Friends who have been in contact with me know that I will not promise to make it back in seven days, or a month, this kind of thing is not good, it is very brain-dead. Because redemption is always a one-man affair.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
I will only do my duty to tell you what the problem is, which direction you can try to start, what problems you need to pay attention to in the process, step by step to increase your probability of success until you succeed.
This process is really hard, and many people will feel that it is not worth it, it is obviously the other party's fault, why am I suffering here.
I'll just tell you that it's you who want to redeem it, that's all
In the process of redemption, you must have enough patience and perseverance, and do not give up easily because of temporary setbacks or cold responses from the other party.
There is a saying that I very much agree with, that is, before making a recovery, you must understand that the result of recovery does not depend entirely on your own efforts. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, learn to accept reality and learn from it to better face your future love life.
For your ex, they don't want to change anything for your pain, the only thing they want to change is to break up with you early. In the eyes of the ex, they don't want to solve anything, they just want to solve you.
So it's really ridiculous for people who want their ex to change to cater to themselves.
And then for those who are immersed in grief after a breakup, if grief is addictive to you, then you should hide in it and not come out. Anyway, all you miss is sadness, not wanting to get it back as soon as possible.
I can understand your feelings, but I don't think this is the reason why you have been indulging in it, getting rid of sadness is the first step for you to recover, you can try to divert your attention, talk to friends, go to exercise to soothe your mood, etc.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Redemption is your own business, since you have decided to redeem, then let yourself come out, more calm and rational reflection, redemption is not based on a passion, but on the psychological game of calming down.
Many people always feel that after a breakup, they have to let the other party see their sincerity, which is a bit similar to the other party needs a pear, you have to give the other party an apple, and say: Look, I care more to you.
If you go in the wrong direction, no matter how hard you go, it will be in vain.
There are also people who have a grudge against their ex because of this, feeling that they have paid dignity and effort, and the other party is so ruthless, which is too unreasonable.
If you also have such thoughts, you look more to yourself for the reason, and you think about what your efforts and dignity will be in the eyes of the other person?
Or think about it, if the other party doesn't get back together, then can you start as a friend? Is it that your topic is not to your ex's appetite? Or am I too boring? Find the reason from yourself, you will find that there is a way out everywhere, and if you look for the reason of your ex, you will find that you will always encounter a dead end.
When you redeem, give up your small actions, don't give up being your original self in order to redeem yourself, don't make a long talk about reconciliation, don't be humble and flattering, you just let the other party dislike it, you still keep belittling yourself, don't you find that the relationship is getting farther and farther?
There are also some people on the contrary, who dare not do anything, whose thin skin is not as thick as paper, and no one can help you in a situation like you, you can try to pray to God and worship Buddha, and see if it is possible for the other party to come directly to ask you to reunite.
There are also some people, the reason for the breakup is very realistic, the other party's parents dislike you for being poor, it's useless for you to find me, the realistic factor is solved realistically, if you have this time to come to me, it's better to go and deliver a takeaway, and what you hold in your hand is where your confidence lies.
I've written so much about redemption, and there will always be people who will come to me and tell me that they don't know how to do it, and I advise you to be diligent, turn forward, and think as you learn.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
To be honest, if you want to harvest love, you also need your own efforts, don't pin your hopes on anyone, only by improving yourself and allowing yourself to see higher and farther, you can really grasp the route of redemption.
Redemption is your own business, and it is also a good opportunity for you to grow, and the people who can finally redeem success are people with strong hearts.
There are some people who want good feedback from each other after a little effort, these people should give up early, there is nothing easier than giving up, saving some time to find the next one, is your better way out.
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