On the road of life, each of us has been a child and has experienced a carefree childhood. At that stage, our innocent hearts desire to be loved, cared for, and satisfied. However, the reality is often cruel and ruthless, and many children's dreams and desires have turned into psychological trauma and shadows under the distortion of the concept of pathological education.
A recent online post titled "There are only 200 yuan left on my mother's body" has attracted widespread attention, making us rethink our parents' education philosophy again. The origin of this incident is this: after the college entrance examination, a junior high school girl originally planned to spend a rare vacation with her good friends in a small county town to relax the tension of long-term exam preparation.
For this reason, she had communicated with her mother about this matter as early as a month ago, and her mother had also agreed and promised to give 200 to 300 yuan of pocket money. Unexpectedly, on the eve of leaving, the mother suddenly did not allow her daughter to go out to play on the grounds that "there is only 200 yuan left on her".
What's even more surprising is that not long after, the mother actually transferred 100 yuan from Huabei's account to her daughter, saying that this was her barely raised travel expenses. In the face of such a repetitive and lingering "crying poor" attitude, the daughter only felt hurt and angry in her heart, and she didn't know what her mother's intentions were to play such hurtful "psychological games".
This is by no means an isolated case. In real life, similar "crying poor education" is not uncommon, so that children often fall into the swamp of inferiority complex and guilt, and cannot fully enjoy the joy of family as a child. Some parents always nag their hardships and dedication in front of their children all the time, hoping to arouse their children's sympathy and thus restrain their children's needs.
In their educational philosophy, all the desires and dreams of children should be suppressed, and the sacrifices of parents are far higher than the needs of children. Crying poor education is paranoid and narrow-minded, and regards family financial constraints as a reason to restrain children and even hurt their children's psychology. This method of education is undoubtedly pathological and distorted, and is destined to leave an indelible shadow on the child's body and mind.
Some psychologists have pointed out that the sense of scarcity and loneliness in children can easily make them form an inferiority complex and confused personality when they grow up, and it is difficult for them to be self-reliant and brave to pursue their dreams. Although parents' efforts should be understood and appreciated, it does not mean that children should live forever in the haze of "compensation" and "indebtedness".
On the other hand, isn't a happy, sunny child more likely to become a good citizen who contributes to society in the future? Parents should nourish their children's spiritual world with love and give them the care and understanding they deserve. We should pay more attention to the real needs of children and strive to create a happy childhood for them.
There was once a single mother, although the family was not well-off, but she never complained about her daughter's misery. She comforted her daughter and said, "Youth is short and precious, and now is the perfect time for you to pursue your dreams and experience life to the fullest." Although your mother is not rich, she will definitely provide you with the greatest support and love. The heartwarming words of a single mother are touching.
We should also realize that there is a paradox in the crying poor education itself. The painstaking efforts of parents are out of love, but the way of love is hurting the hearts of children; Parents want to restrain their children's material needs, but they inadvertently kill their children's courage to pursue their ideals. A family on the verge of poverty is sympathetic, but it should not be a reason to hurt a child's heart.
The ancients said: "There are no more than three generations of rich, and no more than three generations of poor." "The family's financial situation is by no means eternal, and we should be more cautious about the negative impact on our children. The wisest way to educate is to nourish children's dreams and pursuits with love, and to tolerate children's adventure and growth with understanding.
Let's work together to weave a happy childhood for children with love and tolerance, and hope that they can express themselves and live a wonderful life in the future! The incident of "only 200 yuan left on my mother's body" warns us that the sick concept of crying poor education is contrary to common sense.
We should all pay attention to this issue, strive to establish a scientific and rational concept of education, and nourish the children's spiritual world with love and understanding, instead of hurting their self-esteem and dreams. We hope that through the joint efforts of everyone, more children can have a happy childhood and a better future!