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When we were children, we were always carefree, every day looking forward to the arrival of the 2nd day, but since we grew up, happiness seems to leave us, when we are in the society, for a little performance and constantly strive for, the heart will be extremely hopeful that there can be someone around us to accompany us, even if he can not help, but as long as we comfort us when tired, or send a word of encouragement, the heart will be warm.
It's just that the ideal is very full, the reality is very bone, everyone who works hard in society has to bear huge pressure, if every day's life is two points and one line, where does everyone have time to fall in love? Not to mention getting married.
Marrying the person you love is certainly happy, but if you have to embark on the road of blind date because you are old, and find someone to get a license, such a life is bound to be boring and helpless.
Some people also said that even marrying someone who loves each other may not have good results, after all, marriage is different from falling in love, it is not romantic romance, but the bitterness of chai rice oil and salt and chicken feathers, especially when you change from the life of one person to the life of two people, you will understand the true appearance of marriage.
Nowadays, young people marry late has become the trend of the times, in addition to the reasons for too much work pressure, it is also inseparable from the measurement of the economy.
Young men and women marry not only require a dowry, the man must also have a car and a house and a deposit, at least have the ability to support the family, if the man in his 30s and nothing, then he is facing not only the problem of personal survival, but also the possibility of a single stick for a lifetime.
There are also many people who take the initiative to be single, they have career ability, but because they are afraid of marriage, they prefer to be single.
The same is true of women, but most of the capable or learned people have entered the ranks of singles, and they do not want to get married, they just do not want to settle.
Some time ago, an "older leftover girl" in the north drift actually came up with her own story, she cried and complained: "After the age of 34, I realized that I was wrong." What's going on here? Let's take a look.
Hu Yueyue is 34 years old this year, so far, she has been working hard in Beijing for five years, and the purpose of coming to Beijing at the age of 29 is not to work, but to escape the blind date arranged by her parents.
Hu Yueyue did not like the man introduced by the family, so she ran away, and now 5 years later, she is still single, living alone in Beijing, living a seemingly glamorous but lonely life inside.
Saying that she is not anxious is false, Hu Yueyue's heart is actually particularly anxious, and she is particularly afraid that she will not be able to marry. She had been in love before, and had never been rejected by anyone else, but she did not expect that since she was older, the judgment of the opposite sex would be overwhelming.
Whenever she tentatively made a request for love, the other party would actively refuse on the grounds of age, and what was more incomprehensible was that a man who hated her had even divorced, not only that, this man said in front of her that even if he married a woman who was married twice, he was not willing to marry Hu Yueyue.
After this experience, Hu Yueyue was even more afraid of marriage.
Hu Yueyue wants to get married not only for herself, she is mainly worried about her parents' accidents. When her parents were young, she did not think too much, but seeing that her parents were getting older, she needed to plan for the elderly in advance, plus she was the only daughter in the family, and once her parents' physical problems, the burden on her shoulders was heavier.
The last point is to worry about your future. People's life is long and long, short and short, when a person's life in his 20s does not feel anything, but after more than 30 years of loneliness in his heart will become heavier and heavier, whenever the night is quiet, the heart especially hopes that two people will rely on each other, quietly talk about intimate words.
Human life is limited, parents will leave her sooner or later, how can she still be alone at that time, and how should she live her life?
Believe in Hu Yueyue's anxiety every single person has thought about it, but no matter what, even if you are very eager to get married, don't rush into marriage, if you don't meet the right person, marriage will only bring you endless pain, rather than living like that, it is better to be dashing single.
Hu Yueyue has not found true love now, but this does not mean that she must live on the line, as long as a person has hope, no matter what age, she may meet the right person, do not give up hope, do not give up the ability to love, maybe the right person is waiting for you at the next intersection.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205