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Preface
As the old saying goes, "A daughter who marries out, spills water".
It seems that after getting married, the daughter who got along with her every day for more than 20 years suddenly became a stranger.
When her daughter needed the comfort of her mother's family the most, she pushed her to her in-law's house and let her get along with her mother-in-law's family.
Where can these women who have been hurt by their marriages go?
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On July 3, there was another woman in the world who was heartbroken by her mother's family.
She is a mother from Guangxi, A Qing, who recently divorced her husband, so she took her youngest child back to her parents' house, hoping to get the care of her family from her parents' family, but she didn't expect it to make her even more painful.
Blogger A Qing thought that her mother would be very happy to see herself in the middle of the night, but she didn't expect to be greeted by her biological mother's scolding!
In the video, the blogger had tears in his eyes, smiled reluctantly at the camera, and said that his mother let him get out when he saw him, and scolded himself for marrying the wrong person and coming to his mother's family!
Hearing this, Ah Qing turned around with her young child in her arms and left the home where she had sheltered herself.
None of the adults in the family came out to see Ah Qing, only Ah Qing's young niece chased Ah Qing all the way to the staircase, asking Ah Qing to pay attention to safety.
Seeing that only the little niece came out to see him off, Ah Qing couldn't control the pain in her heart anymore, and forced her tears to persuade her little niece to go back to sleep early.
Walking out of the entrance of the building of her mother's house, Ah Qing no longer suppressed the emotions in her heart, and cried bitterly on the side of the road with the child in her arms.
In this cry, there is the bitterness of life in her mother-in-law's house, the sadness of her mother's family not recognizing her, and the editor who listens to it is also congested.
After venting her emotions, Ah Qing said that she had temporarily found a place to settle down, and she would go back to her parents' house tomorrow, and she didn't plan to come and go after that.
Some netizens empathized with A-Qing's experience, the same was that he was kicked out by his biological mother when he returned to his parents' house after divorce, and ridiculed that the way back to his parents' house was piled up with money, and he couldn't get in if he didn't give money!
Some netizens also relied on Ah Qing's mother's words to scold her and interpret the reason for Ah Qing's mother's disappointment.
It may be that before getting married, her mother was not optimistic, and after getting married, Ah Qing asked her mother to cover her again, repeatedly, which made Ah Qing's mother too disappointed.
As soon as this remark came out, it also received the approval of many netizens.
Did Ah Qing's mother fall into the "money eye" and wanted to exchange her daughter for money, or did Ah Qing suffer by herself and met a scumbag?
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According to the video taken by Ah Qing Douyin, her tormented marriage began with online dating as a teenager.
The family didn't let Ah Qing study, but Ah Qing wanted to study hard and get out of the mountains of Guangxi, but the family asked her to come out to work to support herself.
Later, an accident caused Ah Qing's legs to be burned, and the root of the disease fell to the root, which made this originally beautiful girl feel inferior.
The teenage A-Qing met her current husband Ah Cheng online, and she was moved by Ah Cheng's tall figure and meticulous care at that time, and decided to cross thousands of miles to marry him.
Unexpectedly, after getting married, I found that not only did my husband have problems with his mental state, but sometimes he would run out of the house without saying a word.
And my father-in-law has always felt that Ah Qing has a disability, and marrying Ah Cheng is a high climb for Ah Cheng, and even drove her and her four children to live in the pigsty!
I finally survived until my husband's mental illness improved a little, my mother-in-law's old leg and foot problems recurred, and the youngest child was just born, so everything needed money.
has to live with his father-in-law who looks down on him, and Ah Qing's mental pressure is getting bigger and bigger.
For a while, all the family burdens were on poor A-Qing, and the suppressed crying in the middle of the night was commonplace for her.
So, Ah Qing and Ah Cheng decided to take their four children away from their in-laws' house and rent a dilapidated small tiled house.
Although it looks very broken, it can be regarded as having a small home of their own, looking at the camera, Ah Qing seems to have returned to his original positive appearance.
The good times didn't last long, and not long after the days of coarse tea and light food, Ah Cheng was found to have heart problems, so his father-in-law and mother-in-law forcibly joined their new small family "uninvited".
During these days, Ah Qing gradually discovered that Ah Cheng, who was obedient before marriage, seemed to have changed.
In the "battle" between Ah Qing and her in-laws, it seems that Ah Cheng has never made any substantive moves.
In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it has always been Ah Qing who has been charging ahead. He is perfectly "invisible", and from time to time he shows that he is in a dilemma between his parents and Ah Qing.
When Ah Qing made a video to cry about the difficulties of life, netizens also saw Ah Cheng's dereliction of duty in the marital relationship, and repeatedly suggested that Ah Qing seize the time to divorce and live a good life with her four children.
No, there is a matter of A-Qing getting divorced and returning to her parents' house but being kicked out by her biological mother.
Normally, when a wronged daughter comes home, shouldn't the parents' first reaction be to fight for their daughter? Why are A-Qing's parents so ruthless!
But in the video shot by Ah Qing herself, the editor also found that her mother was not as ruthless as Ah Qing said in the video.
At that time, it seemed that when Ah Qing had just moved away from her in-law's house and was planning to rent a new house, Ah Qing's mother made a video call to Ah Qing and persuaded her to divorce.
In the video, A-Qing's mother is angry with this daughter, thinking that this kind of in-law has nothing to be nostalgic for, and A-Qing should divorce as soon as possible, how far to run.
seems to have persuaded A-Qing too many times, A-Qing's mother was a little disappointed in this daughter, and said cruelly to look down on her, she had no personality of her own, it was A-Qing's own disobedience, and she and her father would not care about A-Qing anymore.
It seems that when they got married, Ah Qing's parents didn't approve of marrying far away, but Ah Qing still chose to marry Ah Cheng.
After marrying away without listening to her parents, life was not going well, so she ran back to her parents' house to cry and "wipe her ass", and then continued to go back to her in-law's house that made her miserable.
In Ah Qing's opinion, what he went for was great love, but the man who gave Ah Qing the courage to marry Guilin made him fall into boundless pain.
If you want to come back and ask for help from your mother's family, it's too late, and her parents and relatives have long been heartbroken by their previous behaviors, how can they accept her?
I hope that A-Qing can seriously examine her marriage with her husband, sort out the relationship with her mother's family, become independent as soon as possible, and become stronger even for the sake of her four children!
epilogue
"When a girl grows up and gets married, she has no home"
They don't expect their mother's family to be by their side all the time, they just hope that their mother's family can support them and have more confidence!
But women are also responsible for learning their own behavior, and parents can't cover for you for free for the rest of their lives!
What do you think of what happened to blogger A-Qing?
Source: A Qing
Source: Morning Post Datong