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My name is Anana, I am 43 years old and I am in Austria.
At the age of 15, I became a national second-class weightlifter, and if nothing else, I could have a medal for the world weightlifting champion.
Just when my life was about to go to glory, my temper came up and I stopped practicing. Later, I followed my mother's arrangement and came to Austria.
Who knows, this wrong choice made me go through a period of blackest and darkest time.
From stepping out of the country and being tortured inhumanely, to accidentally giving birth to a child at the age of 20 and becoming a single mother, I have wanted to jump from a high-rise building countless times......
In the past 24 years in Austria, I have gone from being desperate to becoming a well-known local TCM tuina, receiving pianist Lang Lang twice, and serving the Emirate of Dubai full-time for 3 consecutive days.
But I've always regretted a decision I made.
(I'm in Vienna, Austria)
My name is Ajiao, I was born in 1980 in a small village in Fujian Province.
When I was a child, my family was very poor and couldn't eat rice, so the whole family could only rely on sweet potato bibimbap to survive. Because they were too poor, their parents borrowed money from all over the place, and finally scraped together the money to go out and let their father go out to work. However, since then, there has been no news of my father.
After waiting for year after year, life was really unbearable, so my mother had to entrust my brother and me to my poor grandmother, carrying a debt and going out to work alone.
Mom worked day and night for several years, and finally paid off her debts. Later, in a small street called Mingxi, he opened a restaurant, and at the same time took my brother and me to take care of us while doing business.
Thanks to my mother's hard work, our lives have gradually improved.
When I was about 7 years old, a man came to my mother's small restaurant. I was squatting on the ground playing with stones, and he suddenly became interested in me, deliberately dragged me to his side, teased me in various ways, and provoked me.
(When I was a child)
At that time, I was not afraid of heaven and earth, and I hated the touch of strangers very much, so I grabbed and beat around, trying to break free from the pull of that person, but I still couldn't get rid of his control. It wasn't until I was exhausted that he smiled and said to me, "Good seedling." Then he got up and left.
I was too young to understand that this was my great chance. I pointed at the man's back, sticking out my tongue in anger and grimacing. My mother smiled and said to me, "He's a county official." ”
A few days later, a coach who claimed to be from the county sports committee found my mother's small restaurant and said that he had been introduced by someone else and came to see me.
So, I went to the county seat for no reason and started my career as an athlete.
I was fat and very powerful, and from childhood to adulthood, people treated me like a boy, because I had a small flat head, and I wore men's clothes, and I looked like a boy everywhere I went.
When I arrived in the county, I entered an experimental elementary school, and I usually spent most of my time pressing legs, lifting small dumbbells, and running. Training that is hard in the eyes of others is fun and easy for me.
(Friends who trained together when they were young)
I don't like to read myself, and here, I don't have to ask for academic performance, which is like a fish in water for me. In the past few years, I have been selected to the city and province one after another to train as a key athlete.
I left home when I was 7 years old, and for many years after that, I spent almost all of my time outside. Usually, in addition to training, I play games, and my life is monotonous, but I don't hate it.
At the age of 15, I was already a national second-class athlete, participated in many competitions, and won many awards. Just as I was sprinting for the national competition, I accidentally sprained my back during a training session and had to go back to the city to recuperate.
My sport is women's weightlifting, and the coaches are very optimistic about me, and the coach who took me has won world championships and trained many world champions, and she asked me to go to Xiamen Sports University for further study, while studying and recuperating from injuries, and at the same time preparing for the next national competition.
But at that time, I didn't understand the coach's good intentions, and when I heard that I wanted to study, I was very resistant. The coach pretended to be angry and said, "If you don't study, you won't be allowed to participate in the national competition!" ”
(Holiday in Germany with friends)
I was stubborn by nature, so I didn't want to pay attention to the coach's agitation, so I picked up my luggage and went home. This caught the coach by surprise, and she and the leaders of the sports committee went to my house several times to persuade me to continue to participate in training, but I avoided them, which left them with deep regret.
At that time, I didn't realize that this stubbornness cost me a lot and made me regret it for the rest of my life.
Even today, more than 20 years later, I can't help but reflect on my actions back then.
Later, after experiencing so many ups and downs, I regretted my ignorance and ignorance countless times. And the coach also blamed himself countless times that he shouldn't have used the agitation method, which caused me to say goodbye without saying goodbye.
As soon as I got home, I told my mom that I didn't want to go to sports school. I was 17 years old and didn't know anything about the future.
Looking at me, who looked like a boy, my mother agreed. My mother's idea is very simple, she thinks that I am a girl, and I will always marry someone in the future, and if I continue like this, I am worried that I will not be able to marry in the future.
(I studied beauty and massage in Shanghai)
In my mother's eyes, I am short and fat, I want to be in shape, I want to have no face, and I want to be cultured and uneducated. According to my mother, I wasn't even qualified to serve dishes as a waiter. I was ridiculed by my mother for being useless, which also made me feel inferior.
When I got home, my mother was very strict with me, and she didn't allow me to go out, so she let me stay at home.
I spent two years at home in a daze, and once I brought the girl back from Shenzhen, and after talking to her, I was very eager to get out of the house, but my mother disagreed. She said that there are many bad people outside, and it is not safe for a girl to go out. I said that I would go to Shenzhen to join the girl at home, but my mother couldn't stand my plea and agreed to my request.
Who would have thought that after not going out for a few years, I would meet a liar when I went out. On the train to Shenzhen, I met an eldest sister, and her enthusiasm made me feel very kind, so the ghost messenger followed her to Hainan, and then was pulled into the pyramid scheme.
I followed them around Sanya, Shenzhen and other places for half a year, during which time I met my first boyfriend.
(Learn Thai Massage)
Half a year away, my mother was not at ease and urged me to go home. When I showed up to my mother with my boyfriend, she looked disgusted, and in order to break us up, my mother encouraged me to go to Austria, because my aunt had worked there for many years.
At that time, it was popular in Fujian to go abroad, and as long as there was a way, everyone was vying to go abroad. My mother told me that I had a good job abroad and a good salary, which deeply tempted me.
In order to earn money, I agreed to my mother's proposal. In the end, my brother and I spent a total of 120,000 yuan and went to Austria together.
At that time, my family conditions were much better than most families, and my mother's annual income was more than one million in that era when everyone envied 10,000 households.
But I didn't expect that my mother's decision would make me experience an unbearable time.
In 2000, with a yearning for life abroad and a beautiful vision for the future, I bought a high-end suitcase, wore a beautiful skirt, and pedaled on a plane to Yugoslavia (in 2003, Yugoslavia was divided into two countries, Serbia and Montenegro).
(I got a Thai massage certificate)
The person who took us at that time said that the plane would transfer in Yugoslavia and then go to Austria. We were a group of countrymen, who understood the sinister nature of society, and without any suspicion, they followed.
At that time, Yugoslavia was at war, and as soon as we arrived there, we were monitored by the local government. We had to hide, and we almost got locked up.
The organizers had to hide us in containers, which were covered with goods, and we traveled to several countries.
For two months, we basically walked through the grass, through the forest, and walked on the ridges, but we couldn't walk anymore, so we had to throw away our luggage. In order to better control us, they took everything of value from us, and we were driven forward like animals.
I was wearing high heels, one foot deep and one shallow, and the soles of my feet were already blistered. I cried all the way, I really wanted to go home, but I couldn't go back, all the documents were in the hands of those people.
(Attending a friend's wedding in Austria)
It is really called that the heavens should not be, and the earth is not spiritual. At that moment, I regretted it immensely, if I could turn back, even if I was begging for food at home, I would not want to step out of the country. However, there is no turning back, so I can only grit my teeth and follow them.
What's even more terrifying is that the women who have a little bit of beauty are all ruined by those people. Thankfully, I was small at the time, most people thought I was underage, and I was constantly crying, which upset those people, but no one bothered me.
I thought it was already very bitter, but I didn't expect that when we passed through the Hungary border, there was a conflict between the organizers, and the driver of the big truck who picked us up pulled us to the big shopping mall in the center of the city and ran away on his own.
Just when we were at a loss, the police came and took all of us in jail for two weeks. There, many people were beaten and interrogated, and my brother was slapped twice.
I was so scared that I cried and clamored to go home, but no one paid any attention to me. Many people come out with usury on their backs, hoping to go abroad to earn money, and they are not willing to go back like this. Fortunately, one of the leaders had a conscience and ransomed us one by one and sent us to the Austria border.
(TCM certificate I got in Austria)
In this way, it took us more than two months to get to Austria from home. During this period, I endured all kinds of hardships, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep well, slept in the wilderness were common, and I was afraid of being arrested by the local police.
Once, we spent the night in the forest, where the mosquitoes were so poisonous that we were bitten by mosquitoes and blistered all over our bodies. And our clothes and luggage, because we can't carry them, have long been thrown away, there is no way, we can only shrink into a ball, hold our heads, and be powerless to resist.
It was a miserable time, and every time I think about that experience, I feel unbearable, and I don't know how I got here.
When we arrived in Austria, when my aunt picked us up, we hugged our heads and cried, took a shower at night, and washed out muddy water, you can imagine how much dust we have on our bodies.
I thought that when I arrived in Austria, life would be better, but who would have thought that there were even greater difficulties waiting for me.
Because of the language barrier and the fact that we don't have a legal hukou, we couldn't find a job in the local area. I have a low education, I haven't read much, I can't do a lot of things, so I can only go to Chinese restaurants and supermarkets to do part-time work.
(These are my nobles)
I had been injured in sports training before, and I didn't recover well, and the after-effects prevented me from standing for a long time. Every time I work, my back hurts so much that I can't straighten up, and I can't do a lot of work at all.
Before I knew it, three months had passed, and I was finally able to adapt to local life. An accident once again pushed me into a desperate situation.
Once, my aunt's friend looked at me and said to my aunt, "Is your niece pregnant?" "This question blew me up on the outside and tender on the inside. That's when I realized that I hadn't had a period in months.
I suddenly remembered that before going abroad, my boyfriend lived in my house for a while in order to see me off, and we were in love, and we couldn't help but eat the forbidden fruit. But I never expected that I would win the bid once, and there would be no miscarriage in the two months that were so difficult on the way.
When my mother found out, she scolded me on the phone every day and asked me to beat the child out. But at that time, there was no way to fight, and I wanted to use overload labor to let the child flow out naturally, but the child still grew tenaciously.
(My husband and I got married in a civil union)
Then I thought, since this is fate, let's accept his coming! As I was about to tell the child's father, a woman's voice came from the other end of the phone, and all my words were choked in my chest, and I didn't say a word.
Since then, I have decided to live alone with my children, even though I was just 20 years old at the time, living in my aunt's house, and I didn't even have a life on my own.
Throughout my pregnancy, no one cared about me, and all I faced every day was my mother's scolding, and I had to desperately find work in order to survive.
Many times, I stood on the roof of the building, looking at the bustle and people coming and going downstairs, and couldn't help but sigh: why is life so difficult! At that moment, I really wanted to jump off with my child, I wanted to be completely liberated.
But I'm not reconciled, my life hasn't started yet, how can it end so hastily? So, I gritted my teeth and survived until my son was born safely.
When I couldn't live a life, I once had the idea of giving my child away, and when I found a kind Chinese family for my son, I suddenly couldn't bear it.
(My husband and I are in Barcelona)
I hugged my infant son tightly and burst into tears. I thought of myself, I lived for 20 years, I almost never received the love of my family, my father was nowhere to be found since I was a child, and my mother was always very strict with me.
I didn't want my son to be like me, so I secretly vowed in my heart that I would give my son a home and give him a lifetime of love. I was determined to leave my son with me and raise him alone.
For so many years, I had a hard time with my son, and his father never knew that his son existed. My son once asked me about his father, and I told him, "He didn't know about your existence all along, and now that you suddenly appeared, it will affect his family, and if you really want to find him, I will help you find it." ”
After thinking about it, the son gave up the idea of looking for his father and said, "That's fine." ”
My mother always warned me not to tell anyone that I had children, otherwise I would not be able to get married. I don't agree with my mother's idea, I don't want to cover it up with countless lies because of one lie. To anyone, I never hide the fact that I have a son, and if you want to accept me, you must first accept my son.
(I am in Greece with my husband and son)
I have lived in Austria for 24 years. During this period, because he did not have a residence permit, he hid in Tibet and lived a panicked life every day in order to avoid the inspection of the local police.
I worked as a black household for 5 years, until later, when I met my ex-husband, who, out of sympathy, married me, and I had an identity so that I could apply for a residence permit locally and stay in Austria for a long time.
Although he betrayed me later, I never hated him or blamed him, after all, he gave me warmth and love in my lonely and helpless days, and I am still grateful for his dedication to me and the warmth he gave.
I have experienced a total of 4 relationships and 3 marriages in my life, but in each relationship, the person who accepted me accepted my son very sincerely.
Although I was separated from them for various reasons, they were all precious people in my life, and they all helped me a lot when I was in trouble, and they treated me and my son well. I am very grateful to have met them, especially my current husband, who has always been kind to me and my son.
(In the hotel where the Emirates of Dubai is massaged)
In the past 24 years, I have endured all kinds of hardships, worked as a restaurant waiter, a supermarket porter, and also worked as a handyman......
In 2017, in order to live a better life, I went back to China to study TCM massage, hoping to make a good life by relying on my skills.
Back in Austria, I worked as a professional tuina, a skill that is in demand in Austria. Many locals have improved their sleep and felt good changes in their bodies after coming to my tuina, and they have all liked the Chinese tuina technique.
And because of this skill, I have met friends from all walks of life, because of their word of mouth, I am also slowly becoming well-known.
After learning this skill, my life started to move up, not only did I pay off all my debts, but I also bought 3 apartments in Vienna, one for long-term rentals and 2 for homestays, to receive tourists from all over the world to Vienna.
In 2023, I hosted the famous pianist Lang Lang and his father, who were full of praise for my service and skills, and in the same year, I hosted the Sheikh of Dubai, and many other elites from all walks of life around the world.
(I had dinner with Lang Lang, Austria pianists, and violinists)
In May 2024, Lang Lang came to Austria to perform again, and after giving him a massage, he invited me to a dinner and asked me to watch his performance together.
Just last month, I also hosted the richest Chinese in Austria, because of my professional relationship, I came into contact with elites in different fields, which made me have a higher understanding of my career.
Because of TCM Tuina techniques, I broke through a world in Austria and got the life I wanted. Many times, I think that no matter how difficult life is, there must be a skill, and I must read more books to increase my knowledge and improve my cognition. With these, no matter how difficult it is, there will be a day when you will turn over.
The fundamental reason why I have suffered so much in my life is that I have no education and no education, so my knowledge and vision are greatly limited.
In addition, my mother is a very realistic person, she believes that children must earn money when they grow up, and only when they earn money can they be called ability.
(Invited to see Lang Lang perform)
What she doesn't understand is that only when her children learn real skills can they earn money. And every time I suffer, I always think of my coach, who had planned for my future, and because of ignorance, I failed to live up to her hard work.
Some people say that a person can never earn money beyond what he knows, and my life profoundly illustrates this truth.
My coach obviously helped me plan everything, and I could have had a smooth and beautiful future, but because I didn't know enough, I went through such a tortuous and difficult life.
Fortunately, I also met many noble people in my life, who helped me and encouraged me in various ways, which made me where I am today.
Later, I realized the importance of learning, and I began to put in the energy to study, read, and master and improve a skill. After that, my life became smoother and smoother, and the level of my exposure continued to increase, opening up my cognition.
(I took a photo with pianist Lang Lang)
It's the college entrance examination season again, it is the time when a few families are happy and a few are sad, I want to use my life experience to warn students: you must cherish the opportunity to study in school, study hard, if you are not willing to suffer the hardships of learning, you will suffer the hardships of society in the future.
Life is endless, learning is not stopped, only by keeping learning, our life will have infinite possibilities.
Finally, I wish all students in the world can get their wishes and make their dreams come true!
(Follow me to take you to understand the scenery and folklore of Austria)
[Narrator: Asho]
[Author: Yiren]
[Editor: Drunk Hongyan]
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