I like this sentence very much: "The most valuable thing is not that we are all the same, but that we know that we are different, but we can still respect and understand each other." On the premise of maintaining individuality, communicate independently, do not converge, do not belittle, do not flatter, and do not cross the line. ”
A truly good friendship can constantly nourish you and make you feel a long-lasting sense of pleasure.
But if a relationship makes you uncomfortable and complicated, it's time to revisit.
Most of the people who have these habits will consume your blessings, so please stay away.
01: People who are too dependent will make you feel exhausted
Cao Xueqin said: "Pay attention to proportions in speech and behavior; Act in the world and pay attention to scale; Argumentative evaluation, elegant and moderate. ”
Life is like a reverse journey, and you are bound to encounter all kinds of problems and all kinds of people.
Both men and women, if the other person is too dependent, they always want others to satisfy themselves first, and once you can't do it, they will start to kidnap you emotionally.
This kind of person will make you feel exhausted. They have no ability to be independent, they are very lacking inside, because they lack love, so no matter how much you give, the other party feels that it is not enough.
Dependent friends, as long as they don't change their thinking and don't take action to save themselves, you can't redeem them.
Your kindness and dedication will not see any results and will even consume all your energy.
When you meet such a person, please be sure to stay away, there is no need to go back and forth.
02: People who can't see others doing well, stay away
Zeng Shiqiang said: "Anything, when you are about to get it, you are not pleasing to the eye." By the time you got the first place, you had already offended a lot of people. ”
The most obvious dark side of human nature is that you can't see the people around you doing well. The lower the level, the more likely they are to do this.
Everyone has feelings of jealousy, but human willpower is very strong and powerful.
People with good character and literacy will try to restrain emotions that they shouldn't have, and when friends achieve good results, they will sincerely send blessings.
But if a person is accustomed to comparison, and will hate people who are better off than themselves, then one must stay away.
They don't know how to restrain their inner wrong greed, but let it develop. As long as you have the chance, the other party will definitely trip you and make you fall from a great place.
The best way to avoid being hurt is to leave. Don't have deep friendships with people with vicious hearts, you won't bring hidden dangers to your life.
Xu Dong (not his real name) had a good relationship with his college classmates, and they continued to keep in touch after graduation.
When the classmate got married, Xu Dong deliberately asked for leave and became the best man of the other party.
Xu Dong really regarded his classmates as his best brothers, at that time, his career was just in its infancy, and life was not easy, and the state of his classmates was already very stable.
There is a family, there is a lover, and life is easy.
Xu Dong also hopes that one day he can live a better life. Therefore, he worked hard to persevere and struggle, and after 3 years, his career is getting better and better, and his income is better than before.
With the help of his family and his own efforts, he also bought a car and a house.
As a result, the best brother, when he saw that he was doing so well, his attitude changed. They had some cooperation at work, and several times their friends' practices almost ruined Xu Dong's project.
After seeing his friend's personality clearly, Xu Dong decisively stayed away and stopped interacting with each other.
Otherwise, the career he worked so hard to achieve is likely to be gone.
03: It is difficult for people who have too strong privacy to trust each other
True friends can share their secrets.
But if you meet someone who has a particularly strong sense of privacy, never says personal things, and likes to lie, rarely tells the truth.
Such a person has no capacity for trust and is very wary of you.
No matter how long you've known each other, don't be close to this kind of person anymore. They won't be honest with you and won't be emotionally invested in you.
People who pay too much attention to personal privacy are probably very deep in the city, they are overly smart, and they will think of people in the bad way.
When you are valuable, the other party will be close to you, but as long as you have no room to use it, they will be very indifferent to you.
This kind of person is very hypocritical, and he is very aggressive, and everything is only for his own selfishness and future.
Friends who don't have the ability to trust are mostly very selfish and hard-hearted, and you will never be able to influence the other person, so you must keep your distance.