01. Introduction

Relationships outside of marriage are like a hangover.

When you drink freely, you have a feeling of fluttering fairy, but after you wake up, you will feel uncomfortable.

In this life, there will be many temptations. Every choice will affect the direction of our life.

For emotional matters, if we choose the wrong one, it may affect the rest of our lives.

The "love" outside of marriage, no matter how vigorous the love is, cannot escape the following ending.

02. The money was exhausted, and the woman outside of marriage chose to leave

A reader left me a message in the background:

My wife and I have been married for thirteen years, and our relationship has faded, and when I meet a woman who is in love with me on a business trip, my heart is in turmoil.

When I was with her, I felt that she was my true love. I have been with her for more than half a year, and the money spent on her is more than 100,000 yuan.

My wife found out about this, got into a big fight with me, and, with the support of my parents, "confiscated" all my savings.

Since then, I often only have a few hundred dollars of pocket money in my pocket. Moreover, I must have a breakdown of every amount of money I spend.

I used to think that she was my true love and didn't mind if I had money or not. But when I couldn't buy her expensive gifts, couldn't give her more material satisfaction, she was disappointed and left without hesitation.

That's when I realized that true love was just a joke.

Love outside of marriage is illusory from the beginning.

Probably because they both know that there is no good ending to speak of, so being together is just taking what they need.

"Tomorrow in Xsville" wrote: "In fact, the real farewell does not have a long pavilion ancient road, there is no persuasion to drink a glass of wine, that is, someone left yesterday on the same morning as usual." ”

Lovers outside of marriage, knowing that you have a family, can't plan your future, most of them are for your money.

The lover outside of marriage does not have a deep emotional foundation with you, and once there is a conflict between each other, she will choose to leave if she can't get what she wants.

03. Divorced his lover, and his home broke down from then on

The most direct price to pay for developing love outside of marriage is probably to divorce your lover and break up the family.

After the trust between husband and wife is broken, it is difficult to go hand in hand.

Whether it is a man or a woman, once one partner betrays the marriage, the trust between the husband and wife is destroyed.

Zhang Ailing said: "Life is like a dance party, and the person who taught you the first dance steps may not be able to accompany you to the end. ”

When you are in marriage, you can't keep your true heart and fall in love with someone else, your lover can only leave the scene gloomily.

You have been together for many years, and all your hard work and business has come to naught.

When you are with a lover outside of marriage, you wait until your enthusiasm subsides, only to find that you are with each other, and you also need to face the trivialities of life. Soon after, it will be found that he is not as good as the original match.

People always know how to cherish and understand each other's good only after they lose.

After betraying the marriage, the heaviest price is to lose the love of oneself, and from then on, you will never be able to stay together well for the rest of your life.

04. Affect the child's life, and not be treated well by the child in his later years

In "Golden Wedding", Tong Zhi fell in love with Li Tianjiao, which caused the atmosphere at home to be particularly bad.

After his relationship with his wife broke up, he often quarreled.

So much so that the eldest daughter felt that she was not loved and lived in the quarrels of her parents all day long.

The second daughter grew up with her grandmother, and she is like something separated from her parents, not really close.

And the youngest daughter has a lot of trouble, and she dares to break into any disaster, and the most common sentence on her lips is: "What did you do early, I didn't care about me when I was a child, but now it's too late." ”

Couples who do not run a good family and are unfaithful to their marriage are often unable to be good parents. The harm inflicted on children will be engraved in their hearts.

In "The Family of Origin", it is written: "Some people use their childhood to heal their whole life, and some people use their whole life to heal their childhood." ”

Love outside of marriage seems to be very beautiful, but it comes with thorns and a heavy price.

When one of the spouses spends too much time and energy in love outside of marriage, neglecting to care for their children, it will cause harm to them.

Moreover, betrayal of marriage can distort children's view of marriage.

When you betray your marriage, you neglect to accompany and take care of your children, you can't manage the parent-child relationship well, and it is difficult to be treated well by your children in your later years.

If you don't plant good causes, it's hard to get good results.

05, Wen Qiusheng's message

Husbands and wives will go through a long life, and they need to support each other to overcome difficulties and peace.

Whatever the problem arises, it should be addressed from within. Developing relationships outside of marriage will only ruin the family.

Stick to the original intention, protect each other's feelings, maintain the integrity of the family, and be responsible for the children, so that people's lives will be more stable and they will be able to harvest more happiness in the future.

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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.