The father-in-law was hospitalized, and the mother-in-law was distressed that her son went to work during the day and accompanied her at night, hoping that the daughter-in-law could take care of her father-in-law in the hospital.
The daughter-in-law feels inappropriate, after all, there is a difference between men and women, the other party is a father-in-law, and the identity is embarrassing. Moreover, he also had to work during the day, which was also hard, so he refused his in-laws' request.
Therefore, the mother-in-law feels that the daughter-in-law is not filial piety, and the father-in-law's speech is even more difficult to hear", "just when the daughter-in-law dies", and what is even more strange is that the son also feels that the wife is not doing the right thing. I have to say that the family's thinking is different.
This is a bridge section that took place in the TV series "Double Sided Tape". Li Yaping and Hu Lijuan are a small couple who love each other, Li Yaping is from the northeast, and Hu Lijuan is a native of Shanghai. Originally, their marriage was not optimistic.
However, the girl is outgoing, Hu Lijuan insists on marrying Li Yaping, who has nothing, and he also promises not to live with her in-laws after marriage, and will care for Hu Lijuan for a lifetime, so Hu Lijuan's parents can only accept.
When the two got married, Hu Lijuan's parents took out 130,000 yuan to sponsor them to buy a house, while Li Yaping's parents only gave 20,000 yuan.
However, this 20,000 yuan in Li Yaping's heart is the full love of his parents for him, which cannot be measured by numbers.
But he used the money taken out by Hu Lijuan's parents with a straight face. If the husband and wife have always been in love, it does not hurt, but with the arrival of the in-laws, the peace of life has been broken.
First of all, Li Yaping punched his face with the words "parents do not live with him", he said that it was just a joke, his parents only have their own son, and they will definitely be together in the future.
Unfortunately, Hu Lijuan has not been able to wake up, blindly immersed in her husband's vows to herself, underestimated the role played by her in-laws in marriage, and caused the tragedy of the subsequent marriage.
The factor that leads to the inability of their marriage to go on is also the "crossing the line".
In-laws' transgressions.
Li Yaping's parents have very serious feudal ideas in their bones, and they believe that if their son marries his daughter-in-law, he should serve his son well, take good care of his in-laws, and go to the hall and enter the kitchen.
Therefore, the mother-in-law felt that Hu Lijuan was too lazy and unwise, especially when she saw her son, who had been holding her for 18 years, but had to take care of another woman who suddenly broke into his life.
The father-in-law felt that Hu Lijuan was not filial piety, and he thought that his daughter-in-law would serve herself dutifully like a daughter.
In the face of his parents' accusations against his daughter-in-law, Li Yaping hoped that Hu Lijuan could listen to his parents in everything, because it was not easy for them to raise themselves.
Hu Lijuan, who has been pampered since childhood, has never suffered so many grievances. She believes that when she got married, Li Yaping promised to take care of herself for the rest of her life, but she easily reneged on her promise. For the first time since their marriage, a rift arose between them.
We all know that love is a matter of two people, and marriage is related to the two families behind it.
Two people's affairs are easy to discuss, but two families become complicated. Originally, the children grew up and had their own families. When parents clearly withdraw from their lives and leave each other decently, they can get along harmoniously.
However, both Li Yaping's father and mother mistakenly brought feudal ideas to modern society in their treatment of their daughter-in-law, believing that their daughter-in-law should take care of the family without hesitation.
They felt that it was natural for their daughter-in-law to serve their in-laws, and they accused Hu Lijuan of not doing a good job, but they did not understand that they had crossed the line and the relationship between Hu Lijuan and Hu Lijuan.
Daughters-in-law and in-laws are not related by blood, and the love between each other comes from daily relationships and respect. Taking care of the in-laws, if the daughter-in-law is willing to do it, is out of love for the husband, from the love. If you don't want to, it makes sense.
However, Li Yaping's parents did not understand this truth, and they did not rely on it and did not spare it, and it was difficult for the strong. In the end, the contradiction between Li Yaping and Hu Lijuan was created, which affected their feelings. This is the premise that causes unhappiness in marriage.
The cross-border of the partner
Although marriage is a matter of two families, in the final analysis, it is still a small family of two to live a life, and the lighter and the most important are clearly distinguished.
Before marriage, parents are the closest people. Once you're married, your partner is your community of interests. Only when two people are in the same boat and work together can they create a happy life.
In the case where the partner is prejudiced by his own parents, as a man, he should know how to deal with the relationship, rather than one-sidedly supporting the parents or supporting the partner, and the consequences are difficult to bear.
When Hu Lijuan was criticized by her in-laws, Li Yaping either did nothing or let Hu Lijuan endure, and he often used a sentence of "My parents raised me not easy" as a reason, but ignored Hu Lijuan's feelings.
Your son grew up in the palm of his hand, and the daughter of other people's family is also afraid of it in her mouth, so why bear the harsh rebuke of your parents.
A woman does not care about money, does not care about status, but holds the idea of white head and old age and desperately marries you, when a man must know how to cherish.
However, whenever his parents said bad things about Hu Lijuan, Li Yaping did not actively establish a good impression of Hu Lijuan in front of his parents, but blindly connived at his parents and condemned Hu Lijuan one-sidedly.
What Li Ya usually says most often is that you let them go, you are diligent, you have a little eye color, learn to say beautiful words, and make them happy. But he did not think that when a person is not treated well, how can she give back to the other party with kindness?
Although Hu Lijuan's mouth is relatively bad, her heart is very kind. The in-laws said so many bad things and did many bad things, and she didn't bother too much, and in turn she also posted money stickers.
A woman marries you, marries you as a person, not marries your family. Husbands and wives have the obligation to take care of each other, but there is no responsibility to take care of the in-laws.
It is precisely because of Li Yaping's confusion that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has further deteriorated. Hu Lijuan's inner depression was too much, so that she did not choose her words and said a bunch of excessive words to her mother-in-law.
Li Yaping killed Hu Lijuan for the first time, even in this case, Hu Lijuan still wanted to call the emergency at the first time and sent her mother-in-law to the hospital.
The in-laws' family crossed the line of the mother-in-law's family
In the marriage of Li Yaping and Hu Lijuan, there is also Li Yaping's family's cross-border against Hu Lijuan's mother's family.
Li Yaping's brother-in-law's factory wanted to raise funds, because he couldn't get 200,000 yuan at once, and his sister thought of his brother.
Li Yaping and Hu Lijuan both had to repay the mortgage and did not have much savings in their hands. However, the sister kidnapped with affection and forced Li Yaping to borrow money from Hu Lijuan's mother's family.
In this matter, if Li Yaping can clearly understand right and wrong and resolutely refuse, there will be no money entanglement behind him.
But both Li Yaping and his sister and parents take it for granted that Hu Lijuan has an obligation to help her sister and brother-in-law.
They believe that Hu Lijuan married into his own family, that is, he is a member of his own family, and if there is a difficulty in the family, he must be the same. As Hu Lijuan said, Li Yaping's family has good things that they can't think of themselves, but when they pay for it, they push themselves out.
Although Hu Lijuan's mother was greedy for money, if it were not for Li Yaping's confusion, Hu Lijuan would never have opened this mouth to her parents.
In the marriage of Li Yaping and Hu Lijuan, there are too many things that cross the line, which leads to their final direction, which is bound to fall apart.
Many women have naively thought that after her husband gets married, her mother-in-law will be her mother, and she will naturally become his daughter. But in fact, he put himself in the wrong position at the beginning.
In turn, the in-laws are the same, the son marries the daughter-in-law, the other party is only the son's partner, he has no right to dictate their lives. If you want to maintain a harmonious family relationship, you must know how to respect each other, which is an important prerequisite.
The most important thing is that men in marriage should learn to coordinate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Instead of feeling that the mother-in-law says that the mother-in-law is reasonable, the daughter-in-law says that the daughter-in-law is reasonable, and only one side is partial to the other, so that there is a gap between the husband and wife.
Not only to deal with the affairs of husband and wife, but also to draw a clear line between parents and siblings and their own families, as well as between parents-in-law and their own families.
Only in this way, the relationship between husband and wife will not be too trivial, as long as the emotional foundation is there, most of them can go on intact.
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