The cheating man's self-report: After seven years of cheating, why did you abandon the mistress and return to the family?
How long can a man's love for a mistress last?
Many cheating men do fall in love with the mistress, or even fall in love with the mistress.
After all, in order to be able to maintain the extramarital affair for a long time and obtain the benefits she wants,
The cheating man will be obedient and do what he likes, and the cheating man will feel very happy with the mistress,
Xiao San shows enough love for this man, and the cheating man will also invest a certain amount of affection.
But the mistress is not really in love, and the cheating man will not be invested in true love.
So an extramarital affair seems to be true love, but in fact the emotional foundation is weak.
If a long-term extramarital affair suddenly breaks down, it is also normal.
For example, some time ago, a cheating man said it to Jiaxin.
He has been cheating for seven years and wants to abandon the junior and go home to live a good life.
When this man cheated, it was when his wife was pregnant with her second child.
The reason for his cheating was his physiological needs, and his wife couldn't meet them, so he found a mistress.
The third child was met by him at the wine party, a friend brought over by a friend's lover,
Xiao San will appear in that drinking party, and the purpose is obvious, that is, to find a man to develop an extramarital affair.
So it is impossible for a cheating man to have feelings for Xiao San at first,
What do you love about the mistress? Love her to find a man casually, for the sake of the benefit of being a junior?
This man not only started to dislove Xiao San, but also looked down on Xiao San.
But he needs a mistress, because he thinks that this mistress is really easy to get rid of if he is discovered.
It's okay to maintain the extramarital affair and give the mistress money, and when you don't want the mistress, give more and it's over.
The cheating man's economic conditions are good, and he doesn't care about giving the mistress some money.
But the affair lasted for a while, and the cheating man became more and more satisfied with the mistress.
He and his wife are childhood sweethearts, and they must have deep feelings for their wives.
But it was too familiar, and he felt more like a friend and a relative.
Especially after his wife gave birth to a second child, her figure recovered slowly.
Compared with a young and beautiful third party who will please him and play some tricks,
The cheating man finds his wife boring, and his married life with his wife becomes boring.
This is also the reason why after the man was discovered, he briefly broke up with the mistress, and later threatened an extramarital affair.
He and Xiao San have been separated and combined, and when his wife found out, he broke off for a while.
If the wife doesn't continue to pursue it, the cheating man will continue to find the mistress to cheat.
After an affair that had lasted for seven years, he suddenly didn't want to continue.
Why does an extramarital affair that has been maintained for a long time and satisfy each other suddenly disintegrate internally?
There is only one reason, that is, there is no way to satisfy each other.
One of them wants too much, and the other party is unwilling to give,
The two have experienced a long tug-of-war and have not reached a reunification,
In the end, there were a lot of contradictions, and I almost reversed the goal, and I wanted to break up.
This cheating man is a very typical example, he said that the mistress has become too greedy.
He was with Xiao San at the beginning, and gave Xiao San thousands of yuan a month, and Xiao San was on call.
After a long-term development, Xiao San said that she was only alone with the cheating man, and asked the cheating man to give more money.
This man also began to give more, and in the back, the junior had a miscarriage for the cheating man, and the cheating man also added money,
He even bought a small apartment for the down payment of the mistress, of course, he went to find the mistress for convenience.
He felt that he had given enough, after all, Xiao San's physiological needs did not bring him other benefits.
But the junior is more and more, and even asks the cheating man to divorce and marry the junior.
The cheating man was unwilling, the two began to quarrel, and they also negotiated but failed, and finally the cheating man wanted to abandon the mistress.
In the end, this kind of extramarital affair must reach the point of turning against each other.
Because the cheating man underestimated the mistress, he didn't know that it was easy to ask God and it was difficult to send God.
When he wants to cheat on the mistress, he can maintain the affair.
He doesn't want to continue cheating, thinking that he can abandon Xiao San and return to his family?
Xiao San is not the original wife, and Xiao San dares to make trouble with cheating men.
It got to the cheating man's company, to the cheating man's home and his original partner, and to the home of the cheating man's parents.
At this point, it is impossible for a cheating man to rekindle his old relationship with the mistress,
The mistress is not entangled in order to divorce the cheating man, but to ask for more money.
This cheating man doesn't want to give money, and the more the mistress makes trouble, the more resentful he is, and the more unwilling he is to give money.
That's why I came to confide, wanting to find a way to get rid of Xiao San without giving money.
In the end, Jiaxin wanted to say that the wives encountered extramarital affairs that men wanted to maintain for a long time.
Don't start out thinking that you can't solve this kind of affair.
The cheating man and the mistress are willing to be together for a long time, not necessarily because of how deeply the two people love.
It's because in an extramarital affair, there are things they both want, and they can satisfy each other.
But human nature is selfish and greedy, and it is even more vividly shown in the cheating man and the mistress.
Sooner or later, they will continue to demand from each other for their own selfish desires, because of greed.
If one of the parties can't bear it, the extramarital affair will reach a period of contradiction, and it is also the best time to solve it.
Seize the period that is favorable for you to settle the affair and settle the affair.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.