1. Easy to get nervous
You may meet different types of girls in life, some are lively and cheerful, some are rude and willful, some are gentle and serious, some are jumpy, some are quiet, some are talkative, and some are taciturn.
Most people tend to praise girls who can speak well, and scoff at stupid tongues.
Do you find that the more you hit her, the less she talks, the more you ask her to talk more, the more she doesn't say it.
Isn't it counterproductive that your blows and belittlements have made her otherwise uncheerful personality even more dull?
This kind of girl is relatively closed in her heart and is not easily open to others, unless she encounters a special relationship, she will say a little more. If not, she would rather nod politely than pretend to say hello.
Girls who don't like to talk may be stupid and not good at words, or they may be able to speak but don't like to talk.
In any case, they are often nervous when they encounter things, and when they are nervous, their brains are confused, their logic is not clear, and even if they have ideas, they cannot express them quickly and accurately.
Their language organization skills are weak, sometimes they try their best to describe, but they are troubled by how to phrase them, and they are nervous, they forget the words they think of, and the words they say are reversed, and the listeners do not understand it, and they are also disappointed.
It is not uncommon for people to make mistakes, say the wrong things, and do the wrong things when they are nervous.
Maybe it's not that you don't like to talk, but you have an unstable mentality, you panic easily, and you are frightened and restless at the slightest disturbance.
Even if you have a strong desire to share, it will eventually dissipate due to the lack of inner strength.
Therefore, no matter when and where, no matter what happens, first learn to be calm, first improve the core support, and then repair the shortcomings.
2. Don't chat, talk too much, you will lose
I don't know if you've noticed, people who can't talk often don't like to talk much.
Because they are afraid of offending people by inappropriate expression, they say too much and make too many mistakes, so it is better to keep them in their stomachs.
As the saying goes: only three points are said when meeting people.
When the rambling doesn't work, but is misleading or boring, it's better to stay silent.
One of my high school classmates, she doesn't usually talk much, but since we have a bunk relationship, we get closer.
During the summer vacation of my third year of high school, I invited her to come to my house to play, and when I saw my parents, she wanted to show enthusiasm, but she seemed very cramped, she didn't take the initiative to chat, just politely said hello, responded a few words, and then sat quietly and watched TV.
Later, I asked her: Are you not used to talking in my house?
She replied lightly: It's not that you don't know, I'm not good at chatting, so it's better to talk less.
Although I did know that she cherished words like gold, I still couldn't help but ask, after all, her language grades are so good, and her communication skills should not be bad, but she has too many worries and is not confident enough to open up.
In her opinion, if the communication does not achieve the desired effect, it is easy to leave a bad impression, so it is better not to say it. At the very least, it is prudent not to drop the handle on the speech, which is offensive.
I think many people also have this situation, their emotional intelligence is not high, they don't pay attention to the way they speak, they only say what they want to say, and they don't consider what others like to hear.
Such girls often can't help but speak involuntarily, what they say is not what they want to express in their hearts, so don't say it after thinking about it. Therefore, I don't like to chat, I don't want to talk to people, and I don't want to talk about the world.
If you repeatedly refuse to communicate because you can't chat, then, after a few years, you still can't grow, and this is not a reason to escape.
If you want to see the bigger world one day, you might as well use your leisure time to observe and learn at the same time, so as to practice your communication skills and improve your speaking skills.
3. Introverted and slow heating
There is also a kind of girl who is silent when she first meets and chatters after getting acquainted.
She is more vigilant, in front of unfamiliar people, she doesn't dare to show herself, she doesn't take the initiative to get close, she doesn't deliberately alienate, she doesn't pretend to be familiar, she is a little wooden, and a little introverted.
If you don't know her well and want to go together, there is a high probability that you will be rejected; If you want to talk to her, and she doesn't know you, she probably doesn't bother to respond; If you have something to ask her, you can't be moved by friendship, and you can benefit from it.
She doesn't like to be lively, she doesn't like to chatter, she doesn't like to party, she doesn't like to participate in dinners, and she doesn't have a strong curiosity about the outside world.
Her circle is relatively fixed, and there are only a handful of people who come and go often, but they all know the roots and know each other for many years, old friends are rarely separated, and it is difficult for new people to pour in.
Such a girl, get along with her, can't be too impatient, it takes time to get to know slowly, when the trust accumulates to a certain extent, she begins to become active, chatting more and more frequently, and talking more and more.
It's not that she doesn't make friends, she's just slow to heat.
In her daily life, she prefers to be alone rather than chatting.
Because it is more comfortable to be alone, there is no social pressure, there is no superfluous ideological burden, there is no need to be coy, there is no need to pretend to be smart and will come to things, just follow your heart, do something you like, write, raise flowers, read books, listen to music, and live comfortably.
If you can't talk about it, you don't have to go through the trouble of integrating, and if you meet someone who is compatible, you can get along comfortably, and you don't have to talk a lot.
Such a girl seems to be cold and unapproachable, but once she really becomes a friend, she will be very attentive.
Because she often treats people with sincerity, does not cater to the world, does not show sleek sophistication, does not play with people's hearts, does not perfunctory sincerity, does not use kindness, does not consume enthusiasm, and really gets along with others.