#头条首发大赛#
In this fast-paced society, everything is expected to be achieved quickly, and "results" have become our natural goal.
We all hope to be able to "get rich overnight", "counterattack" in one day, and realize those seemingly unattainable dreams.
But in the process, we find ourselves getting more and more tired, often surrounded by feelings of sadness, depression, and frustration.
We often think that we can be happy the moment we learn and reach our goals, so we have to endure the difficult process of practice and accumulation in between.
So many people ask: why is it so hard to persevere? What kind of mentality should we have to make ourselves more comfortable and self-disciplined?
Practice mindset – be a gamer
First, let's take a look,
One of the most common mistakes we make when we practice a skill is: keep asking ourselves, when will we be as successful as a cow?
If we keep our eyes on this goal, we will completely crush ourselves in the daily comparisons: "I'm ridiculous", "I've been doing it for so long, and I still haven't made much progress, it's really bad!" ”
Many times we give up because of these comparisons, constantly judging ourselves, and constantly feeling frustrated.
When something becomes pain and shame, how can you stick to it?
First of all, games focus more on the process than the outcome. Few people play the game to clear the level wholeheartedly, and more people enjoy the process experience of the game itself. This state of focus on the present moment allows us to get rid of the distractions that often plague us.
Secondly, the game is the process of disassembling the big goal. Players don't feel excessive frustration and instead work their way up gradually.
Finally, players will practice their skills repeatedly in the levels, so that they have the accumulation to successfully achieve high-level objectives.
Psychologist Thomas S. According to M. Sterner, the meaning of life is not just to achieve the results of the indicators quickly, but to have a "practice mentality" so that we can optimize our happiness. == The mentality of practice is actually the mentality of the gamer. ==
Professor Sterner is an accomplished musician, personal pilot, archery practitioner, golfer and devotes all of his free time to practice.
Through the two major rules - "4S Method" and "DOC Principle", this book leads us step by step to master the "practice mentality" and become a person who is focused, patient, self-disciplined, and full of happiness.
The 4S method – simplification and optimization
In our quest for happiness, we are often bogged down by complex goals and plans.
The "4S" approach – Simplify, Segment, Shorten, Slow down – offers us a new way of thinking and acting.
Simplify: Simplify the overall goal without being too complicated or out of reach. Unrealistic goals can lead to frustration and failure.
Segment: Break down your overall goals into smaller tasks so that you can achieve them with the right level of focus.
Shorten: Break down tasks into small steps, each of which is easy to manage and execute. In this way, every step and task completed brings a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
Slow down: The paradox of slowing down is that by not wasting your energy, you'll find that you can complete tasks faster and easier than you normally would.
When you focus on the process, the results you expect will come easily and naturally, and when you focus your mind on the present moment, all your energy will be focused on what you are doing.
DOC Principles – Facing Frustration
There will inevitably be setbacks and failures in life, and the DOC Principles – Do, Observe, Correct – teach us how to face these challenges wisely.
Do: First of all, we need to be brave enough to take the first step and start acting. Regardless of the outcome, the action itself is a victory.
Observe: In the process of acting, we need to remain observant and reflective. Observe your emotions, behaviors, and outcomes to learn and grow.
Correct: Finally, based on the results of observation, we need to free ourselves from that emotion and return to what we are doing in the moment.
In the case of frustration at work, we may feel anxious and frustrated when we have been trying to negotiate a large deal for months only to have it missed because of a simple reason from the customer.
But with the "DOC Principle", we can consciously observe our own mindset while doing it so that we can adjust in time and then continue to do and observe.
Through the "4S Method" and the "DOC Principles", we can maintain focus, patience and self-discipline in the face of various challenges in life, and gradually cultivate a positive and optimistic "practice mentality". This mindset will be a valuable asset in our pursuit of happiness and success.
Life is a long process of practice, a never-ending effort to optimize various behaviors.
These behaviors include both physical and mental activities that make up our daily lives.
With the 4S rule and the DOC principle, these two "painless self-discipline" habits to reshape themselves, you can play life and be happy.
As the author puts it:
Archery is simply the natural result of the correct way to bend the bow and shoot the arrow.
With deliberate and repeated efforts,
Progress comes naturally.
Give up attachment to the goal,
Turn the process of practice into a blissful experience, and you are a winner in life.