Children's emotions are very changeable, and sometimes they show negative emotions such as anger, dissatisfaction, and upset. As parents, we need to learn how to deal with our children's anger in order to help them better deal with these emotions and improve their mental health.
First, we need to understand the emotional needs of our children. When a child shows anger, frustration, or other negative emotions, it usually means that they have some kind of unmet need. It may be because they feel neglected, helpless, hurt, or lack of attention. Therefore, when communicating with children, we should listen patiently and try to understand what they are expecting.
Secondly, when dealing with children's tantrums, we also need to master the correct methods. In general, "adding fuel to the fire" will only worsen the situation. On the contrary, "gradual withdrawal" can effectively reduce the impact of tantrums and give yourself more time to calm down and think about coping strategies.
In addition to the above two points, here are a few specific suggestions:
1. Stay calm: We also tend to feel agitated and nervous when we see children getting angry or throwing tantrums. However, communicating with your child in such a state is usually not very effective. Instead, try to stay calm and collected, and talk to them in a smooth, soothing voice.
2. Respect yourself and the other person: Try to avoid blaming or blaming the other person (including yourself). Even if you don't think you're wrong, try to think from a different perspective and try to communicate from each other's shoes.
3. Practice empathy: If we can put ourselves in our children's shoes and experience the difficulties and pains experienced in our environment, it will be easier for us to reach a consensus with them and guide them to turn negative emotions into positive actions.
4. Encourage positive behavior: When you notice that your little one is doing something flattering or even elegant and civil, be sure to praise and reward him!
5. Establish good communication methods: Appropriately cultivate family "sharing time" in daily life, encourage open conversation, help children express their inner thoughts and feelings, and share correct cognition in appropriate ways.
In conclusion, the most important thing in dealing with children's negative emotions is to establish a foundation of intimacy and trust, establish good communication styles, and adopt appropriate methods to guide them to turn negative emotions into positive actions. Please also pay attention to the balance, and constantly revise and improve!