My son is an only child, 29 years this year, a few years after graduation, and finally found a job, but because the job is unsatisfactory, the salary is not high, and he loves to play, he doesn't mention marriage at all.
I don't know how many times he did ideological work to solve his worries (buying a house, decorating it, getting married, giving birth to a child, etc.), he turned a corner and finally found a girl. Otherwise, as he said, if he wants a single life, he is now at ease, and it is us parents who are anxious, he doesn't want to think, what will he do when he is old?
In today's society, the cost of living is high, the pressure of work is high, and many young people have begun to choose not to get married and be a dink.
Today, let's take a look at a story that may give you some different feelings:
In a corner of the bustling city, there is one of these ladies, let's say her name is Lin You (she used to be a colleague of mine, but her real name has been hidden for understandable reasons), 36 years old.
Lin You, with outstanding ability, is independent, and is a good hand at everything. She looks average, the kind of person who walks in the crowd for a few seconds and then disappears from everyone.
It may be that she looks average, it may be because of her small work circle, or it may be her independent and special personality, anyway, after graduating for so many years, there is basically no male partner.
I don't know if I was dazzled or picked off, I am still alone at 36 this year. Maybe it's because of the bitter love for a long time, recently, she suddenly announced that she decided not to find a partner, become a lone ranger, and forget it for a lifetime.
Since then, she has become a maverick in the eyes of everyone, a self-proclaimed single nobleman, one person is fed, the whole family is not hungry, and she enjoys an unrestrained and free life, so she is not at ease.
Whenever night falls, or on weekends, Lin You always likes to share her daily life in the circle of friends: a cup of coffee, a good book, a trip that says go, every photo is full of freedom and uninhibited, as if to announce to the world that singleness is far more charming than the trivialities in marriage. This makes those of us who are tired to death at work and have to take care of their families when they go back to work.
However, the script of life never goes according to the preset track.
On a seemingly ordinary working day, Lin You suddenly felt a wave of vertigo in the office, and then the world lost color before her eyes.
Colleagues were so frightened by the sudden change that they hurriedly called the emergency number and rushed her to the hospital.
At that moment, Lin You's world was instantly pressed the pause button, and all the chic and uninhibited turned into fear and helplessness of the unknown.
After a series of intense examinations, the doctor told him that Lin You needed surgery. The responsibilities that should have been borne by the family can only be faced by Lin You at this moment.
She is the only daughter in the family, her father died young, and her elderly mother is still thousands of miles away in the countryside. After learning the news, the old man desperately got on the train and came to take care of his daughter.
The moment my mother pushed open the door of the ward, time seemed to freeze. What Lin You saw was a face full of tiredness and worry, and the beads of sweat on her forehead flickered in the light, which was the light of mother's love, and the softest part of her heart.
Lin You's tears broke the embankment at this moment, and the mother and daughter hugged each other tightly, needless to say, everything was silent.
The operation went relatively smoothly and the alarm was lifted. But this experience was like a mirror, which made Lin You start to re-examine himself. Her mother's soft sigh as she washed her hair was like a hammer that woke her deep desire for home.
As the saying goes, the hemp rope is broken at the finest place, and the house leak coincides with overnight rain. Just when Lin You thought that life was cruel enough, fate played a joke on her again.
A few months later, Lin You's mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The news came like a bolt from the blue, and she almost collapsed. But as an only daughter, she could only cry secretly, and she didn't even have anyone to talk to.
She took leave to return to her hometown, and stayed in front of her mother's hospital bed all day long, watching her mother's increasingly inhuman figure, her heart was like a knife.
In order to grasp the last straw in her life, she vowed to do everything she could to fight for her mother's hope of life, but her medical skills were limited, and in the end her mother abandoned her.
The night before her mother's death was the most memorable moment of her life. Mother took her hand, her eyes were full of reluctance and worry: "I can't rest assured that you are the most, you are alone, how can I rest assured ......"
At that moment, Lin You felt unprecedented loneliness and despair, and her crying penetrated the hospital room and her heart.
Lin You, who lost his mother, seems to have lost the last line of defense in his life. She began to reflect on whether true happiness is hidden in those seemingly ordinary but incomparably precious daily life.
So, Lin You made an important decision, she no longer wanted to be a single nobleman, and she no longer resisted marriage.
Although reality has given her countless blows, age, appearance...... The combination of various factors has made her repeatedly frustrated on the road to finding a partner, but she is still full of confidence.
She believes that in the coming days, no matter the ups and downs, there will always be someone who is willing to spend time with her and write a chapter of happiness that belongs to them.
She is also mentally prepared, even if there is no marriage, she will try her best to have a child of her own, even if it is through IVF, so that this love can continue, so that life blooms more brilliantly under the nourishment of love, because she deeply understands that this is the best way for her to fight loneliness and continue love in the future.
If it were you, facing the huge pressure of life, and thinking about being single for the rest of your life, would you still insist after reading this story?