Guide
tells about the challenges encountered by Qingqing in family relationships, from the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to the communication between husband and wife, there are contradictions and conflicts. Among them, her husband's behavior in the family group aroused Qingqing's anger and triggered her conjecture about the understanding and conflict in the family relationship.
Qingqing's values and family challenges
Qingqing believes that the family should understand, respect and tolerate each other, not just pay lip service. After she gave birth, her mother-in-law was not satisfied with her family care, and conflicts between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arose.
Small things in the family group cause conflicts between husband and wife
Qingqing felt that the trivial matters in the family group were not worth the husband and wife quarreling for three days. We should think more from the other side's point of view, rather than blindly insisting on our own position.
Her husband's behavior in the family group sparked Qingqing's anger
But the three-day cold war has not ended, and her husband makes her a little "unbearable". Speaking of which, it's also a matter of family groups.
That day, the eldest sister sent a voice, praising the cherry blossoms in Qingqing's hometown. Qingqing didn't care, flipped through her phone, and after more than ten minutes, she saw her husband send two words: "General." ”
Forget it, the eldest sister asked, "What's not ordinary?" Is it the beauty of flowers or the beauty of people? ”
As a result, the husband really replied: "It's not beautiful." ”
Seeing this, Qingqing wanted to drop the phone. She angrily asked her husband, "What do you mean by replying like this?" ”
The husband said confidently: "She asked me the truth and answered, and I didn't scold her." ”
This matter seems small, but it just hit Qingqing's sore spot. The cause of the quarrel a few days ago was also because of something in the family group.
Understanding and Conflict in Family Relationships
"In contrast, I feel more and more important to you in my family group."
Speaking of which, the cause is simple. That day, Sister Qingqing posted a photo of her child with a perfect score in the exam. Qingqing looked at her well-behaved and sensible nephew, and couldn't help but praise her.
As a result, her husband told Qingqing in the family group: "Isn't there someone over there who wants to go?" Let's hang out and play together next weekend. ”
At that time, Qingqing was a little hot. She said: "I don't even remember, you care so much about your 'in-laws', and you don't care when our family goes out together." ”
The husband replied with a smile: "Aren't we okay?" Aren't you going to have someone over there? Of course, I want to show my concern. ”
After listening to her husband's explanation, Qingqing felt as if she was really making a big fuss. But after a long time, the more she thought about it, the more she felt aggrieved.
"You guys are 'fine', I'm 'fine', why can you 'be good' and care about people coming from our side, but we can't go out to play together?"
"Am I not dealing with 'good' relationships the right way? Is it only 'people who are coming' who need to be 'dealt with well'? ”
"If that's the case, I'd rather we 'don't come' and we 'don't have a good hand'!"
Communication and understanding between husband and wife
Speaking of this, Qingqing sighed: "In fact, quarrels are often not because of a specific matter, but because of our different attitudes and positions towards this matter. ”
For example, at this moment, they are arguing at home:
"All you see is the words 'someone is coming'!"
"All you see is the word 'care'!"
"You only see the words 'in-law'!"
"All you see is 'what's my last name?'"
"But what about you? But you don't see anything! ”
The more Qingqing thought about it, the more angry she became: "I don't understand, it's obvious that I'm busy taking care of it alone, why is it only your 'in-law' who is pointing and 'dealing with it'?" ”
"Haven't I done enough? Isn't it good enough? Isn't it 'good enough'? ”
"If that's the case, I'd rather I don't do any, don't care about any! I see the difference between my 'good handling' and 'not good handling'! ”
"That's right! And you! I know that the reply is 'not beautiful'! If you have the ability, you can also give birth to two! ”
Speaking of which, Qingqing burst into tears. At this moment, she was both angry and aggrieved.
"I know he (the husband) just wants to tease, to lighten the mood. But does he know? When he replied to those two words, my heart swelled with endless resentment. ”
"I blame him for paying too much attention to his 'in-laws', I blame him for being tolerant of his 'in-laws', and I blame him for being tolerant and understanding of his 'in-laws'."
"And what about our 'own family'? What about our 'own people'? What about our 'husband and wife'? ”
At the moment, in her opinion, "husband and wife" is just a verbal title. What about true mutual understanding, respect and tolerance? Never.
epilogue
Conflicts and conflicts in family relationships often stem from differences in attitudes and positions on things between the two parties. Understanding and inclusion are essential when dealing with family relationships. Different perspectives and emotions need to be resolved through communication, rather than blindly sticking to one's own position. Everyone shared their experiences and opinions in family relationships in the comment area!