When many people encounter difficulties, setbacks, and unsatisfactory times, if they cannot reconcile with themselves for a long time, it will cause some unnecessary losses.
Yao Yuan, a post-70s man from Hubei, was admitted to the Beijing Institute of Technology with excellent college entrance examination results, and entered a scientific research unit in Beijing after graduation.
After suffering a setback, Yao Yuan did not choose to reconcile with himself, and in continuing to sink, Yao Yuan relied on picking up waste to wander the streets for a full 12 years, until he was discovered by the Shanghai police at the beginning of 2020.
What happened to Yao Yuan?
1. Yao Yuan has been wandering in Shanghai for 12 years.
At the beginning of 2020, when the Shanghai police were collecting information, they found a homeless man lying on a shabby quilt under an overpass, he was resting sideways with his eyes closed, his face was weathered, and he looked like he had been wandering for a long time, and passers-by revealed a message, "This homeless man has been wandering on the streets of Shanghai for more than ten years." ”
The police woke up the homeless man and got in touch with him, but the unexpected thing was that the homeless man himself was conscious, clearly remembered that his hometown was in Hubei, remembered that the year he was wandering was 2008, and remembered that he was drifting all the way from Beijing to Shanghai, and more importantly, he told the police a fact, "He is a top student of Beijing Institute of Technology." ”
His name is Yao Yuan, and he was born in rural Hubei in 1971.
The post-70s generation is always unpretentious in our hearts, and the image of being willing to endure hardships, many jobs that are difficult for the post-80s and post-90s generations to do, the post-70s can always carry it, and Yao Yuan, who was born in the 70s, was originally so beautiful, why is he living on the streets now?
The police wanted to further ask Yao Yuan about the reason for his wandering on the streets, but at this time, Yao Yuan was a little incoherent when answering questions, and even had something wrong with his spirit.
After that, the police sent Yao Yuan to the hospital for treatment, and the results of the examination made the police see a glimmer of light.
After a week of treatment, he did psychological counseling for Yao Yuan, and told him to take medicine in time, and Yao Yuan's condition improved after a week.
It was only at this time that Yao Yuan told everyone about his life experience.
In 1990, 19-year-old Yao Yuan took the college entrance examination and was admitted to the Beijing Institute of Technology with excellent results.
After entering the university, Yao Yuan's advantages appeared, he was originally a simple farmer, he had an advantage in the process of social practice, every time he organized some team building in the class, Yao Yuan flashed with dazzling light, but the pressure of Yao Yuan in learning followed.
Yao Yuan's academic performance is not outstanding in the class, not to mention that the class brings together top students from all over the country, over time Yao Yuan feels difficult in learning, often at the end of the exam, Yao Yuan sees that his grades are in the middle and lower reaches of the class, you must know that he used to be the first in the class every time he took the exam.
In the eyes of ordinary people, even if Yao Yuan's grades are unsatisfactory, they are better than many students from other universities, but Yao Yuan, who has always been competitive, has been too sensitive in his heart and has not been able to get out of depression for a long time.
The frustration of his studies gradually affected Yao Yuan's future life.
Second, after graduation, he found a decent job, but Yao Yuan chose to resign.
Soon, Yao Yuan graduated from his senior year, and his classmates chose to apply for jobs in some technology companies because they already had a higher vision.
When the parents learned that their son had found a decent job, the old man took the initiative to reassure his son in the letter, "Son, although we want you to come back, we never interfere where you end up staying", Yao Yuan also had confidence after hearing it.
In this way, Yao Yuan has been working in this company for 9 years, and during the 9 years, Yao Yuan has actually become familiar with the entire process of the company and has become the mainstay of the company, but the accident that year caught Yao Yuan off guard.
Suddenly, the company chose to expand its enrollment that year, and more and more high-achieving students poured into the company, and they were even better, which made Yao Yuan feel that he couldn't compare to them.
Sometimes those problems that Yao Yuan can't solve, but they can easily solve them, once in a meeting, everyone reported the manuscript together, and the new colleagues reported better than Yao Yuan, and Yao Yuan, who was sensitive in his heart, instantly felt pressured.
What makes Yao Yuan even more unacceptable is that the boss sometimes assigns work, and sends some technical work to new employees, and even the year-end bonus Yao Yuan can't compare to better colleagues.
It was difficult for Yao Yuan to accept that he was unknown in the company, and he couldn't compromise from his heart, and over time it became a knot that Yao Yuan could never untie in his heart.
In 2003, Yao Yuan made up his mind to resign from the company in Beijing, because he couldn't accept that he was gradually on the edge of the company.
Yao Yuan did not tell his parents about his resignation, and his parents did not know, and every time he wrote to his parents, Yao Yuan said that he still worked in a company in Beijing.
After resigning, Yao Yuan came to Shanghai to break through, but now Yao Yuan has no advantage, all the jobs that Yao Yuan looks at are unattainable for him, not to mention that many outstanding college students who have just graduated have already submitted their resumes, and Yao Yuan can't look down on the slightly worse job.
Yao Yuan, who repeatedly hit a wall, could only find a physical job in the end, and this physical work did more and earned less.
Soon at the end of the year, Yao Yuan touched his pockets, empty, Yao Yuan would go home on time for the Spring Festival every year, and from this year on, Yao Yuan disappeared from his parents' field of vision.
Yao Yuan enjoyed a solitary time in a rental house in Shanghai, but his heart was tormented, until one day in 2008, Yao Yuan had a severe cold, went to the hospital for a month before being discharged, but after being discharged from the hospital, he found that the boss had fired him, Yao Yuan was so sad that he couldn't be more sad.
Yao Yuan also fell into a difficult choice, "Should I continue to look for a job?" or go back to my hometown in Hubei?"
But he didn't expect that after a week of consideration, as the rent was due, Yao Yuan chose to wander the streets of Shanghai.
3. The reason for Yao Yuan's wandering.
Yao Yuan thought that if he continued to look for a job in Shanghai, all he found was some manual work, and if he returned home, it would mean that the lies he had told his parents in the past few years would be exposed, and none of them Yao Yuan wanted to see.
Yao Yuan has obviously suffered the biggest setback in his life, but he has never had the ability to reconcile with himself, and now that he is over 30 years old, he only feels that he has achieved nothing, and Yao Yuan, who has always been arrogant, just wants to escape at that moment.
Yao Yuan immediately quit the rental house and bought two thick quilts, and since then there has been one more homeless man on the streets of Shanghai.
However, Yao Yuan didn't know that the days of wandering were even more difficult for him than when he went to work, and after only a month of wandering, Yao Yuan was already penniless, and he could only choose to pick up waste on the street for a living.
At that time, Yao Yuan could often be seen picking up waste with a woven bag on his back, his eyes were fixed on every garbage can he passed by, and every empty bottle and waste carton he saw had to be stuffed into the woven bag, until a whole bag was stuffed before returning to sleep under the overpass.
When he was hungry, he went to buy a few xiaolongbao to eat, and when he was thirsty, he went directly to the door of the restaurant to drink free soup, eating and drinking enough has become Yao Yuan's most instinctive desire, but despite this, he often can't eat or drink well.
There are some kind-hearted homeless people, when they learned that Yao Yuan was a top student of Beijing Institute of Technology, they persuaded Yao Yuan to return to his hometown in Hubei as soon as possible, because it was completely too late for Yao Yuan to return to his hometown at this time, and he would not have to endure the scorching sun and frost on the streets in the future.
But since Yao Yuan has reached the point where he is now, how can he easily face the reality?
So Yao Yuan's wandering has been a full 12 years, from 2008 to 2020, a full 12 springs, summers, autumns and winters, Yao Yuan has gone from being a young guy at the beginning, destroyed by the years to a middle-aged uncle in his 40s.
And his daily desire has only become to fill his stomach, and he has never taken care of his personal image seriously, the vicissitudes of Yao Yuan's face, if his parents met him on the streets of Shanghai, they might not be able to recognize him.
And the changes brought about by the past 12 years are not only that Yao Yuan has become ragged, unkempt, and without spirit, but more importantly, Yao Yuan, who has always been arrogant, has become stammering over time because he rarely communicates with others.
Maybe even Yao Yuan himself didn't expect that he would fall into such a field?
If it weren't for the Shanghai police collecting information in 2020, Yao Yuan might continue to wander, but since the police found Yao Yuan, they would definitely help send Yao Yuan home.
After a period of enlightenment, Yao Yuan finally relented and told the police the specific address of his hometown.
The police wanted to drive Yao Yuan home in person, but Yao Yuan had concerns at this time, he didn't want to go home immediately, and he didn't dare to be sure if his parents were alive and healthy in the world, even if he really wanted to go home, it was not that he took the initiative to go home, but that his parents came to pick him up.
Yao Yuan, who hadn't cried for a long time, burst into tears at that moment, and he no longer had the courage to go home.
The police had no choice but to tell his parents the news that Yao Yuan was about to be found, and the parents promised to come to meet their son on the streets of Shanghai.
Fourth, the family is finally reunited.
Early in the morning of the second day, Yao Yuan's parents finally rushed to Shanghai from their hometown in Hubei, and the old man felt unbelievable after seeing Yao Yuan, "I haven't seen him for 20 years, and Yao Yuan looks like a 60-year-old man at this time." ”
The mother hurriedly took Yao Yuan's hand and said, "Son, Mom and Dad are here to take you home", Yao Yuan's expression was a little overwhelmed, and it wasn't until a few minutes later that he shouted loudly, "Mom and Dad."
Because Yao Yuan's emotions were too excited, it was not suitable to take him home immediately, so Yao Yuan and his parents stayed in Shanghai for a few days, and at the same time went to the hospital for treatment.
After returning home, his parents took Yao Yuan to the hospital for an examination, and found that Yao Yuan's consciousness still had not fully recovered, and his parents took out their savings and let Yao Yuan receive treatment for half a year, until half a year later, Yao Yuan was finally cured and discharged from the hospital.
However, after being discharged from the hospital, he found that although Yao Yuan was reunited with his parents, he still did not reconcile with himself, he should have found a job, and it was impossible for him to be left with his ability, but Yao Yuan still wanted to go to the streets of Hubei to continue to wander.
As a parent, I was very worried when I saw that my son still couldn't think about it like this, but my mother quickly thought of a good way to enlighten Yao Yuan.
"Son, it's been almost 20 years since you left us, and since your disappearance, our old couple often went to Beijing to look for you, posted missing person notices on the streets, and even turned black hair into white hair for you. ”
"But who cares about your past from the people of the village, even our relatives? You are just a small episode in the eyes of others, what is there to worry about? If you find a decent job from now on, not only will people not laugh at you, but they will look up to you from now on. ”
"You were born to me, don't I know you yet? Besides, you are looking for a job for the sake of your future. ”
"Your dad and I are too old to do anything, so we can't stay with you for long. ”
His mother's words finally made Yao Yuan change his mind, and he immediately began to submit his resume in his hometown company, and soon found a job he liked.
Yao Yuan, who participated in the work, also quickly healed himself in the process of work, he found that many difficulties were because he couldn't get through his own level, Yao Yuan was very glad that he finally understood this truth, but he also regretted why he didn't think it out until now?
Yao Yuan will work harder in the future, and his efforts have also been recognized by the people around him.
Today's Yao Yuan has made a new plan for life, first of all, to earn money, save more money to be filial to his parents, and secondly, this job is still not equal to his education, and then choose a career again when he has enough experience.
Whenever he talked about the experience of wandering, Yao Yuan was obviously relieved, "He said that I was young and ignorant at that time, and I chose the wrong path, but the past has passed, and there is no need to dwell on it", Yao Yuan's answer is enough to see that he has matured a lot.
In 2021, someone saw Yao Yuan at the door of Yao Yuan's house, so he greeted Yao Yuan, Yao Yuan actually replied, his smile was also full of confidence, and his previous image was like two people, which also relieved those who really cared about Yao Yuan, Yao Yuan has embarked on a path suitable for himself.
This is the end of the story, let's think about a question together, when we encounter setbacks in life, or some accidents make us breathless, how do we reconcile with ourselves?
A netizen once said that many of the worries we face are imagined by ourselves, but they do not actually exist, and many people will blindly worry about the consequences of things because they live in the eyes of others and live in their own vanity, so as to exert psychological pressure on themselves and produce mental internal friction.
If you tell your family and friends about these setbacks and difficulties, their enlightenment can sometimes play a key role, but many people are arrogant and often do not tell others about their troubles, and over time they become a knot in their hearts that cannot be untied, and finally make some abnormal decisions.
It was only then that everyone realized that an irrational decision would not only affect their own lives, but even affect their families.
So when you encounter difficulties, first to solve the difficulties, really can't solve the difficulties to accept the difficulties, life has no hurdles that can't be passed, not to mention nothing about life and death, some things if you accept it from the bottom of your heart, you will find that no matter how big the difficulties are, it is just a passing cloud, and there is no big deal.
If you still can't think about it, just tell your relatives around you, and then you can suddenly open up, not to mention that you can also choose to calm yourself down first, and after three or five years, you will find that what you cared about before is no longer cared about, and you have truly relieved.
Finally, I want to say that you must have an optimistic and cheerful heart, which will not only make your life easier, but also allow you to take fewer detours and always walk on the path that suits you.
Life is too short to live each day with confidence.
What do you think about this?