Text | Mi Li's mother
Recently, Mi Li's mother has seen many candidates receiving admission notices one after another, and she has begun to fantasize about what it will be like for Mi Li to receive the admission notice many years later.
However, after some people fill in the application, what they are waiting for is not an admission letter, but a judgment.
It all starts in August 2023.
One day in August 23, Xiao Di confidently opened the website to check the admission results.
He already knew when the results came out before that his score was much higher than the school's previous admission score, and he was sure that he would definitely get this admission letter.
However, when he opened the query website, he was dumbfounded, and the system showed that he was not admitted, not because the score was not enough, but because the first choice school code filled in by Xiaodi was invalid.
He quickly confirmed his filling information, and found that the "3482" he originally filled in had somehow become "3082", and he immediately reacted that someone must have changed his will.
Because when filling in the volunteers, Xiaodi's family just recorded this moment with their mobile phones, and they looked through the video to confirm again that Xiaodi was filling in "3482" at that time.
After confirmation, Xiaodi and his family immediately called the police, and they called up the login record from the examination institute, and found that someone had logged in to his account for many days when the system was just opened, and at the last moment before the system for reporting volunteers was closed, Xiaodi had already filled in the volunteer code.
Soon after calling the police, Xiao Di received a notice from the police, telling him that it was his classmate Xiao Luo who logged into his account and tampered with his volunteer.
After the police investigation, it was found that in addition to Xiao Di, Xiao Luo also changed the volunteer codes of six other classmates in the class, including his roommates, friends, and other classmates who were estranged from him and had not spoken a few words, which was a completely indiscriminate attack.
In the eyes of his classmates, Xiao Luo is a little "different".
His family conditions are much better than other classmates, the electronic products he uses are Apple's, every year Apple releases a new mobile phone, he will definitely buy it as soon as possible, and the shoes he wears every day are more than 3,000 pairs of them.
But he is usually silent and introverted in the class, he doesn't like to talk much, and most of the time, he is also cold to people.
Later, he was selected by the teacher as the secretary of the league in the class, and his classmate Xiaoma, who was in the same dormitory as him, said, "The class teacher's courier arrived, he took the courier, and the head teacher broke his foot, so he sent the meal, and if anyone in the class smoked, he complained to the teacher." ”
And Pony found that after becoming the secretary of the Youth League, Luo Shulong "felt like a different person", "very selfish", and "involuted".
Sometimes in the dormitory, the classmates will discuss some questions that they can't do together, and when Xiao Luo asks questions, everyone will be enthusiastic to answer, but when everyone asks him, he will find an excuse to leave.
Once, the teacher told Xiao Luo important information about the internship and asked him to go back to the dormitory to convey it, but Xiao Luo didn't tell anyone.
One thing after another, so that his roommates, who had a good relationship with him, also distanced themselves from him.
When Pony receives another call from Ro, it's from the police station.
On the phone, Xiao Luo apologized to Xiao Ma again and again, saying that he was just a hot brain, because of the different ways of applying for the exam, he could only stay in the local school, so he was especially jealous of those classmates who could go to school in big cities.
And Xiao Luo's decision to "have a hot head" ruined the way out for 7 classmates.
Unlike Xiao Luo's superior family conditions, almost all of his classmates are from relatively ordinary or even poor families.
When they first came to this school, they came for the high employment rate of their higher vocational positions. As long as you are admitted to the higher vocational position of the university, the job search after graduation will be much smoother.
This is also the only way for them to improve the living conditions of their original families and go up.
At that time, a total of 10 students in the class took the exam, and Xiao Luo used the initial password to log in to the account, and finally tampered with the wishes of 7 students, and the other 3 students were lucky to escape because they changed the login password in advance.
However, the lives of the other 7 students were changed at this moment.
Some students were full of confidence and did not fill in the second choice at all, and the final score was much higher than the admission line, but they failed because their choice was changed.
There are also students who are admitted to the lower volunteers, but in the end they do not go to register.
To this day, Xiao Luo's family is still discussing with these students who have been changed their volunteers how to compensate, but they have never discussed a result.
Writing this, Mi Li's mother also sighed.
Yes, how to compensate for the tampered life?
And Xiao Luo naturally could not escape the severe punishment of the law, and he was sentenced to one year and six months in prison.
Sometimes, really don't underestimate the malice of the people around you.
Just because his classmates might want to go to a big city to study, he changed other people's volunteers and let others fall off the list, whether it was a classmate who nodded his head or his roommate who accompanied him every day and night in the same dormitory, he did not escape his black hand.
Sometimes, this kind of bad intentions from the people around you are the most unguardable.
Mi Li's mother once wrote a story about a girl who was maliciously rumored by her classmates, poking "He was expelled from a prestigious school, why did everyone applaud?" 》
The girl was reminded by a friend that her photo had been stolen, and the malicious P picture and pornographic rumors were posted on a strange website, which had a great impact on the girl's body and mind.
The girl was disturbed and reported to the police, and the public security organs imposed an administrative punishment of 10 days of detention on the boy who maliciously spread rumors, and a certain 211 university where he studied also expelled him, and the graduate students who had been admitted were naturally no longer playful.
Everyone left messages below this news and said, very happy!
After discovering that her photo was used to create pornographic rumors, the girl held back her anger and disgust and called the police as soon as possible.
Unexpectedly, after calling the police, new photos on her social media were still being stolen, and she also discovered that she was not the only victim.
The content of these posts caused great damage to the girl's heart, and every time she saw these disgusting P pictures and rumors, she would collapse countless times, and even fall into a long depression because of it.
But this girl did not collapse, but chose to fight back very bravely. She decided to use her own methods to find out the devil who was hiding behind the Internet.
"I vowed to find this man, not just for me, but for the other victims," she said. It is that having experienced such pain, I do not want such a thing to continue and hurt innocent women. ”
The more beautiful the mutual help between girls, the more it shows the obscenity and unbearableness of the rumor-mongers.
She was bold and careful, and contacted several other victims through the clues in the photos, and they narrowed down the scope of suspects after repeatedly checking the methods of mutual friends.
Then, the girl marked the imperceptible subtle differences on the same photo and posted them in the circle of friends in groups, so she found out step by step the people hiding behind the screen to spread rumors.
The girls' operation is simply amazing! But more than that, it's distressing.
From the beginning of the investigation to the discovery of the murderer, it took them 6 months, and no one can understand how many sleepless nights they have experienced in these 6 months.
What hit the girl the most was that this malicious rumor maker was not a stranger, but the girl's former high school president and good friend!
When this inference was reached, the girl was so shocked that she could barely speak.
Because in her eyes, he is honest and excellent, he has always been the class president, and he has also run for the most beautiful middle school student in the province, and the girl also helped him pull votes, he is very popular, has a lot of friends, and has a girlfriend who has been in love for four years.
The girl really can't figure out when the good friend and classmate in the past suddenly rotted?
Sometimes the malice between people is so unreasonable.
Ma Sichun once shared his experience of being bullied on campus on the show.
When she was in junior high school, there was a girl in the class who always said something weird to her, Ma Sichun was a little fat at that time, but she ran very fast, and the other party would say with malice:
"Grow so fat and run so fast!"
Later, Ma Sichun went to Beijing, and sometimes he would write letters to some friends in his hometown, but every time he sent a letter, it seemed that the other party could not receive it, and later Ma Sichun learned that this girl would take away the letter she wrote to her friends in advance every time, and then read it aloud in front of the class.
To this day, the memory of being bullied as a child still comes back to her from time to time, causing her to feel anxious, depressed, and self-doubting.
She never knew why that girl treated her like this, maybe it was just because of a deep jealousy at some point, people's hearts are bottomless, and you can't control this kind of thing that causes others to be jealous.
But sometimes, as long as you are careful to distinguish, there are actually traces to follow.
Just like Xiao Luo, who tampered with his classmates' volunteers, as early as when he found an excuse to deliberately not give lectures to his classmates, and even concealed the news conveyed by the teacher, his selfishness, narrow-mindedness, and jealousy were exposed.
Mi Li's mother once saw that there is a concept in psychology called relative deprivation.
It is said that when people compare their situation with some kind of standard or some kind of reference and find themselves at a disadvantage, there is a sense of deprivation.
This feeling, in turn, can lead to negative emotions, which can manifest as anger, resentment, or dissatisfaction.
It often comes from comparison, whether it is grades, money or life status, when you meet that kind of jealous person, maybe in their eyes, you can't even breathe wrong.
There is a quote in the book "Skins", "Everyone who passes through our lives participates in us and ultimately constitutes us." ”
Therefore, screening fellow travelers is also a necessary survival ability.
A classmate who is always angry with you will definitely not want your achievements to be higher than his.
Mi Li's mother wants to say that she must tell her children not to be with people who don't see you well, and to stay away from people who harm each other.
If you are pinched by others, you must know how to counter and go back, and if you are cheated, you must bravely protect your rights and interests, and when you encounter PUA and yin and yang weirdness, you must have a big heart, which can carry damage and fight back.
Sometimes, you have to be a "hard to mess with" person.
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