Sister Ding, who is in her fifties, is worried when she thinks of her boyfriend, they have been in love for eight years, and they are no different from old husbands and wives, but her boyfriend suddenly wants to break up.
Her boyfriend's name is Hongjie, but in order to show the intimacy between lovers, Sister Ding gave her boyfriend a nickname, called Bao.
Ah Bao is six years younger than Ding's eldest sister, and the two were introduced to each other, and after getting to know each other, they began to talk about middle-aged and elderly love.
Considering that she is old, has had a failed marriage, has a child with her ex-husband, and meets her destined person Ah Bao again, Sister Ding is happy and happy, but she is still more cautious.
She thinks it's good to fall in love and live together, and there is no need to get a license to get married.
At the beginning, she told Ah Bao that the two of them did not get the certificate, they were both old, and she could not have any more children, and it was meaningless to get the certificate.
In this way, Ah Bao packed up his things and moved into the house that Sister Ding bought in the city.
This is also what Sister Ding means, Sister Ding thinks that Ah Bao is a rural person with poor family conditions, and it is the same to live in her house.
It is precisely because of Bao's poor family conditions that he is still single at the age of more than forty, and he has not been married once, even if he met Sister Ding later, but Sister Ding is unwilling to get the certificate.
In the past three years, Ah Bao has been shouting at every turn that his life can't be done, which makes Sister Ding restless, even if Ah Bao runs away one day.
Thinking that she spent so much money on Po, eating her, drinking her, and living her.
If someone runs away, she will be the wronged leader of both people and money.
During this time, something that scared Sister Ding came, and Ah Bao opened his mouth to mention that she had broken up.
Of course, Sister Ding refused.
But Ah Bao didn't care about 3721, he wanted to run away at every opportunity, and was caught red-handed by Sister Ding a few times.
Sister Ding pulled his clothes and didn't let him roll up the bed and leave.
Once, Ah Bao ran out, her heart was like a knife, in the winter, the cold wind was biting, she took a taxi to find someone, and it cost her 500 yuan.
Ah Bao dislikes her for being verbose, having a lot of things, and being exquisite, he can't stand it.
There was no way, she could only ask for help from the program team to help persuade Bao.
When he met Ah Bao, Ah Bao said that after eight years of love, he was about to collapse before proposing to break up.
But as long as the life can go on, who will make a fuss about leaving, it's not his girlfriend who forced him, forcing him to go crazy.
Because she didn't believe in him and thought that he was going to betray him, she took all kinds of measures to keep an eye on him.
For example, when she went out several times, she would wrap a tissue around the doorknob, and when she came back, she found that the tissue had fallen on the ground or was missing, and began to question him.
Or, where did the tissues go?
Or, why did the paper towel fall off?
He patiently replied that the doorknob was already a little slippery, and it wouldn't last long with a little paper towel wrapped around it, and it would fall to the ground on its own.
There is a wind blowing in the house, who knows where the wind blows!
From the time she went out to the time she came home, he didn't go out or touch the doorknob.
It doesn't make any sense to make such a mark.
He told the truth, but his girlfriend didn't believe it, stared at him and said, he must have gone out, or the tissue would be like this!
must have taken advantage of her absence to do something unseemly.
There are a lot of small things like this, and although they can't cause physical harm, he feels a lot of pressure in his heart and feels suffocated.
He didn't betray her, it was she who was suspicious and couldn't listen to her explanation.
The mediator felt incredible and asked Sister Ding if she had ever done such a thing?
Sister Ding dared to act boldly and directly admitted that she did so.
There's a reason for that, though.
She doesn't like to play cards, and he always urges her to go out to play cards.
It's good to stay at home, so why waste time playing cards?
He was clearly trying to find a way to break her apart.
In order to find out, she tried to cooperate once, went out to play cards, and at about five o'clock in the evening, she slowly returned home.
As soon as the door opened, the room was spotless and neatly tidy, while Po lay on the sofa to rest.
This is an anomaly.
You know, no matter how messy the house is, Ah Bao turns a blind eye, she asks him to clean and mop the floor, but he doesn't do it.
That day, he was so self-conscious, she had a bad premonition in her heart.
In order to confirm the truth, for a few days, she once again deliberately cooperated with his urging and continued to go out to play cards.
In those days, when she came home at five o'clock in the evening, the house was cleaned up.
People who don't like housework suddenly start doing housework diligently, they must want to destroy some evidence.
While she wasn't at home, he must have brought the woman back.
If you don't clean it up, it's easy to leave some evidence.
So, when she went out again, she wrapped tissues around the doorknob.
Hearing his girlfriend's words, Po held his head in both hands, looking very painful.
When it eased up, Ah Bao opened his mouth to explain that he just saw her bored at home, and he loved to chatter, thinking about going out to play cards more, maybe people were in a better mood and their state would be better.
Who knows, her suspicion has become more serious, suspecting that he has bad intentions, explaining, and saying that he is quibbling.
This is her home, she can stay as much as she likes, how could he break her up!
What's more, he didn't step on two boats, what did he do with her!
Let's be more realistic, whoever steps on two boats will take a third party back to his girlfriend's house, how can anyone be so stupid!
He swore that if he had stepped on two boats, he would not be human.
Moreover, she is already strong and assertive, and she can do whatever she wants, and others can't stop her.
When it comes to playing cards, she doesn't want to do it herself, and it's useless for him to propose!
In fact, he is not lazy, he is willing to do housework or something.
Why doesn't my girlfriend do hygiene at home?
Because, she loves to point fingers, and she has to listen to her arrangement when sweeping the floor, where to start sweeping, and how to sweep.
She didn't have to arrange these at all, he knew how to do it.
Doing housework, everyone has their own rhythm, and they know where to start doing it, and at this moment, someone suddenly ran out to arrange, which disrupted his plan and pace.
He didn't listen, and she said that this was not good, that was not swept, that was not swept, and repeated it a dozen times.
I was so annoyed to listen to it that I simply didn't do it.
And as soon as she went out, he was free to do housework, and naturally cleaned up.
The mediator also understands that there are some things that have indeed been disturbed or forcibly arranged, and the other party is unwilling to do them.
It's like cleaning the living room, people have this plan, you have to jump out and point fingers, the other party is upset, but they don't want to do it.
At this time, you complain about laziness.
The contradictions between the two sides will come, in fact, they are all small things, just change the way of communication.
Sister Ding took the initiative to ignore Ah Bao and the mediator's words, and said to herself that she just put some tissues on the doorknob, and she couldn't get in the way of him!
If he doesn't allow it, that's to be a thief.
In other words, if he monitors her 24 hours a day, she can be happy, she is not afraid of shadows, and she is not afraid of being monitored by others.
Freedom is nothing.
She is not afraid of losing her freedom.
He is so sensitive, it is nothing more than a ghost in his heart.
Po reluctantly said that he couldn't talk about her.
The mediator also felt that Sister Ding was a little too much, and there was no actual evidence, so why did she say that people had outside intentions?
And it's really not nice to be watched, and you don't want to have an eye on you behind your back.
Whether it is love or marriage, you need to have a certain amount of free space, private space, which is also a kind of respect for your partner.
Trust is one of the basic conditions for love, she is so suspicious, the other party will inevitably feel pressure.
Sister Ding waved her hand, this was not the suspicion caused by his attitude, it felt very wrong.
But if he does well, treats her well, and is attentive and thoughtful, she will not make a mark, nor will she guard against him.
A few years ago, she didn't make these marks.
At that time, Ah Bao treated her considerately, and he was very attentive to her affairs, and took the initiative to ask her if she needed help, and he could keep up with her actions.
But in the last three years, everything has changed, and she has begun to yell at her and sing the opposite.
She bought a new dress, happily wore it on her body, and said to Bao, how beautiful!
He pursed his lips and said coldly, the clothes are good-looking, who doesn't look good in them!
Contrary to her words, the good mood disappeared all of a sudden.
Compared with Ah Bao in previous years, judging the two of them, how good he was back then, he spoke sweetly, and he was patient, and he didn't think she was annoying.
called, all slowly, chatting for a long time, she hung up first, and then he hung up the phone.
He also said that a bachelor like him, who is not married and has no children, can give his heart to her and spend time with her.
If she finds a divorced man again, people have children, where do they have the heart to coax her and accompany her, and they will accompany the children first.
She listened with joy in her heart, and it seemed to make a lot of sense.
Now, there is a big gap in her heart.
In fact, she said that he had an outside heart, and it was not completely without evidence.
Three years ago, she saw him playing cards with a woman, and he sat very close.
When the others dispersed and they came home, she said directly, Bao, stay away from others, she is a little jealous, don't go to play cards in the future.
Ah Bao was not happy, thinking that she was in charge too much, and scolded her, maybe he hated her in his heart.
For the sake of this woman, they had many unpleasant troubles, and Ah Bao was stupid, and he couldn't talk about her, so he thought about running away.
And she, every time she stopped him from running, she was pushed by him and stomped her feet.
Po thinks that his girlfriend is making a big fuss, the position of the table is fixed, everyone is at the same distance, and no one is close.
When he was playing cards, he didn't pay attention to these inconsequential things, he only cared about the cards in his hand and thought about how to win others.
As for the person next to him, or who it is, it has nothing to do with him.
If he had an outside heart, the whole family would be doomed.
The girlfriend said everywhere that he had a situation with the woman, and he didn't know what to do.
Sister Ding said again that the woman was very hot to him, and of course she was not at ease.
She never told outsiders that her boyfriend had an outside heart, or anything else.
How can this kind of thing be talked about everywhere.
She believed in her boyfriend's personality at first, but she didn't trust women outside.
Ah Bao also said that when others came to the house to persuade them to reconcile, his girlfriend told them that he was sorry for her and went out to hook up with other women.
Annoyed, she strangled him by the neck.
Sister Ding was not happy, she didn't have the idea of strangling him, she spent a lot of money on Ah Bao, and it was not good for her!
Do you know, good baby.
Eat, drink, and Lazar, she has it all by herself, Ah Bao wants to buy a necklace, and she readily buys it.
Po said to buy gifts for his mother, and she didn't hesitate to pay for it.
Every Spring Festival, she gives Bao 5,000 yuan for the festival.
Ah Bao thinks that the money spent by his girlfriend is not spent for him, and it is unrealistic to say these things.
Eating and drinking Lazar, he is not alone in eating and drinking, she also has a share.
His mother's gift, he didn't open his mouth, she bought the rest herself, and added a small change.
If she doesn't ask him to go out to work to earn money, she should spend some necessary household expenses.
Sister Ding hurriedly said, when will she not let him go out to work?
She helped him get him a light job as a security guard, and he didn't want to go.
I found another easier job, bought him a suitcase, daily necessities and living expenses, but he worked there for a few days and then quit again.
Wasted her mind and money.
She was not angry, patiently called him home, and kindly persuaded him to relax and look slowly, and he would definitely find a suitable job.
He also said that he wanted to go to another place, and she agreed, but he still couldn't do it and didn't get a penny back.
Po said he really didn't want to work in the neighborhood and went out to look for work.
The salary here is not high, and he wants to go to other places to earn more money.
The reason why he couldn't make money when he went to other places can't be blamed.
His girlfriend called him every day, making thirty calls a day, killing him like a serial chain, and he couldn't work hard.
It's so suffocating, he just wants to break up now, and the two obviously can't get by.
Sister Ding refused, she couldn't break up, she paid too much, and breaking up was a liar, cheating money and sex.
She made thirty calls, also because he didn't answer, and she could only keep typing one until he answered.
He was the first to take it, and there were twenty-nine left, which naturally did not exist.
The mediator believes that both have problems and need to learn to reflect on themselves.
Po don't be in a hurry to break up, wait until you think it through, and then decide what to do.
And Sister Ding, don't be too impatient, don't force others to do things, and give others a little more freedom and space.
In the end, both sides are willing to run in for a while and then think about what to do next.