If someone asks me which drama I like the most this year, I will definitely say that "The Season of Encounter" starring Lei Jiayin and Yuan Quan.
This drama mainly tells the story of the love-hate relationship between Jian Hong, played by Lei Jiayin, and Ning You, played by Yuan Quan. Through the story of "Four Masters of Linshui" in the play, people can see the cruel nature of marriage in real life. Marriage has never been happy for a long time by gratitude alone. Jian Hongcheng, played by Lei Jiayin, and his wife Chen Xin'er were very good college classmates during their college years. In college, he played Ning You with Yuan Quan, and Tian Jingye, played by Jia Nailiang, were jokingly called "Linshui Four Jie". After Jian Hongcheng dropped out of school early due to family changes, he went to Shenzhen alone to work and start a business. A teenager who has not yet graduated from college went to Shenzhen, where he had no relatives, to work and start a business, and the difficulties at that time can be imagined. At that time, he had no one to rely on, no one to count on, no friend, family, or anyone cared about his life or death. In his most difficult time, only Chen Xin'er was good to him, cared about him, and for him, he did not hesitate to break off relations with his parents, preferring to peek at the bidding for him with the danger of being banned by the industry. Although the tender was not what Jian Hongcheng asked her to steal, he did not read it at all, nor did he need to read it. But thinking about what Chen Xin'er had done for him, he was really touched in his heart, and at that time, he wanted to make her happy for the rest of her life.
However, when the two really live together and enter into marriage, they find that they are too far apart in terms of personality and lifestyle, and for a long time, they look at each other and get upset, slowly drifting apart. Only to find out that life is not just by impulse and gratitude. Married life is a long-term life together, married life is the trivial years of fireworks of chai rice oil and salt. At the beginning, when two people have different opinions, they may let each other, think of the other party's efforts for themselves, and will choose to give in, but this concession is based on the basis of wronging their own nature. However, if one is allowed to suppress one's own nature and cater to the other party, it can be said that it is almost impossible. The feeling of gratitude will also pass with the passage of time, and he will feel that he has repaid the other party for the time he has paid for himself, and this gratitude will slowly disappear. Murong Xi said: "A real marriage must be two like-minded people with the same values, the same attitude towards life, similar pursuits in life, and common beliefs. "Marriage also depends on the original family. In my culture over the past thousand years, marriage has always been about "door to door", and the concept of class is insurmountable, focusing on classes, such as nobles and commoners, it is almost impossible to have a marriage. With the development of society, we now advocate freedom of love, freedom of marriage, and the concept of class has been diluted, so it can be said that marriage does not have to look at their respective family backgrounds. When she was in college, Ning Yu did not want her mother to be angry because her brother would no longer be ill and did not want her mother to be angry, so she broke off contact with Jian Hongcheng, because she could not like Jian Hongcheng without a family vendetta, but she could not do it in the end, regardless of her brother's life and death. In this way, the two people who were originally in love have since parted ways.
When they are all middle-aged, they meet again by chance, and when they see each other, they only know that the love for each other has never disappeared. However, because the hatred of the people of the previous life has once again made them hostile, Jian Hong has spent 90 million yuan to resolve the contradiction, but has not been able to resolve it, and the hatred of the previous life of the original family is like a magic spell, so that they cannot escape. In the play, their good friend Tian Jingye once told Jian Hongcheng that he really wanted to see them come together and make him believe that there is still love in this world. However, in the finale, these two people who love each other still can't put aside the shackles of the original family, come together without hesitation, and finally can only get along like friends. Love can disregard the other person's family, but marriage cannot. Love is when two people like each other and love each other, and marriage is the intersection of two families. In the play, there is such a clip, Jian Hongcheng and Chen Xin'er take their son Xiao Sweet Potato to dinner together, during which the little sweet potato has no eating posture according to Chen Xin'er's request when eating, and the two quarrel. Jian Hongcheng believes that children are small, how to eat how comfortable to come, there is no need to go on the line, Chen Xin'er believes that this will affect the future growth, saying that her mother has also taught her this since she was a child.
Originally, I thought that this was just the difference in the concepts of the two people. It wasn't until later, when Chen Xin'er was with his mother, that he found that since the moment her mother saw Chen Xin'er, she had not stopped counting her. Chen Xin'er also listened to her mother's nagging all the way from childhood to adulthood, counting over, which deeply affected her attitude towards her children. This scene is a heart-wrenching scene that makes people see the story that Chen Xin'er experienced on the road to growth. How can such a family make her feel warm, when she meets Jian Hongcheng, who cares about her, it makes her feel warm and down-to-earth, so she would rather break off relations with her parents than be with Jian Hongcheng. Ancient marriages talked about "door-to-door pairs" that paid more attention to wealth, power, and class. Nowadays, the "door-to-door pair" we are talking about is more of a parent's attitude towards life and how to deal with people. Because these will deeply affect the attitude and behavior of their children towards the world. In "I Like Life As It Is", Zhou Guoping said this passage: Sex is a physical life, following the principle of happiness. Love is the spiritual life, following ideal principles. Marriage is social life, following the principles of reality. These are three completely different things. Love is purer, while marriage is more complicated. When in love, there is only each other in the eyes, after marriage, there are more rice, oil and salt in the eyes, parents of both sides, etc., which also makes people feel that the triviality and troubles of marriage. Happy marriages are the most taboo against self-righteousness. In "Meet the Season", Tian Jingye, played by Jia Nailiang, was sentenced to 3 years in prison for economic problems. After being released from prison, for the sake of his children, he quarreled with his wife Shao Yan as soon as he met. How did he think that after he went to prison, Shao Yan divorced him as an abandonment. He made financial problems, and in his opinion, he also made a mistake for his wife to make a better life. However, he never really understood that his wife really cared about those material needs. All this is his self-righteous judgment.
In marriage, people often make self-subjective mistakes. I always think that everything I do is for the sake of the other party. For example, sometimes making money, often leaving early and returning late, there is less time to communicate with lovers. When your lover wants to chat with you, but you fall asleep, or, lying on the couch and brushing your phone, and then go further, you quarrel. You shout that I get up earlier than the chicken and sleep later than the dog, not for the sake of this family, but for you. I wonder if you have ever wondered if your lover really needs that much money? Of course, money is important, but maybe in her eyes, money is enough, don't need that much, just ask her to be with her when she needs you. In the TV series "When the Wind Rises Again", fang Bangyan, played by Lu Yi, was involved in an order compensation case, and he actually filed a divorce from his lover He Xiaoying, who loved him very much from a young age. Although he filed for divorce so as not to drag her down, he would face huge compensation in this case. He also self-righteously did this for her own good. However, this was undoubtedly for He Xiaoying, who loved him very much, to insert a knife into her heart and make her heart bleed. Because for He Xiaoying, she hopes to face difficulties and setbacks with him, such an experience is really loving her and being good for her. Later, He Xiaoying said to him: "You don't let me stand with you to resist the wind and rain, and I have no ability, marriage without these, what is the meaning, but also lost his meaning." ”
What is a good marriage? A good marriage is not only the icing on the cake, but also the charcoal in the snow. Husband and wife are not when the flowers are blooming, but when the weather is cold, they can hug each other and keep warm; they need a tacit understanding that they do not abandon, and they are unforgettable affection; A good marriage needs love as the foundation, and also needs a "door-to-door" original family; a good marriage needs to remember each other's goodness and know how to be grateful, but gratitude alone cannot last; a good marriage needs to think differently, don't be self-righteous.