, gives her a hand, and returns to the house to comfort her wife.
"When I saw that I bought the courier, my mother-in-law jumped to her feet, in fact, most of what I bought was not for my own use, but for my husband and children, and she said that I was wasting money while using it."
Ms. Dong's husband counted down his mother while asking his wife to write the consignee as him, saying that he bought it.
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After the mother-in-law came, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law deteriorated rapidly, if it were not for the fact that the mother-in-law helped her bring the baby and the husband was still OK, Ms. Dong would have turned her face with her long ago.
However, something happened a few days ago, which made Ms. Dong intolerable and decided to send her mother-in-law away.
"That day, due to discomfort, I left work early, came home and saw pork belly on the table, casually asked my mother-in-law what to eat, and my mother-in-law told me that I ate braised pork at night, so I told my husband."
At six o'clock in the afternoon, her husband called and told Ms. Dong that there was an emergency in the company, he needed to work overtime, and it was estimated that he would not come back until about ten o'clock in the evening.
Then, a scene that made Ms. Dong intolerable happened, learning that her son was working overtime, the mother-in-law removed the braised meat and put it on the porridge, took out the pickles, let the daughter-in-law eat, as for the braised meat, wait until tomorrow when the son leaves work.
"Maybe, some people will think that this is a small thing, isn't it just drinking porridge?" Why can't you wait until the man is at home to eat a big meal? But I was wronged. Why? If the man is not there, I can only drink porridge? Am I not worthy of meat at 6,000 a month? How much is a pound of pork belly? How much is my salary enough for me to eat? In the past, I went to college, went home in the winter and summer vacations, not to mention braised meat, as long as I wanted to eat, no matter how expensive the seafood, my parents were willing to buy it for me. ”
Ms. Dong did not drink porridge, but returned to the house, and when her husband returned home, the tears of grievance could no longer be controlled. After learning what happened, the husband did not go to the mother to theorize, but decided to send the mother back to his hometown.
04.
Hu Shi said: "If we want to reap the good fruits of the future, we must strive to plant new causes for the present. One grain after another will be harvested in a full house. ”
Ten years to see the mother-in-law and ten years to see the daughter-in-law, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is also a causal relationship. If the mother-in-law can be kind to the daughter-in-law, in her most difficult time, that is, when the career and family can not be taken care of, try to help, be kind to the daughter-in-law, do not ask to treat her as a daughter, at least treat her as a part of the family, do not treat the son and daughter-in-law with a double-standard attitude, plant good causes, and when you are old, you need someone to take care of it, as long as you do not meet the daughter-in-law who has no gratitude, you will be able to get a happy old age.
Moreover, the reason why you are kind to your daughter-in-law is because she is your son's other half, the person who wants to spend your son's life, good for her, and good for his son.
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Xiao Qi, please comment: What do you want to say to your mother-in-law who does not treat your daughter-in-law well? Feel free to share your views in the comments section.