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For parents, every time the "beast returns to the cage", there must be no stranger to one sentence: the holiday is a golden opportunity for children to overtake in corners.
But as long as there are children in school at home, this sentence seems to have a kind of magic, pervasive, and full of bits and pieces of life.
And its spearhead is directly aimed at children's learning.
It seems that as long as you work hard in the summer vacation, your head is overhanging, and you will be able to counterattack in the new semester and enter the ranks of top students.
But what about reality?
The reality may be that if we parents use the summer vacation time that should be relaxing and soothing for our children to improve their grades, then it is tantamount to putting shackles on the growth of children.
It not only limits the openness of family education, but also hinders the development of children in all aspects.
It can even make children feel suffocated and cause them to resist.
As education expert Professor Yang Dongping said:
Children usually have the same learning and life in school, and if they want to achieve real transformation and growth, parents should not blindly stare at their children's learning during the summer vacation, otherwise it will only backfire.
I think so.
Therefore, if you want your child to spend a rich and meaningful summer vacation, smart parents will definitely take their child to do 3 things, and you will find that he will get better and better day by day.
What are the three things? Let's find out together.
01. First things first: develop a hobby
There's a hot topic on the Internet: Should you let your child develop a hobby?
Basically, 80% of parents voted in favor.
One of the highly praised answers said this:
I don't expect my child to get a boost in life because he has mastered a hobby, but I know that if there is such a hobby, then he can distract when he is bored, relieve his emotions when he is frustrated, and inspire himself when he is lost......
Yes, as the pressure of competition increases, children seem to be learning to sail in the sea every day, without a single respite.
After more than ten years of hard study, I had to experience the test and hard work of society after graduation.
If you can have a passionate interest at this time, then it will undoubtedly become a little spice in the boring and sour life.
As everyone says: If you have something you love, you can continue to live beautifully.
In fact, at the end of the college entrance examination every year, you can learn about the growth process of those exposed scholars.
It is not difficult for us to find that every excellent child is never a "nerd" who can only brush up on questions and read books, but an interesting soul with rich hobbies.
For example, Zhejiang Xueba Ye Yiming, with a total score of 716 in the college entrance examination, has been the piano accompaniment of the school choir since elementary school, even if he is busy with study, he has never given up his love for music.
Another example is Shaanxi Xueba Lu Yifei, who scored 721 points in the college entrance examination, and she mentioned in the interview that her parents are very supportive of her interests and hobbies.
In the summer vacation of high school, she read the novel "The Three-Body Problem", and since then she has been fascinated by physics, and later participated in a physics competition on her own.
Did you find it? Some things may be more helpful to a child's development and can stimulate a child's potential and talents more than the academic performance itself.
So this summer, you can take your children with you to learn a hobby.
Even if it may not make children successful, it can burst out different power at many points in life.
02. Second thing: Take your child to exercise for an hour a day
For the vast majority of people, many things in their lives are basically hindsight.
For example, if you have a damaged tooth, you know that you can't always eat sugar.
For example, if you are short-sighted, you know how to look less at your mobile phone.
For another example, when the body lights up red, I understand that I need to quit bad habits and exercise from now on.
But in fact, we could have prevented these things in advance.
The same is true for children's growth.
Taking classes at school and doing homework at home are greatly reduced in today's competitive environment, where children can move freely and exercise.
Therefore, many children's physical fitness has buried hidden dangers in this kind of day-to-day learning and life.
When you finally survive the cold window of more than ten years, graduate and work, you may have to experience a long period of sedentary time, and in the long run, the hidden physical dangers accumulated from childhood may gradually become prominent.
Instead of this, it is better to take advantage of the summer vacation and develop a good habit of exercising every day with your children.
On the one hand, it can promote the parent-child relationship, and on the other hand, it can also help the child's physical and mental development to a large extent.
Not only that, Yang Xia, a psychologist at Peking Union Medical College Hospital, mentioned that in the past 30 years, she has treated more than 100,000 problem children.
She found that the reason why many children have poor concentration, procrastinate in doing things, and are full of negative energy every day is not a personality problem, but a lack of exercise.
Therefore, some "health hazards" at the physical level often have a huge impact on children's learning and life.
Rather than this, it is better to take the children with them, so that they can lay a solid foundation for their "physical capital" from an early age.
03. The third thing: read widely with your child
The benefits of reading are self-evident.
However, in past discussions with many parents, many people have raised such a question:
What if I want my child to develop the habit of reading extensively, but my child does not like to read?
Whenever I encounter this kind of problem, I throw back a question to them: As a parent, do you insist on reading at home every day?
In fact, more than 90% of parents can't do it.
If parents can't do it themselves, and can't create a reading environment for their children, then it is basically impossible to ask children to develop habits.
Just like the famous host Dong Qing said:
The kind of person you want your child to become, first of all, you have to be that kind of person.
Therefore, this summer, if you want your child to put down his mobile phone and stop being addicted to games, the best way is to put down his mobile phone first, pick up the book, and set a good example and example for the child, so as to subtly influence them and swim in the sea of books together.
And as children grow up, the accumulation of those readings will slowly show their "power".
It not only allows children to acquire text accumulation and writing ability, but more importantly, it can broaden children's horizons, increase children's cognition, and improve children's thinking ability.
And these, whether in study, life, or future work, may benefit for a lifetime.
In fact, children are like a blank sheet of paper, and the paintbrush for painting colors is in the hands of our parents.
As the educator Montessori said:
Everything we do to a child will come to fruition and will not only affect his life, but also determine his life.
For parents, every summer vacation is not only a test for children, but also a test for our parents.
If we can steer the direction of the good children's boat and give them the right guidance in life, I think they will get better and better day by day.