The child will explode the hair as soon as he is not happy, it may be that he has reached the sensitive period of order, and parents should guide him in this way

Have you ever seen the following scenes in your home?

The child can't wear his own clothes well, in order not to let the child get cold, you come forward to help. As a result, the child not only cries with anger, but also takes off the clothes that have been worn and puts them on again.

Faced with such a situation, many parents will say that today's children are too temperamental and like to work against adults. In fact, the reason why children have similar behaviors may be that they have entered a sensitive period of order.

The order sensitive period generally occurs between the ages of 2 and 4, mainly referring to the child's high sensitivity to the flow, order and location of things in daily life.

For example, the shoes you take off must be placed in the position you specify, and if the position changes, you will cry and cry, and you will put the shoes back in place again. If you pull your own poop, you must rush it yourself, and you have to say goodbye to the poop, and you must dare to rush him, and he can cry for a day and force you to change the poop back to the same.

After entering the sensitive period of order, children will continue to learn and summarize from the stimulation of the external environment, and gradually develop their own behavior and habit system. That is to say, those seemingly irrational behaviors can actually effectively help children gain knowledge accumulation and ability improvement.

So, what are the main manifestations of children reaching the sensitive period of order?

In the sensitive period of order, the core trait of the child is that everything is self-centered, and as long as it goes against the will of the self, it will lose control of emotions, shouting or collapsing and crying.

1. The position where things are placed cannot be moved.

For example, if a child puts a toy that is not playing on the ground, the parents put away the toy when they see it. When the child wants to play again, he will become restless when he finds that the position of the toy has changed.

2. The order of doing things is chaotic.

A mother told the story of her daughter. Her daughter learned a song about washing her hands in a picture book, and each time she washed her hands, she had to read and practice them in the order of the songs. If the order of the period is wrong, the daughter will be angry and start all over again.

3. Favorite toy items are not allowed.

Many parents have expressed doubts: their children are still very generous children when they are more than one year old, but at the age of two or three, they have completely changed their appearance, and they like toys and food, how to say that they are not willing to share with children.

In fact, it is not that children have become stingy, but that they have a certain understanding of the ownership and authority of the items. So, as you did in infancy, you can't tell what belongs to you and what belongs to others.

4. What you want to do can't help.

For example, if a child wants to draw a piece of paper from a carton, you take a piece of paper and hand it to the child, but the child inexplicably starts a fire.

When children are eager to solve problems on their own, parental hard help will be counterproductive, which will affect the child's emotions and destroy the opportunity to help children develop autonomous habits.

When it comes to the child's order sensitive period, the correct way for parents to deal with it should be as follows:

First, respect and understand the needs of the child and protect his sense of order.

The requirement for a sense of order is an intrinsic spiritual need of the child, and if the parents do the opposite, it will damage the child's intrinsic sense of value and achievement.

On the contrary, if parents respect their children's growth characteristics and reasonably meet their needs, the child's happiness index will increase, and their body and mind will also be benign growth.

Second, for the child's unreasonable requirements, we must actively guide and give the correct method.

For example, when you see your mother cooking, your child also wants to cut vegetables with a kitchen knife. Obviously, this is a dangerous thing that is outside the child's reach. So, does mom have to reject it outright? Of course not.

We can take some dishes for the child, while preparing a table and a safe knife for her, and patiently instruct the child on how to operate. Regardless of the outcome of the child's labor, the mother should put the child's "cut" dishes on the plate and sincerely say thank you to the child.

In this way, the child's autonomous needs and sense of achievement are satisfied, and the hands-on ability will also be improved.

Third, strengthen children's awareness of rules.

When the child does it right, timely affirmation and encouragement; when the child does not do it right, it is pointed out and corrected in time.

For example, after the child has played, the toys are neatly placed within a reasonable range. At this point, we can say, "It's awesome, you look like a little master of tidying up." ”

Instead, children insist on placing toys in a neat row in the aisle and not allowing others to touch them. At this time, we must guide the child correctly.

You can say, "Baby, Mom thinks you've got the toys in order, but putting them here will affect everyone's traffic." Wouldn't it be better to put toys in the playground? ”

Fourth, create a stable and orderly living environment for children.

A stable and orderly living environment can effectively reduce the child's uneasiness caused by the chaos of the outside world.

For example, parents like to clean up their homes and are accustomed to placing their belongings neatly and orderly, so that children will not feel anxious because of the chaos and disorder in the home.

At the same time, parents set an example for their children with good behavior habits and ways of doing things, which is also conducive to helping children establish a real sense of order and help children successfully pass through the sensitive period.

In the book "Capturing Children's Sensitive Periods", it is said that in sensitive periods, when children want to develop a ability, we must provide the right environment and conditions for them to better develop this ability.

For children, respecting their growth nature and giving scientific and reasonable guidance is the best gift that parents can give to their children.