Conquering Yin and Yang Weirdness in One Sentence: "Self-Defense" in Interpersonal Communication

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In complex and changeable interpersonal interactions, we often encounter people who speak in a weird way and make people feel uncomfortable. They are amiable on the surface, but in fact they are implied with sarcasm, which makes people unguardable. So, how to skillfully deal with this yin and yang weird behavior? Today, I will teach you a sentence to block the other party's yin and yang weird mouth.

1. Insight into the essence of yin and yang

First of all, we need to understand the psychological motivations of people who are yin and yang. The reason why they like to communicate with people in this way is often because of some kind of psychological need deep in their hearts. Maybe it's seeking attention, maybe it's satisfying one's own sense of superiority, or it's avoiding head-on conflict. Whatever the reason, this behavior can be uncomfortable.

For example, when you buy a cup of coffee in the office, someone deliberately shouts: "Ouch, the life of the rich is really different, a cup of coffee is almost equal to the cost of two meals for us ordinary people." This kind of seemingly joking remark is actually implied with sarcasm. If we fight back directly, the other side will immediately pretend to be innocent and let us fall into passivity.

2. Why do some people like yin and yang weirdness?

So, why do some people always like to carry out micro-malicious attacks on others? There could be a variety of reasons behind this. On the one hand, they may want to get a dominant pleasure in this way to satisfy their vanity. On the other hand, it is also a psychological defense mechanism, a manifestation of not daring to express it positively.

In addition, some people may not realize that their words and actions are offensive to others. They may just habitually communicate with people in this way, ignoring the other person's feelings. However, whether intentionally or not, this behavior can be harmful.

3. Micro Attack: Stealth Damage

People who like yin and yang weirdness usually take a roundabout way to release their strong resentment and anger. They are afraid of head-on confrontation and fear that if they express an offensive point directly, they will be counterattacked and hurt by others. So, they chose this stealthy way of attacking.

Although this kind of microaggression is difficult to cause a frontal conflict, the mental drain on the person is often more long-lasting. It is like a thin needle, silently piercing our hearts, making us feel pain and helplessness.

Fourth, how to skillfully deal with micro-malice?

In the face of people with weird yin and yang, blindly forbearance is obviously not the best policy. We need to learn to fight back correctly in order to defend our dignity and rights. Here are some tips for dealing with micro-malice:

Manifest the other party's hidden aggression: When the other party attacks you in a weird way, you can expose the other party's attack intent and vulnerable feelings through multiple inquiries. For example, you might ask, "Am I stressing you out like this?" In this way, the other party will fall into passivity and can no longer continue to disguise.
Pretend to be confused: If the other party does not clearly express dissatisfaction, just ignore him and convey to the other party the attitude of "I don't know you are dissatisfied with me". Then, you can pretend to be relaxed and say, "Ah, I was too careful, and since I wasn't talking about me, then why should I do it?" "Let the other party understand that yin and yang weirdness is useless to you.
Dare to recognize your own "good": Yin and yang weird people will often praise you in a mocking way. At this time, if you don't dare to face up to your "goodness", you will feel that such praise is embarrassing. On the contrary, when you can calmly accept your own value, you can calmly say: "I am warm-hearted, I am literate, I am rich, thank you for complimenting." "Make it impossible for the other person to make you feel bad with a mocking compliment.
Dare to accept your own "badness": Yin and yang weird people may also try to accuse you in the form of moral kidnapping. At this point, if you can't accept your own "badness", you are easily influenced by the other person. On the contrary, when you can readily accept the "badness" in yourself, you can justifiably say: "Yes, I am stingy, I am sensitive, I am not sensible!" "In this way, any slight malice of yin and yang will not hurt you in the slightest.

5. Break the cycle of yin and yang

When dealing with people who are yin and yang, we also need to recognize the fact that those who constantly release micro-malice are often narrow-minded themselves. They may feel inferior or upset because of their own inadequacies, which is why they attack others in this way to gain short-term satisfaction and satisfy their own imbalance.

In other words, we are not targeted by what we have done wrong, but because there are certain traits in us that trigger an imbalance in their hearts. They try to release their negative emotions through yin and yang weirdness.

So, we don't have to blame ourselves too much or worry when we encounter such a situation. Instead, we should firmly believe in ourselves, accept ourselves, and face these challenges with courage. Only when we dare to face the problem head-on and take action to solve it can we truly break this vicious circle.

Finally, I would like to share a paragraph with you: Don't be afraid or hesitate when facing yin and yang. Remember those sparkling strengths and traits in you and carry them forward. At the same time, we must learn to discover and appreciate the good in others, and give sincere praise and support. When you learn how to praise others, it means that you have successfully accepted yourself and found a source of confidence and strength. In the days to come, may we all be able to bravely face all kinds of challenges and difficulties in life, and use our own light to illuminate the way forward!

6. Establish a healthy social environment

In addition to people who learn to deal with yin and yang weirdness, we should also strive to build a healthy social environment. In such an environment, everyone is able to freely express their opinions and feelings without fear of being attacked or excluded.

To achieve this, we need to start with ourselves. First of all, we need to learn to respect others, understand their feelings, and avoid using yin and yang weirdness or other hurtful language. Second, we need to learn to listen to and understand the perspectives of others, and be open and inclusive even if we disagree.

In addition, we can also look for friends who share our interests and can support and encourage each other. In such a circle of friends, we can feel warmth and positive energy, and grow and progress together.

7. Improve self-awareness and emotion management skills

It is also very important to improve self-awareness and emotional management skills when facing people with yin and yang weirdness. By gaining insight into our inner world, we can better identify and process our emotions without being provoked or hurt by yin and yang words.

At the same time, we can also calm our emotions and stay calm and sane through relaxation techniques such as meditation and yoga. In this way, when we encounter people who are yin and yang, we will be able to deal with them more calmly and will not be swayed by the words of the other party.

8. Learn to communicate effectively

Effective communication is the key to building healthy relationships. When dealing with people who are yin and yang, we can apply the principles of nonviolent communication to express our opinions and feelings in calm and clear language.

First, we observe and describe the facts, avoiding accusatory or judgmental language. Second, we need to express our feelings and needs and let the other person know where we stand. Finally, we can make specific suggestions or requests to seek a common solution for both parties.

Through this type of communication, we can not only avoid conflicts with people who are yin and yang, but also promote mutual understanding and respect between the two parties.

9. Maintain self-confidence and a positive attitude

When dealing with people who are yin and yang, it is essential to maintain a confident and positive mindset. We need to believe in our own worth and abilities and not be affected by the negative evaluation of others.

At the same time, we also need to maintain a positive mindset and see the beauty and progress in life. In this way, we will have enough energy to cope with the challenges and difficulties in life and not be bothered by people who are yin and yang.

10. Seek support and help

If you feel unable to cope alone with someone who is yin and yang, you may want to seek support and help from others. You can share your experiences and feelings with friends and family, and listen to their opinions and suggestions.

In addition, we can also seek the help of a professional psychological counselor. They can help us understand ourselves better, provide effective coping strategies, and help us get out of difficult situations.