Mother "lazy" was scolded on the hot search: women have a holiday is also attacked by people?

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Women have a holiday and are also netted?

Recently, the hot search on "Mother's Day" has been scolded again.

The reason is this chart:

This is a video released by the mother of the rice cake rushed to the hot search, the topic of the video discussion is: when the mother is lazy, should she be blamed?

Each scene in this video is a moment of emotional collapse in the daily life of mothers.

After reading it makes people super healed, there is a high praise comment in the message office, but it is maliciously watched.

Whether they are black or white, they directly splash each other with a basin of cold water:

"Feminists like you should be educated for ten years and then go online"

"Some women can crush their children to death when they sleep..."

"Poisonous chicken soup, why don't you make it earlier..."

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The vicious words and evil words on the screen have caused many netizens to argue, do mothers have their own holidays, do they need to explain to others?

You must know that they also have mothers, wives and sisters, and they have no blessings in the face of the sacred holiday of Mother's Day, but they are full of ridicule, their speech is not organized, and they do not even maintain the image of their own mother. Thinking about it, it is not chilling.

Mom's heart was tired, broken, not easy, and sure enough, no one felt the same way.

In this way, I talk about my own ideas, in fact, my mother is not lazy for a day off, and I have a great attitude with my father.

Whether the mother is "lazy" should be blamed or not depends on the attitude of the father

There is a saying on the Internet: The understanding between husband and wife is often better than any gift.

A family wants to be harmonious and happy, often have a heart of mutual understanding, the holiday thing, dad's attitude is particularly important, and listen to me why.

Last Mother's Day, I was lying on the couch chasing a drama while my husband washed dishes in the kitchen after dinner.

The daughter ran over and said:

"Dad, I just helped my mother mop the floor, now I'll help you wash the dishes."

Unexpectedly, after the husband listened, he did not praise his daughter, but said to the child very seriously:

"Hopefully, you won't help your mother anymore."

The daughter is confused, why can't she help her mother? The husband said in a serious tone, Pan Pan, you see dad washes the dishes every day, when did he say that he helped his mother wash?

When did my mother wash our clothes every day, and when did she say that she would wash them for us? None, because we are a family, we are all part of the family, usually my mother works hard to take care of the housework, today is my mother's holiday, let her rest for a day.

Housework we have responsibilities, more obligations, but the division of labor is different, every floor in each room is shared, in the future, don't say help your mother work, we are just doing our due responsibilities, do what we should do.

The mother-in-law heard everything in the kitchen and wanted to refute it, but she was stared at by her husband fiercely, and the words came to her mouth and swallowed back.

At that time, I was very touched to hear these words, thinking that I had given everything in this family, and now it is worth it.

Home is a whole, and everyone has responsibilities and responsibilities, not mothers alone.

And in a family, especially on Mother's Day, if the mother rests as a hand-thrower, and the father supports it, no one will blame.

On the contrary, if the father's attitude is arbitrary and does not understand, then on this day, the mother will definitely be blamed by the grandparents and outsiders.

Although, the understanding did not come first, but the accusations must be indiscriminate.

Therefore, whether the mother should be accused of being "lazy" or not, the father's attitude is very important. Because, Mom is just an identity, not Superman.

Mom is just an identity, not Superman

There is a debate in "Strange Story":

"Mom is Superman, is it really a compliment to Mom?"

Zhan Qingyun said:

The phrase "Mom is Superman" is an emphasis on and deification of the instinct of maternal love. To emphasize the instinct of one identity is to ignore the efforts and sacrifices of all individuals.

When an identity is given a sense of sacredness, does it mean that such people have to bear the same amount of pressure as ordinary people? ”

Zhan Qingyun's series of tortures from the soul instantly poked the hearts of countless mothers. Deeply believed, mom is just an identity, not superhuman, they also have their own joys and sorrows.

There are too many prejudices against mothers in this society, and there are too many expectations for mothers. But who can understand the pressure of the mother's heartache?

On the Internet, a mother shared her personal experience:

The husband always slept in a separate bed with her, the child cried at night, and the husband said that it was better to wake up one person than to wake up two people. So, she had to bring the child herself.

Some people say that the husband is so tired from work during the day, and he also has to lead the team to make a plan. However, Bao Mom is at work all day, online 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

Taking children is as difficult as taking the team, cooking is not as simple as making a plan, getting a mother-in-law is more difficult than getting a customer, and her husband can still take money to do things, but she is all powered by love.

This experience made people feel sad, how many days and nights she survived, even she herself could not count.

So, before you become a mom and a superman, you have to love yourself first, because no one in this world can empathize with yourself but yourself.

Mom is just an identity, not Superman.

Women are weak, motherhood is just a scam, from a girl to become a mother, and then force herself to become a superman, a woman's growth process is very cruel.

Because on this difficult road, often only the mother is hard to carry. Therefore, after becoming a mother, you can't give up your own growth.

Before you become a mom, be yourself

There is a saying in "Walking the Old Road to a New Place" that says:

"Only being yourself is the final destination, the only refuge."

Parents will grow old, partners will leave, children will grow up, all warm harbors are only temporarily dependent, only themselves are eternal dependence. ”

Before becoming a mother, being yourself is the most responsible attitude in your life.

Tang Bei, a well-known host, once talked about the experience of one of her friends.

In 2017, a friend suddenly found out that she was pregnant, so she quickly got married and gave birth to a daughter, named "Fighting Landlord".

After giving birth, as long as Tang Bei asks her out, she can come to the appointment every time, which is rare among nursing new mothers.

In order to facilitate the feeding of friends, they usually choose to meet at a restaurant near a friend's house when they meet.

After making several appointments, Tang Bei was particularly curious and asked her friend:

"Why is it that every time I "make an appointment" with you, I feel that you can't wait to see me, and I don't think I'm too jealous of eating, and I don't seem to be in a hurry to go home to feed after eating, and I don't feel worried about the child's hunger at all? ”

I didn't expect my friend to smile:

"Before you become a mother, be yourself; after becoming a mother, you can't give up on yourself."

Usually, female friends who have children are almost impossible to meet as if they have evaporated in the world, but friends are an exception.

The title "Mother" has to go through a lot of fear, helplessness, entanglement, worry, and heart-rending pain to get it.

As Simone said, "

Women are not born, women are molded. “

Therefore, after becoming a mother, you can't give up on yourself.

Finally, Happy Mother's Day to every mom!

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