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My name is Li Xiaohong, I am 35 years old, an ordinary office worker, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Jianguo for eight years. We have a six-year-old son named Zhang Xiaoliang. Our family life is plain but warm, Jianguo is a kind person, although his personality is a bit wooden, he has always been very good to me and my son.
I am an only child, and my parents have always doted on me. My surname was Li since I was a child, so when I married Jianguo, I discussed with him and hoped that our children would take my surname. Jianguo didn't object at that time, his character has always been like this, and he has always been accommodating to me.
The economic situation of Jianguo and I is average, both of us are ordinary office workers, and the income is not high, but it is enough to support life. We lived in the old house of our parents, and my parents-in-law moved to their hometown in the countryside a few years ago, leaving this house for us to live in. Jianguo's parents always wanted us to go back to the countryside to accompany them, but we worked in the city, so it was inconvenient for us to run back and forth.
That night, Jianguo suddenly returned home with a solemn expression. He looked at me and Xiao Liang who were playing in the living room, and stopped talking.
"Jianguo, what's wrong with you? Is something wrong? I asked with concern.
"Xiaohong, my parents talked to me today." Jianguo sighed, "They hope that Xiaoliang can change his surname back to Zhang, otherwise...... Otherwise, they say, some adjustments may be made in the inheritance of property. ”
I was shocked, my parents-in-law have always attached importance to family inheritance, and they have not expressed their position on the matter of changing their surnames, it seems that they have ideas in their hearts.
"Jianguo, didn't we say before that we would let Xiaoliang take my surname?" I'm a little puzzled.
"Yes, but my parents are very clear now, they feel that the surname is part of the family heritage." Jianguo's tone was a little helpless.
"So what do you mean? What do you think? "I stared into his eyes, trying to see something in his eyes.
"Xiaohong, in fact, I don't know what to do. I understand your thoughts, and I understand your parents' concerns. It's just that...... It's just that it's really hard to do. "The founding of the country looks tangled.
Xiao Liang raised his head from the pile of toys and ran to us, "Dad, Mom, what are you talking about?" ”
I squatted down and hugged him, and said softly, "Xiaoliang, we are discussing some adult things." ”
"Don't you quarrel, okay?" Xiao Liang blinked and looked at us.
"No, baby, we're not going to fight." I kissed him on the forehead.
At night, after Xiaoliang fell asleep, Jianguo and I continued to discuss this matter.
"Xiaohong, what my parents mean is that if Xiaoliang doesn't change his surname, they may leave the house in the countryside to his cousin's children." Jianguo said heavily.
"How can they do this!" I was a little excited, "Xiao Liang is also their grandson, how can they do this to us!" ”
"I don't want to do that either, but you know, Mom and Dad have always been very traditional and think it's important to pass on the surname." Jianguo shook his head helplessly.
I was very confused, thinking that we had worked hard for this family for so many years, but in the end, because of a family name, we had to lose the opportunity to inherit the property. It's not fair to us or to Xiaoliang.
"Xiaohong, why don't we think about it again?" Jianguo asked tentatively.
I didn't answer right away, I had mixed feelings. It's not just a matter of surname, it's about our family and our future lives.
"I need time to think about it." I finally said.
I've been thinking about this for the next few days. When I work, I often wander and feel chaotic. Finally, one weekend, I decided to go back to the countryside and talk to my parents-in-law in person.
After arriving in the countryside, my parents-in-law saw us coming back with Xiaoliang and had a smile on their faces. We exchanged pleasantries for a while, and I got straight to the point.
"Dad, Mom, I want to talk to you about Xiaoliang's surname." I'll get straight to the point.
The father-in-law and mother-in-law glanced at each other, and the mother-in-law spoke: "Xiaohong, we are also for the sake of the family, and we hope that Xiaoliang can change his surname back to Zhang." ”
"Mom, Xiaoliang has been with my surname since birth, we have always called him like this, and now he suddenly changes his surname, will it have an impact on the child's psychology?" I tried to make them understand.
"But the family inheritance is also very important." The father-in-law said, "We don't want the blood of the Zhang family to be cut off in our generation." ”
"Dad, Mom, I understand your thoughts, but we also have to consider the child's feelings and future." I tried to speak calmly.
"We're not unreasonable. Xiaohong, as long as you agree to let Xiaoliang change his surname, our house and savings will be left to you in the future. The mother-in-law's attitude is still resolute.
"What if we don't agree?" I was a little angry and felt like they were threatening us.
"Then we'll have to make another arrangement." The father-in-law said coldly.
The conversation was not agreed, and I returned to the city full of exhaustion.
In the evening, Jianguo saw that I was in a low mood and comforted me and said, "Xiaohong, don't be too sad, let's think of a way." ”
"Jianguo, what do you say we should do? Changing my surname is really hard for me to accept. I said helplessly.
"I understand, and I don't want to push you. But if we don't, we may really lose the opportunity to inherit. Jianguo hugged me and said softly.
That night, I had insomnia. Lying in bed, my mind kept thinking about these questions, thinking about Xiaoliang's future, and thinking about our lives. I know that no matter what decision is made, there will be sacrifices and costs.
Eventually, I decided to find a neutral third party to help us make a decision. We found a family relationship counselor and asked him to help us analyze the pros and cons.
After listening to our situation, the counselor suggested that we could try to reach a compromise with our parents-in-law, such as letting Xiaoliang legally change his surname, but still use his original surname in daily life. This not only satisfies the wishes of the elderly, but also reduces the impact on the child.
Jianguo and I both felt that this suggestion made sense, so we decided to go back to our hometown to talk to my parents-in-law again.
This time, we've detailed this compromise. Although my parents-in-law were hesitant at first, they finally agreed. They didn't want our family to be unhappy about it.
Eventually, we reached an agreement, and Xiaoliang legally changed his surname back to Zhang, but he was still called Li Xiaoliang in his daily life. In this way, we not only preserve the family heritage, but also maintain our original intention.
Although this result is not perfect, it at least allows us to find a middle way that does not go against each other's wishes and preserves the harmony of the family.
On the way back to the city, I looked out the window at the scenery and finally let go of a big rock in my heart. Choices in life are often full of contradictions and compromises, but as long as we can understand each other and find a balance, everything will be fine.
This incident made me realize that family harmony and understanding are more precious than any material things.
Life slowly returned to peace, and my parents-in-law began to accept this compromise plan. The relationship between our family is more harmonious than before, and Xiaoliang has gradually adapted to this new identity.
One day, the company suddenly sent me on a business trip, which took a month. This business trip was both a challenge for me at work and a test for my family. Jianguo supported me as always, and he said that he would take care of everything at home and put me at ease.
During my business trip, I contacted Xiaoliang and Jianguo every day through video calls, and I felt very relieved to see their smiling faces on the other side of the screen. Jianguo not only took good care of Xiaoliang, but also often sent me some photos of them playing at home or outside, which made me feel that I had not left the house.
Just when I was about to end my business trip, I suddenly received a call from Jianguo, and his voice was full of anxiety and helplessness: "Xiaohong, my parents had a car accident, and the situation is very serious. ”
My heart fluttered and I hurriedly booked the nearest flight home. When I arrived at the hospital, I saw my father-in-law and mother-in-law lying on the hospital bed, and the doctor said that my father-in-law's condition was stable, but my mother-in-law's condition was not optimistic and she needed immediate surgery.
"Doctor, no matter how much it costs, you must save my mother!" Jianguo held the doctor's hand, his eyes moist.
"We'll do our best." The doctor nodded and led the emergency team into the operating room.
I looked at Jianguo's tired appearance, and I felt very uncomfortable. No matter how strict my mother-in-law is with us, no matter how particular she is about family inheritance, she is the mother of Jianguo and Xiaoliang's grandmother after all. Seeing Jianguo's anxious expression, I gently held his hand: "Jianguo, let's face it together." ”
The operation went on for a long time, and finally the doctor came out, took off the mask, and told us that the mother-in-law's operation was successful, but it still needed some recovery period. We breathed a sigh of relief and finally let go of our worries for a while.
This accident made us realize the fragility of life and the importance of family. During my mother-in-law's recovery, our family became more closely connected and took care of her daily life. My father-in-law has changed a lot because of this, and he has become more open-minded and considerate.
My mother-in-law recovered quickly, and one day, she called me and Jianguo to the bedside and said earnestly: "Xiaohong, Jianguo, after this accident, I understand a lot of truths. I don't insist on the question of the surname anymore, just live happily. ”
Jianguo and I glanced at each other, and our eyes were full of emotion and relief. Mother-in-law's words resolved the last barrier in our hearts.
After my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, our family returned to a peaceful life. During that time, the attitude of my parents-in-law changed a lot, they were more caring and considerate of us, and the family atmosphere became warmer.
One day, Jianguo's cousin Zhang Qiang suddenly came to the door. He is a "potential heir" in the mouth of his parents-in-law, and we usually don't have much contact with him, but his arrival this time surprised me.
"Sister-in-law, brother, I heard that grandma was discharged from the hospital, and I came to visit her." Zhang Qiang said with a smile, but I always felt that something was wrong with him.
When the father-in-law and mother-in-law saw Zhang Qiang coming, their faces were a little complicated. The mother-in-law said lightly: "You are here, sit down." ”
Zhang Qiang looked at our house while greeting him, and after a while, he began to talk about business. "Uncle, aunt, I heard that Xiaoliang changed his surname back to Zhang, which is really a good thing."
Jianguo frowned, not knowing what kind of medicine he was selling in his gourd. I was also a little wary, thinking that nothing good would happen to him this time.
"Zhang Qiang, if you have something to say, just say it." The father-in-law said in a deep voice.
"Then you're welcome. I came this time to discuss with my uncle and aunt about the land and house in the countryside. Since Xiaoliang has changed his surname back to Zhang, can I consider giving me this part of the property? Zhang Qiang smiled a little slyly.
When the mother-in-law heard this, her face changed, "We haven't decided on this matter yet, don't think too much." ”
"Grandma, uncle and aunt, I'm not forcing it, I just think that since Xiaoliang has changed his surname back to Zhang, shouldn't there be a more reasonable arrangement?" Zhang Qiang did not relent.
Jianguo stood up and said coldly: "Zhang Qiang, Xiaoliang is a child of our family, it's not for you to make up your mind casually." ”
I can't stand it anymore, "Zhang Qiang, the property matter is the decision of your parents, don't interfere." ”
Zhang Qiang saw that we were resolute, and his face was a little unbearable, "Okay, I'm just making a suggestion, since you don't agree, then I won't force it." ”
After he left, his father-in-law and mother-in-law looked very tired, and his father-in-law sighed, "It's really a scripture that is difficult to read." ”
The mother-in-law also sighed: "We still have to pay more attention in the future to not let these things affect family harmony." ”
That night, Jianguo and I discussed for a long time and decided that we should pay more attention to family harmony in the future and not let external things interfere with our lives.
Life continues to go on peacefully, and our whole family is getting closer and closer. Jianguo is also working harder and trying his best to provide better living conditions for his family. And I also found a balance between work and family, and worked with Jianguo to keep my home in order.
One day, my father-in-law suddenly offered to sell his house in the countryside and move to the city to live with us. He said: "We are old, and life in the countryside is not convenient, so it is better to live with you." ”
The mother-in-law also chimed in: "Yes, Xiaoliang also needs us to take care of it more." ”
Jianguo and I are both very happy and feel that in this way, the family is more united and harmonious. After we discussed it, we started to prepare for the sale of the house.
During this period, Zhang Qiang appeared again, he heard that we were going to sell the house, and came to discuss with us, saying that he was willing to buy the house. My parents-in-law thought about it for a while and thought it would be a good idea, so I agreed to his proposal.
After the house was sold, my parents-in-law got the money and decided to divide part of the money between me and Jianguo, and the other part as their pension fund. We were very touched and felt that they were really thinking about us.
Life is back on track, our whole family lives together, takes care of each other, and lives happily ever after. Xiao Liang also performed well in school, and he often said to me, "Mom, I like the feeling of our family together. ”
When I heard that, I felt extremely satisfied. After so many twists and turns, we have finally found our own happiness.
Jianguo said to me: "Xiaohong, no matter what difficulties our family encounters, as long as we work together, we will definitely be able to overcome them." ”
I nodded and shook his hand: "Yes, as long as we are together, there is no difficulty that cannot be overcome." ”
This experience taught me that family harmony and understanding are more precious than any material things. There will be many choices and compromises in life, but as long as we understand each other and find a balance, everything will be fine.
At the end, I looked at our home and felt extremely warm and happy in my heart. We went through the wind and rain, and finally ushered in the rainbow. It's the life I've been pursuing, and it's the result of our family working together.
This is our story, a story of choice, compromise and love.