In the past two days, I have finished chasing "The Story of Rose" in one go, and the emotional direction of the protagonist Huang Yimei has brought me a lot of thoughts.
This drama is about a girl named Huang Yimei, who spans 20 years of emotional growth.
In the past 20 years, she has had an unforgettable first love, experienced a chicken feather marriage, and met a soul mate.
In the continuous experience and encounter, she gradually transformed from an innocent girl to an independent and strong woman.
She is like a rose blooming in the wind and rain, no matter what kind of predicament she encounters, she can rely on her strong mental strength to fight the wind and rain.
Some people say, "The story of roses was sown late, if it is sown 20 years earlier, it can save many post-90s." ”
But I think that as long as a person is willing to wake up, it is never too late.
01
Allow mistakes to exist, and be brave enough to climb over them
Zhuang Guodong is Rose's first love, this relationship Rose is fully devoted, and the love is warm and sincere.
The 22-year-old rose puts love first. When she met the handsome and elegant Zhuang Guodong, she gave her fiery love to each other without reservation.
Zhuang Guodong also loves this bright, casual, and beautiful woman, but his love is self-centered.
The 22-year-old Rose loves very purely, and she hopes that the other party will give her the same love in return, which the 30-year-old Zhuang Guodong cannot give him.
He got an offer from France but didn't tell Rose, and he also got a permanent residence permit, which was not discussed with Rose, in the final analysis: Zhuang always considered himself.
He gives love, but he also sets boundaries, and he doesn't want this love to affect his future and plans.
And Rose, because of love, compromises again and again, and forgives the other party for the harm caused to her again and again. even in order to fly to Paris to see Zhuang Guodong, she rejected the important projects arranged by her boss, and threatened to resign, just in exchange for a few more days of time for her and Zhuang Guodong to get together.
As a result, Zhuang Guodong was still focused on his work, and he didn't care about the feelings of the roses at all.
The emotional asymmetry makes the rose more and more internal, insecure, and suffers from gains and losses.
Quarreling again and again, disappointed again and again, compromised again and again, Rose was tired and saw through it, so she wanted to let go and leave.
The failure of this relationship is not because of the absolute mistake of one party, but because of the mismatch between the two parties in terms of love outlook and life goals. Under the influence of his mother, Zhuang Guodong put career and personal achievements first, ignoring equality and respect in relationships; What Rose longs for is a relationship of mutual support and common progress.
This fundamental difference doomed them to not being able to go to the end. For them, this relationship may just be a part of life, a trial.
Some things are wrong; For some people, love is love.
Rose is brave and enthusiastic, able to bear the consequences of her choices, with both the courage to make decisions and the courage to accept failure.
02
Discover that you are lost and restart your life decisively
After leaving Zhuang Guodong, Rose met Fang Xiewen again and had a marriage with him.
If it is said that ex-boyfriend Zhuang Guodong attracts roses, it depends on charm. That side Xiewen relies on "perseverance (xin) force (ji)".
Under a series of painstaking and well-laid out "calculations":
create opportunities to work with roses; did not hesitate to spend money to rent a house at the speed of light to help Rose raise cats; Secretly poke and poke to rent the house first. also quietly paid half of the rent himself, and then persuaded Rose with "low prices......
After the two became neighbors, Fang Xiewen was finally able to "get the moon first near the water" and captured the heart of Rose.
At first, Rose was full of expectations for this marriage.
But Fang Xiewen's inferiority complex and perverted desire for control made her suffer a lot in this relationship.
As a code farmer, he designed one invisible "program" after another for roses, firmly trapping roses in his "game" of life.
He first contracted all the food, clothing, housing and transportation of Rose, so that she was completely dependent on herself in life; then used values to belittle Rose's work, deliberately reduced her opportunities for contact with her family, and limited her to a small circle of "and herself"; Then he quietly cut off all the back roads of Rose to return to the workplace, while verbally suppressing her, on the other hand, she used the first three years of the baby to trap Rose, and tried to continue to trap Rose with a second child, so that she was completely out of touch with society, and finally could only accept her fate and stay obediently in the palm of his hand.
He never respected, or cared about, the idea of roses. Rose was pregnant, and he didn't say hello, so he called his mother to live with them. It sounds good to take care of the roses, but in fact, it is to monitor the daily life of the roses.
Rose's life was encroached upon by her mother-in-law in all directions, and she couldn't even find a quiet place to read and write in her own home.
What's more, when Rose gave birth to a child, her mother-in-law insisted on not giving Rose painless on the grounds that "anesthetic is not good for the child", which made people's blood pressure soar.
In order to let Rose break the idea of going to work after giving birth to a baby, he also asked his mother to go back to his hometown early, in order to let the housework at home fall on Rose alone, so that she was "so busy that she didn't have time to think about going to work".
What's even more terrifying is that Fang Xiewen always carries roses on his back and comes forward to make decisions for her. Rose fainted with low blood sugar during pregnancy, and Fang Xiewen, who had long wanted her to resign, finally seized the opportunity and went to Rose's company to submit her resignation for her and her boss.
Her daughter is about to start kindergarten, and Rose wants to return to the workforce, so she interviews with a company and receives an acceptance email. But Fang Xiewen was stunned and peeked at Rose's mailbox, fabricated the reason of "pregnant with a second child", and quietly sent an email to reject the offer for Rose.
Before marriage, he carried roses on his back, quietly laid out, and approached her little by little; After marriage, he still carried roses on his back and quietly cut off her outstretched branches, just wanting to confine her within the wall and help him have children and take care of the family.
But Huang Yimei is not an NPC in her game, even if the rose withers temporarily because she can't see the sun and rain, the thorns on her body are still hard.
She is still the Huang Yimei who dares to love and hate, is independent, has brains, and has self-pursuit. Although she stepped on the wrong marriage, she also had the courage and determination to stop the loss in time.
So she filed for divorce!
When she divorced, she never spoke ill of her, and she did not tearfully accuse Fang Xiewen of controlling and her own difficulties for so many years.
And just said softly: I don't love you anymore.
This girl is always growing. In the past, Huang Yimei went crazy at her first love and threw red wine, but now Huang Yimei can quietly watch the other half go crazy.
If you want to talk about where Huang Yimei's confidence comes from, it must be brought to her by her good family environment. Children who grow up in love and respect will really acquire a strong core.
This is also a big warning for those of us who are parents, that is, when raising our own children, we must strive to cultivate our children's "internal strength".
03
Bloom bravely and be your own sonorous rose
After the divorce, Rose started her own life again.
In her career, she devoted herself to the field of art she loved, co-running a gallery and making it a great success.
Emotionally, she did not give up food because of choking, but actively accepted the new relationship, and naturally came together with her soul mate Fu Jiaming;
She also regained her old hobbies, not only took various certificates, but also learned to drive motorcycles and airplanes.
At this time, she is really as free and easy as a rose, blooming wantonly, and charming.
Standing at every fork in the road in life, Yellow Rose uses her choice to tell you a truth for me:
Even if you go the wrong way, you will live your life as a piece of chicken feathers.
As long as we take root well, you and I can live a rose life and bloom warmly.
Please believe that there is no road in vain in life. Every stage of life has its wonders. We don't need to deny the value of our past in the pursuit of the future.
We also have to wait for the opportunity to absorb nutrients and grow ourselves. To study, to make money, to develop a hobby, to develop a skill.
Immerse yourself in your life, and age will not be a limitation.
Remember to bravely welcome each flowering season, there may be ups and downs, but as long as you continue to take root downward, you will be able to wait for your own flowering period!
May every woman be like the protagonist in "Rose Story", with a strong heart, allow everything to happen, and live her own wonderful life.
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