The ability to love oneself, coupled with the ability to love life and the ability to love others, and to fully accept the fact that one cannot live forever, is the basis of happiness.
One of the words inscribed in ancient Greek temples is: Know yourself. How do you see yourself? How do you see others? How do you see the world? The simplest things are often the hardest things. Being able to get to know yourself clearly is not an easy task.
1. Please take out a blank piece of paper, fold the paper vertically and evenly into four parts, and write a series of entries from top to bottom in the leftmost column: 1 height, 2 weight, 3 looks, 4 birth class, 5 education level, 6 genders, 7 personalities, 8 relationships, 9 occupations, 10 spouses, 11 families, 12 incomes, 13 hobbies, 14 residential areas, 15 ideal aspirations,...... (You can add your own entry after omitting the ellipsis)
2. After writing on the left side, please write on the top of the white paper, from left to right: the real me, the ideal me, the me in the eyes of others.
3. Now follow the framework of the form and fill in the answers to the entry. It can be filled horizontally or vertically.
The "me in the eyes of others" part refers to your word of mouth in the crowd around you. For example, you know that you are often depressed and bored in your heart, but the cover up is very good, people around you think you are happy and cheerful, please write truthfully, if you fill in an entry in this column, you are sad, and you do not know your impression in the eyes of others, please leave a blank.
After doing this game, look at this self-filled form.
Look closely at the "ideal me" and "real me", do they not match much?
Looking at the "real me" and "other people's eyes of me", how big is the gap?
The first thing many people feel after filling out the form should be surprise. It turns out that there is such a big gap between each of us's evaluation of ourselves and our own ideals and the evaluations of others. Too fat or too thin, not handsome enough, not from a prestigious family...
It boils down to one sentence – what you already have, you don't like.
There are some things in the world that can be changed, and there are also some things that cannot be chosen.
What can be changed? What is not changeable? How will I work on those that can be changed with effort? Can I afford to change? For those that are immutable, can I really smile and accept them in the future?
Perhaps after trying the activity experience, there are still many people who do not recognize themselves, but this is also a personal testimony of this moment on the road to growth. Accept the self that has always been retained, stable, and embrace the changing, fluid self.