Xiao Wei, a senior high school student, could not go to school as scheduled because of the outbreak of the new pneumonia, and has been taking online classes at home for nearly two months.
In the last semester, the learning atmosphere was very tense, and there was a lot of homework, and Xiao Wei felt that he could adapt. Some of his classmates were diagnosed with depression and anxiety, needed medication and regular treatment, and could not attend classes normally.
Compared with them, Xiao Wei felt that his psychological quality was still relatively strong. Xiao Wei's academic performance is in the middle, he has no low requirements for himself, and hopes to redouble his efforts in the final stage, review more and sprint, so that the grades can go up to a higher level and be admitted to the ideal university.
Under the epidemic situation, I took online classes for two consecutive months, and the learning progress was very unsatisfactory, and Xiao Wei felt irritable and overwhelmed. Every morning at six o'clock, from the beginning of the day's study in the early reading, to the end of the evening, the whole body is very stiff, sore and painful. The amount of homework assigned by the teacher is very large, after class is the world of homework, Xiao Wei is very serious to do, until the night, the mind is tight. In this case, his own study plan could not be carried out at all.
For several nights, Xiao Wei felt severe pain in his eyes and dizzy in his head. Nowadays, the learning efficiency has greatly declined, the heart is very irritable, often can not listen to the class, when doing homework also feel resistant, Xiao Wei wants to restrain, but do more and more slowly, he is very anxious, how can he succeed in the college entrance examination!
Xiao Wei's situation is not unique, and the number of students in his situation is gradually increasing. Similar situations are complained about on the Internet, and there are many cases of seeking psychological counseling.
In the face of the domestic epidemic prevention situation and the international tension, for a child, it is necessary to digest the negative emotions brought by the epidemic, and at the same time, it needs energy to quickly enter the learning sprint state, which may produce feelings such as fear, nervousness, anxiety, and stress.
When the classroom is moved to the home, the amount of homework increases a lot, which will also cause unaccustomed and unsuitable. At the same time, the opportunity to communicate directly with peers and the opportunity to stretch outdoors are also understandably complex factors that cause physical and mental reactions. If the child itself is very demanding of himself, he will feel a big gap, produce a large negative emotion, and do not know how to solve it.
First of all, what needs to be put down is the perfect plan and requirements.
Three months ago, no one would have imagined that there would be such a huge epidemic that would disrupt the plans of the whole people. Therefore, there are many times in life, experiencing impermanence, experiencing imperfection, and experiencing good planning that needs to be flexibly adjusted.
And the current psychology of stress, fear, tension, affecting learning, this is a reminder, the most important thing at the moment is to adjust the heart, so that they can restore their strength to continue to struggle, rather than forcing the implementation of the learning plan is no longer the time to force the realization of the learning plan.
I have five suggestions for this:
First, you can go to your parents and good friends to talk about your heart,
Speak out your inner thoughts, feelings, and difficulties you encounter, so that your emotions can be released, and you can also get understanding, advice and help.
Second, readjust the plan and let go of the past requirements.
For example, in the past, all homework was completed conscientiously, and now it is necessary to adjust, divide the weight, some need to give up, reduce the burden and pressure, and communicate with the teacher if necessary. In the past, how many words to memorize and how many volumes to make in a day were adjusted to the speed at which they could be completed so far. When you can't listen to the lesson, allow yourself to take a break, let the body and mind relax a little and then continue.
Third, do something that nourishes the mind.
Many people feel that the study of the third year of high school is so intense, and all the time must be spent on learning! In fact, many students have given me feedback that it is not efficient to learn. Because, the all-round learning arrangement makes people feel very tired, and in order to get good grades, they will force themselves to persist, and learning will become painful.
Human nature is "the pursuit of happiness and escape from pain", if learning becomes more and more painful, the heart will become more and more resistant and escape. So I recommend that you don't give up your inner hobbies and pursuits, and do some happy and comfortable things, such as going for a walk, playing with your pets, and playing a ball, so that you can form a relaxed relationship with learning and achieve a psychological balance.
Fourth, take good care of your body.
Like Xiao Wei, eye pain and dizziness are signals from the body to rest and adjust work and rest. Originally, online classes are easy to overuse their eyes, and they need to be properly arranged. And physical discomfort can also lead to the aggravation of negative emotions. Therefore, listening to the signals sent by the body and loving the body is a big prerequisite for being able to study well.
Fifth, when negative emotions such as nervousness and irritability arise, do not blindly suppress and restrain.
You can use some techniques to release these emotions, such as writing down emotional feelings, or expressing them in the form of paintings. If you are unable to deal with it yourself, it is recommended to turn to professional psychological counseling for more effective treatment.
When minors encounter the sudden situation of the epidemic, and at the same time need to complete the learning task through the network, this may be a challenge, but also a learning opportunity, how to deal with emotions, how to respond, so that the inner psychological state does not affect the external learning state, is also another lesson under the epidemic.
Experts in this issue: Zheng Qijuan, director of the Psychological Counseling Center of Listening to the Bar, and national marriage counselor
Zheng Qijuan
Lead Consultant
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