The best way to live in life is to do these three things right
French writer Anne Ernaux won the Nobel Prize in Literature at the age of 82. Her masterpiece "Long Years" has also come to the public's attention.
In this book, she pioneered the "unclaimed autobiography" writing method, describing the growth process of a woman from childhood to old age under the changes of the times for more than 60 years, and truly and vividly portraying the distress, disappointment and change of people at different stages of life.
Life is long, read the "long years" and you will understand that the best way to live is: to cross oneself in youth, to cross love in middle age, and to cross one's heart in old age.
01. Crossing oneself at a young age - reading to rewrite the trajectory of life
Anne was born in a small town in Normandy, France, to a working father and a modest grocery store. Despite the difficult living conditions, her parents did not give up on her education, especially her mother, who was very strict with Anne. So when she was a student, she not only had excellent grades, but also read a lot of literature and philosophy books.
Eventually, she studied hard and was admitted to university and became a teacher after graduation. With her education and decent work, she was able to establish herself in the big city and get rid of the nightmare of the slums once and for all.
Perhaps when we were young, we thought that "knowledge changes destiny" as just a slogan, but when we grew up, we realized that this seemingly simple choice can affect the direction of our entire life.
If you can't bear the loneliness at the age of studying and squander your time as you like, then sooner or later you will wallow in the quagmire of reality and struggle in the endless sea of suffering.
Life is realistic, but it is also cruel. If you don't have a good academic degree, you can only earn a meager salary; Without rich and solid knowledge, it is usually difficult to take on a big responsibility alone, and can only linger at the grassroots level for many years.
But with the blessing of knowledge and skills, our steps will be lighter and the road under our feet will be wider.
02. Middle-aged love - marriage determines the quality of life
At the age of 24, Anne married a young bourgeoisie and gave birth to two children.
But life after marriage did not give Anne the joy and happiness she expected. On the contrary, in the neglect of her husband and the consumption of trivial matters, she became vicissitudes of life and tiredness, and her whole person lost her luster. In the end, she couldn't bear it anymore and decisively ended this seemingly divorced marriage relationship and began to live alone with her two sons.
In life, we will always hear a sentence in the "marriage urging quotations": "It is the same to marry anyone." ”
In fact, the quality of marriage often determines the quality of life. The person you choose often directly determines the joys and sorrows of the rest of your life.
Zhang Ailing said in "Love in a Fallen City": "If the other half of your life chooses the wrong one, every step for the rest of your life will be wrong." “
So don't talk about marriage hastily and choose a partner blindly, otherwise you will need to pay for it with your life.
I hope you can understand: a partner who is unwilling to share the wind and rain with you and cannot communicate deeply with you is destined to bring you only grievances and pain. Only by being with the right people can we understand and cherish each other, so as to manage a happy life.
03. Crossing the heart in later years - pleasing oneself and broadening the boundaries of life
Anne, who returned to being single, abandoned her age and identity anxieties, no longer paid attention to the eyes and opinions of others, and devoted herself to pursuing the life she wanted.
Usually, in addition to work, her time is spent arranging her interests and desires. She rekindled her passion for writing, wrote more than a dozen excellent works, and realized her dream of being a writer.
Sure enough, once a person lives the way he wants it most, he is not afraid of the passage of time and the erosion of the rings. In her old age, her face has already been carved with traces of time, but she is still radiant and has never stopped plowing.
In fact, most of us, like Anne in the past, are either tired from work or busy with family. But life seems to be long, but in fact, the time you can live for yourself is very limited.
So in the midst of the hustle and bustle, don't forget to stop, listen to your inner voice, and wait for the soul who is left behind.
Janet Winterson writes in "I Want to Be Happy, I Don't Have to Be Normal" that it is better to live a breath according to one's own wishes than to follow other people's arrangements and blempty and live a shallow life.
From now on, don't embarrass yourself anymore, don't worry too much about yourself, and learn to think of yourself as the protagonist of life. A person who knows how to enrich himself at all times and calmly do his best will surely meet countless beautiful and surprising surprises.
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The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said: No one can build you a bridge on which you must cross the river of life, no one but yourself can do so.
Life is like a long river, and we will always encounter different difficulties in different sections of the river.
Crossing oneself in youth, crossing love in middle age, and crossing the heart in old age.
When you pass through thousands of ravines and cross all kinds of ups and downs, you will eventually meet your ideal self again.
Finally, I hope that you and I can find the splendor of flowers in every self-crossing.
Recording|Ourong Media Center Mu Feng
Preliminary Trial|Li Yiman
Review|Editor|Xu Bin
Final review|issuance|Xiong Huanming
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