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In the past, men always wanted to be generous in front of their girlfriends or wives in order to gain each other's favor and admiration, but now, many men have changed their past ideas, they prefer their girlfriends or wives to be independent, they are not willing to take on the responsibility of supporting the family, they hope that their girlfriends or wives are sincere in their feelings, a pure feeling that is detached from the material.
So, under the pretext of wanting pure love, they started asking for AA with their girlfriends or wives. They hope that the other party does not look at their own money, but their own personality, and they hope that their own charm has conquered the other party, not their own money has conquered the other party.
And those who do not have a girlfriend are also fantasizing about the kind of life that does not have to support their own families, do not have to spend their own money, and can get a girlfriend who is fully loved. They feel that they are right, they feel that they just want to pursue pure feelings, but they do not know that their behavior is in the eyes of women, that is a manifestation of no sense of responsibility
If in the early days when two people have a good feeling for each other, the man puts forward the request for AA system, then the woman's original good feelings for the man will absolutely disappear in an instant. Women will feel that men are particularly calculating, and will feel that men have no good feelings for themselves at all. Such a perception will separate two people. In this way, whether it is sincere feelings or pure feelings, he cannot keep them.
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The story of Wang Hai (pseudonym) is a typical example. He looked average, and his job was average, so he never had any feminine popularity. In the absence of a woman, he worked hard to catch up with his girlfriend, and finally was pried away by rich people. After that, he was always wary of women.
Later, he started a business and became a small boss, because he just had some money, so he always worried that women were with him for money. Because when he was poor before, those women had always ignored him, but since he had a little money, the woman's relationship suddenly improved, and the changes before and after made it difficult for him to trust a woman, so he was particularly cautious about making girlfriends.
He was never willing to buy gifts for the women he interacted with, went out to dinner, and never went to expensive places, that is, when the woman asked her to pay for it herself, he never rushed to pay the bill.
After a few relationships ended without success, he intensified, that is, to talk about a relationship with the woman AA system, but the result of his doing so was that several relationships, before they could start, died directly.
But Wang Hai still did not give up his idea of "only wanting pure love". In his conception, the woman who does not spend his money, does not want his money, and is willing to love him is the woman he wants to find, which is the purest love.
With that in mind, he couldn't find a girlfriend at all. Later, when there was no way out, he began to go on blind dates. Every time he went on a blind date, he would propose that the AA system must be made after marriage. He felt that it was better to put it forward directly, so that there was no need to waste each other's time, and if it was acceptable, it would continue to talk, and if it was unacceptable, then quickly change the target. After all, he had wasted too much time on his way to finding pure love, and he didn't want to waste it anymore.
Every blind date of Wang Hai, when they heard his request, felt that this person was particularly irresponsible, and some people still scolded in their hearts, thinking that this was a poor ghost and a scumbag, but they did not have the good sense to say some ugly words in person, they felt that as long as they did not contact each other later.
But not all women are so good at talking, and later, Wang Hai met a bad blind date Li Qian (pseudonym). When the two people first met, Wang Hai was still very satisfied with her, in the process of communication, he could see that the other party was a woman with high emotional intelligence and strong ability, and he felt that as long as the other party could accept the requirements of his post-marriage AA system, he was willing to continue to develop with the other party, and then marry.
He said the requirements of the post-marriage AA system with hope, hoping that the other party would readily agree, and then talk to him about a pure love, and then enter into marriage. But he only waited for the other party's refusal.
Li Qian not only did not agree to his request, but also shook him. To say that he is a scumbag, to say that a man like him is not self-aware, he not only has no self-knowledge, but also has no sense of responsibility.
To say that women are willing to get married is to find a good man, have children together, and support each other for a lifetime. The life that a woman wants is not two people who are obviously married, but also like strangers, every day you live yours, I live mine, such a marriage has no need to exist.
Li Qian is still not relieved after the end, she feels that this blind date met a superlative, want to get married, but do not want to support the family, this is not what the best is. She reacts so much, not because she wants to be raised by a man, she has her own ability, she can completely support herself, and even the ability to support her family is also there, but she is not used to this kind of man. She feels that whether women need it or not, men should have that sense of responsibility to support their families, so that a family can be cohesive, and such a home is like a home.
She felt that if she still wanted the AA system after marriage, the relationship between the two people would come to an end sooner or later, and how could such a relationship continue. After two people get married, life is definitely inseparable, and after having children, it is even more impossible to say clearly, if everything must be so clear, the woman must be the one who suffers losses, whether it is in the problem of having children, or the problem of raising children later, women will become the party that suffers losses.
If you didn't propose any AA system before, the family, the loss will suffer, there is nothing, but if it is so clear from the beginning, in the end it will have to suffer so much loss for women, who will be willing.
Finally, Li Qian sneered and threw out a sentence, if you want to AA system after marriage, then you will not have children and live in different places, she feels that this kind of "lonely life" work method is more suitable for Wang Hai. Obviously, this blind date failed again, and Wang Hai also suffered a certain degree of frustration.
From this we can see the following two truths.
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One: The more sincere the feelings, the more unable to do the AA system.
When many men propose the AA system, they say that they do this to find sincere feelings, because in their view, only those feelings that are not disturbed by money are the most sincere feelings. Therefore, they rightly put forward a request to the woman to have an AA system.
But in fact, these men are wrong. Because the more sincere the feelings, the more unable to do the AA system. Loving someone will want to give everything for her, you will want to give her the best you can, you will not want to worry about each other, nor will you want the other party to worry about you.
Sincere feelings are when the other party has difficulties, want to do their best to help each other, and there will be a sense of happiness when the other party helps themselves. Feelings of supporting each other are sincere feelings.
The so-called AA system not only does not get sincere feelings, but will destroy this feeling, so if you really want sincere feelings, then don't mention any AA system.
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Two: Men advocate the AA system, which has more or less selfish elements.
Many men, when advocating the AA system, claim that they are trying to get sincere feelings, and they simply do not admit that it is because of their selfishness. In today's society, the distance between people is getting farther and farther, and people are beginning to habitually keep a distance from people, but people are eager for a zero-distance relationship and a sincere relationship.
They hope to meet a person who does not want their money or their status, but they can't tell if the other person is that kind of person, so they will ask for AA.
In making such a request, men feel that this can test their feelings and allow him to keep his money without having to pay his own money for his feelings and family.
They don't really want to give anything, but they want to get the kind of feelings they want for free. They want it both and they don't want it responsibly. They want women to be able to give them sincere affection and be self-reliant without them having to give anything.
From here we can see that men advocate the AA system, more or less have selfish elements. Therefore, when a woman meets such a man, she should not consider continuing to develop.
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