They can't figure out why those three sons, who are more than 20 years younger than their husbands, don't they approach them for money?
And why would their husbands be so protective of these young girls, thinking that they are innocent and in need of protection?
What makes them even more incomprehensible is that every time San'er has a conflict with her husband, her husband is like losing his soul, and even spills his anger on them.
And those three children, while quarreling with them, secretly sent messages to men, saying how they bullied her, and the men actually believed it!
How much do you know about San'er's 5 routines?
Speaking of which, you may ask, can't a man really see San'er's true face? In fact, many times, they don't see it, but choose not to see through it.
Because, that feeling is so addictive.
So what are they addicted to? It is the "emotional value".
The three sons are especially good at finding men's weaknesses, although they have many tricks, but to sum up, there are only these five:
The first is to pretend to be weak.
For example, "I don't know what the future holds for us, and I'm really scared sometimes." ”
Or, "Sometimes, I really want to have someone to lean on, someone to protect me." ”
In this way, it suddenly arouses the man's desire to protect.
The second is empathy.
"You must be reluctant to leave the child, and I don't want you to be sad."
"I don't want to leave you, but I don't want to embarrass you."
When I say this, the man thinks, "Oh, this woman really understands me."
The third is to say that he is a good person.
"You are the great hero in my heart, for me, against the whole world."
Or "You're really a good person, I don't want you to be bad." ”
Help men rationalize their infidelity.
Fourth, say that you are a good person.
"I'm not wrong, I'm just in love with someone I can't love."
In this way, she rationalized her own behavior as well.
The last one is to retreat as advance.
"Maybe it's time for me to leave, I don't want to ruin your family."
Or "I will always keep you in my heart and bless you silently." ”
In this way, even if they break up, the man will feel that she is the most affectionate.
Men love this feeling of being affectionately loved by women, because it especially satisfies their vanity.
But those of us who are wives often say the opposite:
"If it weren't for the sake of the child, I would have left you long ago." Too rigid, right?
"You dare to lie to me, are you worthy of your conscience?" This is the accusation.
"I really love it, isn't it just for that?" As soon as he said this, the man must have felt that he was being degraded.
"I'm really blind and found a scumbag like you?" This devalues both myself and the other person.
You see, it's really wrong for a man to cheat.
But San'er is desperately trying to provide him with emotional value and make him feel that he is still very good.
And we are often desperately trying to hit his emotional value and make him feel worthless.
You say, although this is a heart-wrenching statement, it is very realistic!
Go her way, so that she has no way out
In the face of San'er's provocation, how should the original partners respond? First of all, we must learn to use San'er's routine to "treat others the way they do"!
Try saying that, and see if he can still be fierce against you!
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Many students find that they can't handle a man's extramarital affair because they have been entangled with men and San'er at a low level, which can't solve the problem.
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This is what we call independence, the demon of the heart.
Here's a trick I always use: I just smile and don't speak. This trick works well in the face of provocations.
Remember, don't quarrel with San'er. As long as you quarrel with her, you will actually lose.
No matter how scheming this San'er is, you have to stay calm, look at her like a joke, and then say these three sentences lightly:
1. "Really?"
When San'er shows off how good a man is to her, use this sentence to express doubt. Let her begin to waver in her "happiness".
2. "Do you believe that?"
directly expressed disdain for San'er's show-off. This would make her wonder if the man was playing with her. When she repeatedly asks men to prove their love, men naturally get annoyed.
3. "It's not easy for you either."
"It's really not easy for you, this kind of relationship can't see the light after all, and you have to insist that you are very happy, it's really tiring to lie to yourself like this."
Let her feel the embarrassment and pain of being an "underground lover".
In this way, it is easy to poke San'er's sore spot, and let her ask the man for a name, and there will naturally be infighting between them.
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