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It is often unsatisfying and the most difficult to let go.
The hottest love of my youth is here, but when I turn around, it's always inappropriate.
The beginning of love
Often the strong love has burned out at the very beginning.
It is undeniable that:
Huang Yimei's love for Zhuang Guodong has consumed too much, so she spends the most on this man.
However, the sad thing is that Zhuang Guodong loves her, but Zhuang Guodong loves himself more than he loves her.
The first time Rose would go crazy because of some disrespectful behavior of Zhuang Guodong, but Rose, who gradually became familiar with it, has learned to be silent, and even habitual.
In the end, Rose chose to paint off the rose that bloomed on the wall, and also plucked the thorns off her body, and broke up with her.
Five years later, Zhuang Guodong returned from France, but the time when Huang Yimei needed it had passed. At the dinner table, Zhuang Guodong persevered in talking about the past, but the roses remained immovable.
Because, when the feelings are exhausted, they are exhausted.
The broken mirror can be reunited, but there will be cracks after all, not to mention, Rose has never been a person who can compromise.
In the taxi, Huang Yimei cried in the back seat, everyone was saying that she was crying about the youth she once loved, but only she knew how many strong marks this person had left in her life.
But at that moment, she also admitted that the moment she grabbed Xiewen's arm and married him, she was healing her emotional wounds.
If Zhuang Guodong hadn't broken up so decisively at first, maybe the rose would not have been moved by Fang Xiewen's little love so quickly, and maybe it would still be the warm and wanton rose.
Heal emotional wounds
Fang Xiewen is Huang Yimei's second candidate after giving up Zhuang Guodong.
Unlike the last relationship, this time, Rose is the one who enjoys being loved.
But soon, after being moved by Fang Xiewen again, she fed back to each other in this relationship, and gave everything she had without hesitation as before.
In order to pursue roses, Fang Xiewen quit his easy and profitable tutoring job, and chose to work in an izakaya, in order to get the favor of roses, he did not hesitate to spend more than 200,000 yuan to rent a house for roses to raise cats, in order to see each other a few more times, he also moved out of the school, when he met his parents, Fang Xiewen even gave up a few offers given in Shenzhen, and the price paid in the early stage was so big that it was jaw-dropping.
And Rose also chose "All In" again after confirming the sincerity of the other party.
Fang Xiewen wanted to resign and start a business after taking the blame for his subordinates, Rose gave all his savings to the other party, Fang Xiewen said that he needed backing, Rose even flew to Beijing to ask Huang Zhenhua to borrow money and make an IOU, Fang Xiewen said to diversify the risk, and Rose went to find a job after investing and chose to back up for this family...... How much Fang Xiewen paid in the early stage, the rose doubled for him in the later stage.
Everyone knows what kind of investment Fang Xiewen used in exchange for doubling Rose's efforts in this relationship, but Rose is the only one who is still confused to the end and chooses to believe in Fang Xiewen's sincere dedication to herself.
Huang Yimei's father said:
"My daughter is good at everything, but she has a bad eye for picking men."
After all, ginger is still old and spicy.
When facing Fang Xiewen, Huang Yimei's father's evaluation of him was even more one-sentence:
Xiaofang is good everywhere, but this one is good everywhere, the good ones are not real enough, they don't leak, they cater everywhere, who knows what he really thinks?
Unexpectedly, Huang's father's words at that time turned out to be a prophecy.
Rose mustered up the courage to once again choose to believe in love, and married Fang Xiewen.
However, when this marriage came into reality, it quickly moved towards the fate of chicken feathers.
Before and after marriage, Fang Xiewen has two faces.
People change, but no one would have thought that Fang Xiewen would become so fast.
On the second day after receiving the certificate with Rose, Fang Xiewen quickly leaked the fox's tail, he thought that the two of them were half a catty, but he never expected that the other party would directly crush tactically.
At the dinner table, Fang Xiewen wanted to show off his status by borrowing the fact that the rose was waiting for him to go back to cook, but he never expected that Zhuang Guodong directly reported what the rose liked to eat, and it was ridiculous that he had been with the rose for a few years, and he didn't know what she liked to eat. Although Fang Xiewen didn't show it on his face, he silently wrote it down in his heart.
And Zhuang Guodong's sentence "If you have eaten well, you can eat it from the stalls" even pierced a thorn in Fang Xiewen's originally inferior heart, and he could not heal himself after many years.
Since then, Fang Xiewen has continued to make small moves, and on the basis of being afraid of losing roses, he is also more afraid of losing control of roses.
After getting married, Rose became pregnant, so he invited his mother over to take care of each other, but the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always an unavoidable topic.
And Fang Xiewen is not so much asking his mother to take care of the roses, but rather "supervising" the roses in disguise.
Rose wanted to go out to work, so Fang Xiewen prevented her from resigning for her; Rose wanted to go out for a walk, Fang Xiewen asked his mother to monitor the other party, Rose was about to give birth, and the mother and son began to speak their hometown dialect as soon as they chatted, which made Rose feel tired; Rose went out for a walk and saw a painting she liked and wanted to buy it, but found that she couldn't even take out fifty yuan, because the only 20,000 yuan left on her body was taken by Fang Xiewen to pay off the mortgage, and even when Rose was giving birth, she was hesitating whether to fight painlessly, at the critical moment, if Huang Zhenhua hadn't gone up and woke up Fang Xiewen, maybe he would have been hesitating.
Even more sad are:
All this can be traced when the two parties get married.
When the first time I got the certificate, the parents of both parties had never seen it, so Rose went to her hometown with Fang Xiewen to get the certificate without hesitation, and Fang's mother's words on the day of the wedding were even more disrespectful to Rose.
And Fang Xiewen's mother was also complaining over and over again, inadvertently reminding the rose, but the rose at that time was immersed in love and was unaware of the trap that had been set up a long time ago.
"I don't know you kid yet".
Fang Xiewen once said that he wanted to give his mother alimony, but the final choice was to unload the mill and kill the donkey, and soon, after the rose was produced, he sent his mother back to his hometown and painted a pie for the other party.
Many mothers think that their sons don't care about their own life and death after their sons marry daughters-in-law, because they are squeezed too much, but they think in their hearts that their sons are their own and cannot be taken away no matter what, and they are willing to pay for them, which creates a vicious circle.
But the roses that were kept in the greenhouse have been unconscious.
The contradiction between the rose and her mother is actually completely adjustable by Fang Xiewen, but the sad thing is:
Fang Xiewen only solved half of it, because it involved his own interests, he could not care about the intermediate process, he could wronged anyone, but he could not wronged himself.
And after giving birth to her daughter, the rift between Rose and Fang Xiewen is even more obvious.
When the child was raised to the age of three, Rose wanted to go out to find a job, but Fang Xiewen asked her to have a second child, and after Rose found a good job, Fang Xiewen privately rejected her offer, and did not let her wear a skirt to do nail art, and even used her daughter as a shield after seeing Rose angry.
And it was at this time that Rose discovered:
Fang Xiewen turned out to be a patriarchal person in his bones.
Since then, the conflict between the two has intensified, and Rose finally can't help but file for divorce.
Because she finally discovered:
Fang Xiewen is not the person who really understands her after all.
And Fang Xiewen went out to socialize, and after getting drunk, he began to spit out the truth after drinking, which also made Rose feel extremely cold:
"Do you know how much my company sold? The money I have earned in the past few years, you, your brother, your whole family can't earn it all your life, and you still look down on me, I really think I can't find other women when you leave, some women are often fluttering, raw fluttering, they say I am young and promising, and they say that I am ......"
But Rose never looked down on him, on the contrary, it was Rose who gave charcoal in the snow at a critical juncture, it was she who gave investment at a critical moment, and it was she who made great sacrifices after marriage.
It turns out that:
The tighter you grasp something, the faster it will drain.
Low self-esteem is because of self-esteem, but Fang Xiewen wants to earn back the self-esteem he once lost, and under the imbalance of mentality, he still lost the rose after all.
The courage to make mistakes
Every time she falls in love, Huang Yimei chooses to give everything she has.
When she went to France to see Zhuang Guodong, she worked hard to learn French, cope with daily life, learn etiquette, and even go to graduate school in psychology; After marrying Fang Xiewen, she did not give up on herself, and chose to continue to study hard and take various qualifications to improve herself.
There are some people who secretly squeeze the youth of others, but they are still secretly dissatisfied that this person has not completely belonged to themselves and has become their own appendage.
And Fang Xiewen hid it so well in the early stage, so good that even Su Gengsheng, who was watching coldly, didn't notice it.
But sadly:
Roses are really too easy to fall into the trap of feelings.
Whether the relationship is really sincere at the beginning or pretended to be sincere, as long as there is a little love, it is easy for her to fall into it and make her burn herself for love.
We can find:
In terms of feelings, roses have actually been raised without dust at the moment.
Feelings are not just blindly giving.
But neither Zhuang Guodong nor Fang Xiewen let her learn how to really grow.
After divorcing Fang Xiewen, Rose got custody of her daughter, returned to Beijing again, and once again started the career she loved.
But in the final analysis, she was able to return to a normal life again because she had the courage to try and make mistakes, but it does not mean that others have.
Instead of choosing between two rotten people, it is better to choose Dumei.
Because, in this world, in addition to using love to enhance self-growth, there are other ways.
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Author: Hua Yuchi, freelance writer, both romanticism and rationalism, focusing on women's growth and emotional writing, inspirational to be a woman who writes hard and loves reading.
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