Counselling can seem mysterious and unknown, and even daunting for first-time visitors.
What exactly happens in counseling? Can change just sit and talk about yourself?
Humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers analyzed audio recordings of counseling sessions in a study that gave us the first insight into what really happened in the counseling room.
He observes that there is a common tendency for visitors to change, which tends to change in the following 10 directions:
1. The client no longer has the urge and tendency to run away. They are no longer willing to put on a false mask, but to talk about themselves with an open mind, about what they think, about how they feel.
2. No more being held hostage by the belief that "I must ......". Instead of being bothered by the standards of others, the client follows his heart and embraces life.
3. No longer willing to be dominated by the expectations of others, and gradually get rid of the life that is driven by the expectations of others.
4. Stop spending time pleasing others and allocate your precious time to pleasing yourself.
5. Clients become more self-oriented and begin to choose their own direction in life and set goals in life.
6. The client begins to realize that he does not need to be a stereotype all the time. Change is eternal, and life is an adventure, in the face of the turbulent changes of life, we are always humble apprentices.
7. The visitor's horizons are broadened and he begins to accept the complexity of the world and the complexity of himself. Visitors are no longer satisfied with the old certainties and embrace the richness and fullness of life.
8. Visitors are more open to the experience of the unknown, seeking new knowledge and enjoying challenges.
9. Clients are more accepting of others. When the inner bondage of the self is opened, the "other" can also enter smoothly.
10. Clients trust themselves more. Have the courage to accept your own feelings, strengthen your view of yourself, and believe that among all living beings, you should also have your own uniqueness.
By observing these changes, Rogers believes that a good counseling session is a process of continuous learning and growth, and changing personality. This includes making our perceptions less rigid, being more open to the unknown, and being more honest with ourselves. And these changes come from the fact that we feel accepted, understood, and seen in counseling.
When people talk about counseling, they always seem to expect to change their lives without changing themselves. However, the psychological counseling described by Rogers is not only a solution to the problems of real life, but also a re-examination of "who I am". If we can't re-examine ourselves, we can't make real change.
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This article is compiled, original link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/what-doesnt-kill-us/202301/what-happens-in-thera Author: Stephen Joseph Cover: "Daydreamer" Compiler: C.C Editor: Birdman