The night before yesterday, I was lazily nestled on the sofa as usual, with the remote control in my hand, switching TV channels at will, enjoying this rare leisure time.
As for the wife, she was busy packing up her things, and there was a warm and plain atmosphere in the house.
At this moment, his wife's mobile phone rang at an inopportune time, and she stopped what she was doing and picked up the phone.
Just heard her answer a few times with "mmmmmmmmmm
After hanging up the phone, she turned her head, looked at me with a slightly expectant look, and said, "Honey, my best friend said she wanted to come to our house for one night." ”
As soon as I heard this, my brows furrowed instantly, and I blurted out without hesitation, almost without thinking about it: "This is not appropriate!" ”
The wife didn't care, waved her hand with a big grin, and said, "What are you afraid of staying for one night?" ”
The tangle in my heart is like a mess that I can't figure out.
This girlfriend usually has an iron relationship with his wife, but when she lives at home, she always feels unspeakably weird.
I hurriedly sat up straight and tried to analyze it with my wife.
"Honey, it's really not a question of fear. Think about it, our family is such a big place, and suddenly there is one more person, how inconvenient it is! Sleeping at night, our bedroom is so big, we can't let her sleep on the floor, right? And washing, let's just have a bathroom, and you can't grab it in the morning? Moreover, if she is uncomfortable, we will be embarrassed! I said bitterly.
My wife gave me a blank look and said angrily, "You think too much!" What's not to do with girlfriends? She's not been in a good mood lately, she's had a fight with her boyfriend, and there's nowhere to go, what's wrong with us taking her in for one night? This is the accumulation of virtue and good deeds! ”
I still insisted on my own thoughts, and reluctantly said, "That's not going to work!" She's in a bad mood, she can go to the hotel, let's give her this money. After all, the home is our private space, and I really don't get used to it when someone suddenly comes. Besides, what if she moves in and affects our two-person world? ”
My wife was not happy now, her hands were on her hips, her eyes were wide, and she yelled at me, "Why are you so stingy? My girlfriend is in trouble, if we don't help, what kind of friend are we? Why are you so cold-blooded and ruthless! ”
I sighed helplessly, feeling like I couldn't make sense.
"It's not a question of being petty or not, it's a matter of principle.
Think about it, if my brother said to come and stay for one night, would you be happy? ”
I tried to get my wife to put herself in her shoes.
My wife was silent for a moment, as if thinking about my words.
But it didn't take long for me to start persuading me again: "Oh, just one night, let's get over it." She's not going to give us any trouble, I promise. Don't be so shafted! ”
I looked at my wife's determined eyes and knew that it was useless to object, so I had to compromise: "Okay, okay, then this night." But let's talk about it first, let's not take it as an example! ”
In the evening, my girlfriend came with a small bag.
At first, the atmosphere was quite harmonious.
My wife and girlfriends were talking and laughing in the living room, and I was there for me, occasionally interjecting a few words.
But when it's time to go to bed, the problems follow.
There are only two bedrooms in the house, my wife and I have one, and my girlfriend can only sleep on the sofa.
The girlfriend said that it didn't matter, but the expression was obviously a little lost.
I felt guilty in my heart, I felt as if I had really done something wrong.
Lying in bed, I couldn't fall asleep tossing and turning, thinking about it all the time.
The next morning, I opened my eyes in a daze to find that my girlfriend had gotten up early and left.
I didn't say anything when I left, but I always felt that she was a little upset.
My wife complained to me: "It's all your fault, I have to let my girlfriends live, now it's okay, I offended others." ”
I really can't say, whose fault is this?
I'm obviously thinking about this family too, why did I end up becoming mine, didn't I?
As soon as this matter was exposed on the Internet, the comment area really exploded!
It was bustling with all kinds of voices coming and going.
Netizen "Happy Little Angel" said: "This husband is too unreasonable, my girlfriend is in trouble, what's wrong with taking him in for one night?" This wife too, she should communicate well with her husband and don't lose her temper at every turn. Everyone take a step back, the sea and the sky! ”
"Brother Reason" said: "I think my husband's approach is right, the home is a private space, and it is really inconvenient to come to the person suddenly." A wife should understand her husband's thoughts and not just care about her best friend. After all, the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family, and the relationship between husband and wife cannot be affected because of outsiders. ”
Another "emotion expert" commented: "It's really a communication problem. The wife did not fully consider her husband's feelings, and the husband did not understand his wife's friendship with his best friend. If the two sides had discussed it well, perhaps there would have been no such contradiction. The most important thing between husband and wife is to understand and support each other, and to face problems together, rather than blaming each other. ”
"Enthusiastic aunts" also came to join in the fun: "Oh, the little couple has to tolerate each other when they live." This little thing, don't hurt your feelings. Girlfriends are important, but the relationship between husband and wife should be cherished.
Everyone talked calmly, and there was no problem that could not be solved. ”
Some netizens came up with all kinds of strange ideas, such as letting their girlfriends sleep on the balcony and setting up a tent, or simply squeezing three people into a bed, which is really laughable!
A netizen named "Ghost Idea King" said: "You can let your husband sleep on the sofa and your girlfriend and wife sleep in the bedroom, which not only solves the accommodation problem, but also does not make your girlfriend feel left out." ”
There is also a "creative master" who suggests: "Set up a temporary bunk in the living room, spread a thick mattress and quilt, let your girlfriend feel the atmosphere of camping, and maybe make her feel better!" ”
Of course, there are also some voices of reason.
For example, the "thinker" said: "In fact, this incident reflects the contradiction between the social and private spaces of modern people.
We need to care for our friends while protecting our family's privacy and comfort.
How to balance the two is a question worth pondering. ”
Actually, there is no absolute right or wrong in this matter.
The wife wants to help her best friend, showing her kindness and affection;
It is understandable that the husband takes into account the private space and rhythm of life of the family.
It's all about communication and understanding.
When husband and wife encounter problems, they should not only think from their own point of view, but also empathize and understand each other.
If the wife can discuss with her husband in advance, explain the situation of her girlfriend, and let her husband feel her respect and understanding;
Husbands can also listen patiently to their wives' ideas and express their worries and concerns, rather than blindly refusing.
Then, maybe you can find a better solution that can help your girlfriends and make your family harmonious.
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