Looking back at the father who bought a house for his son, but was turned away, son: let you in, sorry wife

In our traditional family, parents live with their sons at home, which is often called "raising children and preventing old age".

But in real life, there are always accidents, and things that children do not adopt parents happen from time to time, and only at this time do abandoned parents understand the goodness of their daughters.

Chen Yuzhi's husband and wife in their old age, the three children have established a family, originally thought that they would live a happy life with their grandchildren, but the youngest son they loved the most let their lives fall to the bottom.

Chen Yu's family is from Chongqing, and more than a decade ago, under the hard work of her eldest daughter, the family moved to Changsha.

At that time, only the eldest daughter's family had a house, and Chen Yuzhi's husband and wife and younger son had been living in the eldest sister's house, and even after the younger son got married, he still lived with his daughter-in-law in the eldest sister's house.

For the sake of the house, the daughter-in-law did not lose her temper with the family, and the words she said became more and more difficult to hear.

Because there is no money to buy a house, this stay is three years, and the change of things occurred after Chen Yuzhi's car accident.

Chen Yuzhi unfortunately suffered a car accident and received 120,000 yuan in compensation, which was originally money for his treatment, but was remembered by his younger son.

Because the younger son has always been the most favored, begging him to use the money to buy a house, he thinks that people are old, treatment is not much meaning, it is a waste of money, it is better to buy a small house, live with them, enjoy the joy of the world.

Unable to stand his son's daily nagging and sneering, he had no choice but to decide that his injury was incurable and gave all the money to his younger son to buy a house.

Being able to buy your own new house was originally a happy thing for the whole family, but this new house became the fuse of the family's quarrel.

Chen Yuzhi and his wife wanted to follow their son and daughter-in-law to the new house, but they did not expect that the younger son was in a state of limbos, and his words were full of refusals, and even the specific house number of the new house was not willing to be revealed.

The reporter took two old people to the community where the younger son was located to ask for an explanation, the younger son went downstairs to greet him, when the reporter said to find a place to sit down and talk, the younger son took a group of people to go outside.

Chen Yuzhi's wife was chilled when she saw her younger son's performance, and kept saying that she had raised a white-eyed wolf and asked her younger son to pay back the money, even if the mother-son relationship was severed.

In the face of excited parents, the younger son could not bear it, but he also had his own grievances and difficulties, he said: "I let you live in, sorry for my wife, I am your son who has been thinking for many years, only to be born, you don't embarrass me, okay?" You also gave birth to such a filial sister, go find her! You first look at her and take care of you, anyway, she and her brother-in-law often quarrel with this matter, and divorced, she takes care of you, not once or twice. ”

It turned out that the parents had quarreled with their daughters-in-law, and if they were allowed to move over to live together, they would inevitably quarrel and quarrel, so that they were always restless when they worked.

What he was aggrieved was that when he moved, he negotiated that the two of them would first move in for two years, and then let their parents move in together after two years, just the day before the move, their parents repented.

The main problem is still in the daughter-in-law's place, the daughter-in-law does not want to live with the in-laws, and the parents have been living well in the big sister's house, they only want to pay tens of thousands of yuan of alimony, or let the parents live with the big sister's family.

Chen Yuzhi's eldest daughter can be said to have broken her heart for this family, she came out to work at the age of 16, and immediately took the family to live with her after her life got better, during which she never complained or asked for any return.

What is even more lamentable is that in order to support her parents, the eldest sister divorced her husband when she was three months pregnant.

It turned out that the eldest brother-in-law could not bear to live with his mother-in-law's family for a long time, there was no way before, and now that their family had bought a new house, the eldest brother-in-law wanted the mother-in-law's family to live with his son, and their small family also wanted to live their own lives.

The eldest brother-in-law even threatened the eldest sister with divorce, and if he did not let his father-in-law and mother-in-law move away, he would divorce the eldest sister.

The eldest sister, who is dedicated to the sake of her parents, sacrificed her happiness in order not to embarrass her parents, and went through divorce procedures with her brother-in-law.

However, such a move was considered by the daughter-in-law to be a play performed by the eldest sister and the eldest brother-in-law, and the purpose was to force the parents to move in with them.

When the eldest sister learned that her brother and sister-in-law thought of herself like this, she really couldn't stand such grievances and collapsed and cried in front of the reporter.

In order to get angry, the eldest sister said very decisive words, she said that she was a daughter who married out, spilled water, and her parents did not live with themselves, and they should follow their sons to live.

Yes, families with sons have lived this way since ancient times, because a family spends almost all its resources on its sons, who deserve to pay more to support their parents.

The eldest sister has paid enough for so many years, and the younger brother not only does not understand herself, but also suspects that she has ulterior motives, which makes her chill.

Reporters don't want to see their otherwise happy home become chickens and dogs jumping, let their family members sit together, spread out their words, and solve things clearly.

The eldest sister said that after so many years of grievances, when she learned that her sister-in-law threatened her brother to divorce in order not to live with her parents, she chose to divorce herself instead of embarrassing her brother, and the eldest sister now feels that her efforts are in vain.

Saying these words in front of everyone also allowed the younger brother and sister-in-law to solve the previous misunderstanding of the eldest sister, and the younger brother realized his mistake and took the eldest sister's hand to apologize to her.

Seeing the reconciled sisters and brothers, the mother couldn't help but cry, she cried and said, I didn't expect things to come to this point, it was all her mother's bad.

Finally, under the mediation of the reporter, the family signed an agreement, the three sisters and brothers each paid 500 yuan per month in alimony, the parents still lived with the eldest sister, the younger son will return the previously borrowed house purchase fee, and the parents can move to his home at any time.

The reporter thought that this matter could be satisfactorily resolved, and he was very happy for the two old people who had worked hard for most of their lives. They all know that an agreement cannot cure the problem of filial piety at all, and the old man still has a long way to get support.

Author's opinion

All along, our society has been influenced by traditional concepts, and has always regarded the son as the hope and pillar of the family's future, and the son is also the main force to support the parents.

Chen Yuzhi's family is also in this situation, but Chen Yuzhi's son is not so powerful, he can't be his parents' home, let alone his daughter-in-law's home, he can only watch his daughter-in-law and her parents quarrel, and he is sandwiched between the two ends of the embarrassment.

Such a situation is related to his own personality and ability, he has always been under the wings of his parents and eldest sister, and he has not developed the ability to face difficulties in the face of problems, resulting in even family disputes can not be resolved.

And the eldest sister's pay and the return is not proportional, she herself does not ask for returns, but her pay is more in the touch of herself, in the eyes of other family members, this has long become a matter of course.

Although the eldest sister is not a son, she is the eldest in the family, and this society and this family environment are all wrapped around her, and if she is not, she will be morally condemned.

Now that it is the 21st century, we should know how to take the essence and go to the dross in the long river of history, if we still let those old ideas affect our behavior, won't history flow backwards?

The family has a difficult scripture, there are more family members, contradictions will not be less, if you want to create a warm and happy family life, you must tolerate each other, understand each other, do not let things outside the body, destroy the feelings of the family.