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In 2002, just as Sun Li's acting career was booming, a chance chance changed the trajectory of her life. That day, she took time out of her busy schedule to watch the program "Hope in the Mountains" broadcast by Chongqing Satellite TV.
In the picture, the story of Xiang Haiqing, a poor student from Wuxi Chengxiang Middle School in Chongqing, deeply touched her.
Xiang Haiqing's family situation is poignant: his mother has been bedridden for a long time, and the family is living in poverty. However, this strong teenager was not knocked down by the predicament.
Not only did he study diligently, but he also took care of his mother in his spare time. The desire for knowledge and hope for the future flashed in Xiang Haiqing's eyes reminded Sun Li of her difficult years.
Recalling her growth process, Sun Li couldn't help but feel emotional. She was born into an ordinary working-class family, and her parents did not hesitate to cut back on food and clothing to support her pursuit of her dance dream.
However, fate did not favor her very well. When she was 12 years old, her parents' relationship broke down, and the ensuing divorce made it difficult for the young Sun Li to follow her mother.
Although she has shown extraordinary talent in dance and has performed abroad on behalf of the country many times, the high cost of further education has forced Sun Li to give up the opportunity to continue to work in the field of dance.
In order to realize her dream, she chose to join the National Art Troupe, hoping to use it as a springboard to achieve something in dance art. However, the gears of fate turned again, and finally pushed her into the showbiz and opened her road to stardom.
Xiang Haiqing's story evokes a deep resonance in Sun Li's heart. She knows the hardships of life and understands that a kindness in the snow can change a person's fate.
After careful consideration, Sun Li made a decision that changed the fate of the two people: she wanted to sponsor this poor student who had never met to complete his studies.
In order not to put unnecessary pressure on Xiang Haiqing, Sun Li decided to fund in the name of her mother. Soon, the first batch of 500 yuan of funding was delivered to Xiang Haiqing.
This seemingly small amount of money was tantamount to a long drought for Xiang Haiqing at that time. The moment he received the funding, Xiang Haiqing was so excited that he burst into tears, and under the witness of his teachers and classmates, he secretly decided to study harder and live up to this kindness from afar.
Sun Li and her mother paid special attention to Xiang Haiqing's studies. Not only do they provide financial support, but they also take care of his living situation from time to time. Sun Li's mother, Aunt Deng, even called Xiang Haiqing in person, and promised to sponsor him until he graduated from college, so that he had no worries.
In addition to her busy work, Sun Li also deliberately asked her mother to mail study materials to Haiqing, hoping to help him in his studies.
However, fate is always full of drama. Two years later, Xiang Haiqing took the college entrance examination for the first time but failed to get his wish, and his mood fell to the bottom. After learning the news, Sun Li's mother, Ms. Deng, immediately contacted Xiang Haiqing, encouraged him not to give up, and promised to bear the full cost of his repetition of the year.
With the support of Sun Li's mother and daughter, Xiang Haiqing regained his confidence and fought for the college entrance examination again in 2004, and was finally admitted to Shanghai Fisheries University (now Shanghai Ocean University) as he wished.
This is the period when the relationship between the funder and the recipient is at its most harmonious. However, no one expected that this well-intentioned funding would soon turn into an embarrassing tragedy of "raising wolves".
In 2004, when Xiang Haiqing was about to step into the university gate, an unexpected truth was revealed: his mysterious sponsor for many years turned out to be the popular star Sun Li.
This astonishing discovery was like a pebble thrown into a calm lake, causing huge ripples in Xiang Haiqing's heart. What was once pure gratitude was unconsciously mixed with more complex emotions.
For Xiang Haiqing, this truth is undoubtedly shocking. He originally thought that he was just being funded by an ordinary well-wisher, but he didn't expect to have such a prominent identity behind him.
This change in perception has quietly changed his views and expectations for this grant.
After entering the university, Sun Li's mother and daughter provided Xiang Haiqing with 500 yuan per month for living expenses. In 2005, the actual value of this money was considerable, about the same as the current $2,000.
For the average college student, this amount of money is enough to cover daily expenses. However, Xiang Haiqing, who had a taste of college life for the first time, did not seem to be satisfied with the money.
He actively participates in campus activities, joins the student union as a class leader, and frequently socializes with his classmates. In the first month of school, his phone bill was as high as 90 yuan.
This consumption method has a significant deviation from Sun Li's original intention of mother and daughter to fund him.
After learning about Xiang Haiqing's expenses, Sun Li's mother, Aunt Deng, was full of worries. She originally hoped to sponsor Xiang Haiqing so that he could focus on his studies instead of putting too much energy into social activities.
In order to understand the actual situation, Aunt Deng even went to the school in person.
After talking with Xiang Haiqing, Aunt Deng euphemistically expressed her expectation: she hoped that Xiang Haiqing would give up her position in the student union and devote more time and energy to her studies.
Behind this suggestion is the funder's high expectation for the future of the recipient.
Faced with Aunt Deng's suggestion, Xiang Haiqing fell into a dilemma. The rich and colorful life of the university has opened his eyes, and it is not easy for him to give up his hard-won position. Like other students, he aspires to devote himself to university life and experience all kinds of new things.
Under the persuasion of his classmates, Xiang Haiqing made a delicate decision: on the surface, he agreed to Aunt Deng's request, but in fact continued to participate in the activities of the student union. This decision has undoubtedly planted a hidden danger between the funders and the recipients, and has caused a rift in the already harmonious relationship.
Xiang Haiqing's attitude reflects the contradiction in his heart. On the one hand, he is grateful for the support of Sun Li's mother and daughter; On the other hand, he wants to be able to organize his life as freely as an ordinary college student.
This contradiction also reflects the problem that tends to arise in long-term funding relationships: the gap between the expectations of funders and the actual needs of recipients.
This turning point not only changed the relationship between Xiang Haiqing and Sun Li's mother and daughter, but also laid the groundwork for the intensification of contradictions later. The original simple funding relationship has become complex and delicate because of the disclosure of identity and the gap between expectations.
It also reminds us that communication and understanding are crucial in a long-term funding relationship, otherwise it is easy to break up the relationship due to different expectations.
One day in 2005, a seemingly ordinary hepatitis B vaccine became a turning point in the funding relationship. Xiang Haiqing's school requires students to be vaccinated against hepatitis B at a cost of 175 yuan.
For ordinary students, this may not be a large amount, but for Xiang Haiqing, who only had more than 20 yuan left at that time, it was a big burden.
Faced with this sudden expense, Xiang Haiqing once again thought of his patron. He recalled that Sun Li's mother had said that he could contact her at any time if he encountered difficulties.
With apprehension, Xiang Haiqing asked Aunt Deng for help again, hoping to advance part of the living expenses.
However, this time, Aunt Deng's reaction was unexpected by Xiang Haiqing. Instead of agreeing as readily as usual, she showed obvious hesitation and doubt.
This reaction made Xiang Haiqing feel confused and disappointed, and also laid the groundwork for the further deterioration of relations between the two sides.
Aunt Deng's hesitation was not for nothing. It turned out that before this, Sun Li's mother and daughter had learned some information from the side that made them feel uneasy. In addition to the monthly subsidy of 500 yuan, Xiang Haiqing also has a part-time income of about 200 yuan.
This was already a considerable number among college students at the time.
This discovery puzzled Sun Li's mother and daughter: since Xiang Haiqing has an extra income, why does she often feel financial pressure? In order to further understand the situation, Aunt Deng even took the initiative to contact Xiang Haiqing's counselor, hoping to understand Xiang Haiqing's actual situation at school from another angle.
Through her conversations with the counselor, Aunt Deng learned some facts that shocked her. It turned out that Xiang Haiqing often wore famous brands such as Adidas and Nike on campus, which was very different from their impression of the poor student in need of funding.
This discovery made Sun Li's mother and daughter feel deeply disappointed. Their original intention in sponsoring Xiang Haiqing was to help a poor student complete his education, not to support him in his pursuit of luxury goods or excessive socialization.
In their opinion, Xiang Haiqing seemed to have deviated from the direction they expected.
As the truth gradually emerged, the conflict between the two sides finally reached a peak in November 2005. Sun Li's mother and daughter felt that Xiang Haiqing had betrayed their kindness, and instead of cherishing this hard-won opportunity, they used the subsidy for non-essential expenses.
On the other hand, Xiang Haiqing believes that the funders have broken their promises. In his opinion, Sun Li, as a well-known star, should have the ability to provide more funding instead of rejecting him when he needed help the most.
In this way, this originally hopeful funding relationship ended in mutual misunderstanding and disappointment. Sun Li's mother and daughter decided to terminate their funding for Xiang Haiqing, while Xiang Haiqing felt abandoned and betrayed.
The ending of this event is embarrassing. What was originally a well-intentioned funding eventually turned into a regrettable farce due to the gap between the expectations of both parties and the lack of communication.
Not only does it reflect on the problems that can exist in long-term funding relationships, but it also reveals the complex side of human nature.
For Sun Li's mother and daughter, this experience made them realize that well-intentioned funding is not just about providing money, but also requires continuous attention and the right guidance.
For Xiang Haiqing, this may have been a painful lesson, making him realize the importance of cherishing opportunities and communicating honestly.
The end of this incident also laid the groundwork for the subsequent public controversy, and became a typical case of public discussion about charity and humanity.
In 2006, a reporter named Qiu Chaoju, who participated in the production of the program "Hope in the Mountains", happened to learn the story of Sun Li's sponsorship of Xiang Haiqing. I wanted to track and report on this heart-warming act of kindness, but I unexpectedly found that the funding relationship had been terminated.
This unexpected discovery sparked Qiu Chaoju's journalistic sensitivity, and he decided to investigate the ins and outs of the matter.
After much deliberation, Qiu Chaoju decided to publish this story in his column. Although only "SL" is used to refer to Sun Li in the article, anyone with a discerning eye can see the identity of the heroine.
As soon as the report was published, it immediately caused an uproar online.
Netizens have stood in line, and their opinions are polarized. Some people accuse Sun Li of being stingy, thinking that as a well-known star, she should provide more funding; Some people also criticized Xiang Haiqing for being insatiable, thinking that he had failed Sun Li's kindness.
For a time, this originally private charity story became the focus of heated public discussion.
In the face of the sudden storm of public opinion, the parties involved are in a predicament. Xiang Haiqing chose to take a year off from school to escape the hustle and bustle temporarily. Sun Li, on the other hand, fell into a rare public relations crisis in her acting career, and she had to face public doubts and criticism, who had always maintained a good image.
The controversy has even caught the attention of cultural celebrities. The famous writer Han Han commented on Weibo, using "It is quite difficult for ordinary people to raise a large dog, why can Sun Li raise a 'wolf'?" To satirize Xiang Haiqing as a "white-eyed wolf".
This further boosted the public discussion about the incident.
This storm of public opinion not only affected the parties involved, but also made the whole society begin to reflect on the problems in the relationship between celebrity charity and long-term funding. It reveals the complex human nature that can be hidden behind good intentions, and it also provokes people to think about how to do good right.
This "wolf breeding incident" has left a deep food for thought in society. The old saying "fighting rice to raise grace and bear rice to raise hatred" is still applicable in modern society, revealing the psychological changes hidden in long-term funding relationships.
Both the giver and the receiver need to be careful about this relationship. For public figures, philanthropy requires more wisdom and prudence.
After the incident subsided, Xiang Haiqing returned to his hometown and lived an ordinary life. This may be the price he paid for "revenge". And Sun Li regained the audience's love through excellent works.
The story eventually became a classic case study for the complex relationship between charity, gratitude, and humanity.
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